Tell Or Not

[hazelf1]

Tickling is all things to all people, but is considered a fetish.

I always come clean and state my position in cyber but in the real world coming out is a different thing altogether and i tend to play my cards close to my chest till i'am certain of the reaction i may get.

What sort of things have you expearienced when dealing with this situation.

I intend to raise a blog so my line of thought is available and this may help others or at least be worthy of comment.

Remembering that i'am not only into tickling, but bdsm and i'am also bisexual.

Treble the problems possibly but the same priniciple.

 

[Blue Shift]

In the real world I'm pretty guarded about it, but I've also never felt much of a need to tell people either. Same with online, really.

 

[MistressValerie1]

I never discuss it online or in real life except with those who already know or need to know.

 

[Kujman1]

I go along with Valerie on this own for the most part- while I've been into the BDSM, strict bondage, and SM communities in the public eye since my teens.. and helped tickling to come out of those fetishes... I've been quiet about it at work or with those that simply do not need to know. If they're not going to be a part of my play life or playstyle, I can't see why they would need to have that information.

However with those that I would be involved with, relationship-wise or play-wise, I am always definitely up front and open about it. This is where 90% of relationships in the TK world fail. They hide it from spouses/partners. Most every bdsm couple I've ever met were open about it and sought out someone in that particular field. Not Ticklers. Ticklers think they can turn their spouses on to this sport and that they'll learn to love it. No way. It's wired in you at birth. You can't teach it or make them learn it. Oh they may do it... but it won't be with the passion or desire you wish it to be.

Keeping your cards close to your chest as you say can be a smart move in many ways.

BTW- I don't even consider TK a fetish anymore. Not after it's become the joke it has.

Kuj
Same for close friends. They may claim to be open-minded and will listen if you spill your guts... but behind your back they'll roll their eyes... and might even try to talk you out of it because they- like most in this world- have nothing but the stereotypical version of what we do implanted in their heads.

 

[sweetpiggy221]

I have a blog and a free webs.com website about my love and passion for tickling. In my opinion, I could care less how people think about me and what I like. I notice that having the site was a Great idea. I met some really nice people that was happy to know that they weren't alone with the fetishes that I have and people enjoy watching my vids in comparison to the mainstream tickling vids that are out there in the community.

In the end, the decision is yours hun. Go with what you want. I only post my url on fetish websites. So far my site been up for about a year and none of my friends and family found out about it.

 

[Darkness Angel]

For me, tickling is fun, not something sexual. I know I'm probably the only one here who doesn't view tickling as a fetish, but hey, that's what makes me so unique. As far as telling someone that I love being tickled, since it's not a personal turn on, it's not so hard. Anyone that I feel comfortable enough with, I'll try and instigate a tickle fight. Sometimes it leads to tie up and tickle games, other times it's just a quick, few tickle pokes and prods every now and again.

 

[Mash]

I've only told one other person.

I am incredibly terrified of the reactions I might get.

 

[mgfox1]

I share the fear that most people do. The fear of being judged. Heck even saying tickling feels strange to me.

Only on two occasions have I let another know about my fetish. These two women I felt very close to. I don't use the word love lightly and that was exactly how I felt about these two. Both were very comforting about it and didn't freak out as some people might think happen. Both allowed me to explore my fetish to some extent. Unfortunately neither relationship worked out.

I think the main thing to remember is that if you truly love the person you are with and they love you back you should be able to let them know your secret.

 

[juanmiller]

I would only think to mention it if I was in a relationship with the person, or if it was highly relevant to a conversation with a trusted friend. Other than that, I don't see any need to talk about it. Why would it matter?