Telling your girlfriend?

[love feet]

I just went through this with my girlfriend, and I was nervous....but then after talking to a few people here, I got the courage and realized she wouldn't see me any different...and it's been great ever since 🙂

I'm not saying this is how she'll react, because of course I don't know her, or your relationship.

as for your other question, yes, i'd be totally okay with a significant other having a fetish that I didn't have...my gf definatly has a few 'kinks' of her own that I tend to, and she in return tends to mine..

good luck!

It can be very nice when it works!!.

 

[HallowedGround5]

It's a tricky situation. Having experienced your situation a couple times, my advice would be to just tell her.

 

[GQguy]

I might be a little out there.......

But why is SHE your girlfriend? Date around. Get to know numerous women. There's no point committing to one woman at this time. You'll be better able to see who you're more compatible with by doing this. You'll be surprised by how open some women can be and how closed minded others are. As opposed to spending months committed to the crappy one's buying dinners and wasting time you could spend more time with the cool ones. Oh...if a girl likes you tickling is the least of her concerns. As long as you respect her limits of course! So be a likeable attractive guy...whatever that means to the girls you like. (if you follow this advice always practice safe sex and don't lead anyone on)

As for telling women about your "fetish". It's no biggie. I'd say don't tell them until you've been intimate. Why? Because after being intimate she'll know you don't need tickling to have good sex. Tickling is just an added bonus. Don't use the word fetish. It's weird in many circles. Only women sound cool saying they have a fetish. Guys just sound creepy. Connect tickling to your girl. "I like tickling YOU". "It turns me on to tickle YOU". This makes your partner part of your love for tickling. It's not your "fetish"...it's our "fetish". Saying things like "you're so cute when I tickle you" and following it up with good love making where she climaxes will do wonders. Soon she'll associate tickle play with great sex. Everyone wins. Always think...."what's in it for her"

bottom line. Tickling isn't a big deal people! The more serious/ashamed you are about expressing it to others the more serious and shameful it becomes.

Some will find this controversial but here I go! You're a man. You're the leader in your relationship. If you're not confident about something she'll be even less confident about it. If you're not comfortable with something, she won't be either. Be confident and be the man. Tickling is cool and fun and flirty...the embodiment of what the early stages of a relationship should be. Lead the way!

 

[TKL_Rebel]

First of all, you shouldnt have even gotten involved with a girl unless you found this out ahead of time. what if she doesnt want anything to do with it?

i cant stress this enough....


honestly... from experience... the best way to bring it up is in a casual conversation. If you sit her down and say

"i need to tell you something, its very important and i hope your not put off by me!"

Think how tense that situation is gona be and she could then be disgruntled by that conversation rather than your fetish....

but if this is gna be the first person you tell, ofcourse your going to be nervous....

I tell nearly every girl i start talking too and could see a potential future with at a very early stage, problem with this is that some girls will tell you that it turns them on also just to intice you even more... this has happened to me before...

 

[brainiac]

It is a gamble no doubt about it. It is part of your life so there is no reason to keep it a secret forever, it takes time to see how much the other person is open to things. Mine was just luck I guess. I am in a relationship with a beautiful woman and when we started getting physical I held off tickling her. I started by tickling her a little here and there, she always whimpered in a cute way and told me to stop that she didn't like it. Then when having a discussion about what she could do to make me happy during "playtime" I told her I wanted to tickle her, especially with her being tied down. She has a cute supprised look on her face for a little bit and then said "Ok, that sounds interesting." I was shocked, she turned around completely about her views when she found out I really liked doing that, now it turns her on to have it done. We have only worked up to five minutes straight but he fact she keeps trying is awesome.

You have to tell the other person, if they leave because of it than they really didn't love you anyway. Since it is part of who you are if you are in a relationship they should at least let you play with it sometimes if they don't care for it.