The connection between....

[featheredfeet]

I've made a couple posts before, but this is my first new thread start!

I have been hearing people talk about the connection between lee and ler, and how they would feel comfortable being tickled by everyone. I understand this from the standpoint of specified gender (e.g. I am a male who likes to be tickled by women and wouldn't particularly enjoy being tickled by a man), but other than that im kinda confused by what is meant by this? Is it something like love (where it is an emotional feeling based off of time spent with each other) or lust (immediate physical attraction) or something completely different?

I am a tickle virgin, in the sense that I have never had a "tickling experience" that has lasted more than 30 seconds or been some kind of consentual, so that might be a reason for my ignorance . Honestly, and again this might be my ignorance talking, but i would be up for tickling almost anyone lol. Would appreciate not only self-reasoning, but personal insight...thanks guys gals!

 

[Carsomyr]

Just from my (fairly limited) personal experience, wether it is short tickles or a longer session it becomes 10 times as fun/awesome if there is good personal chemistry involved. Besides, at least to me it is a pretty intimate thing, as it's deeply rooted in my sexuality. With that in mind, yeah I wouldn't really want to have a session with just any random person. Besides, some elements to tickling, such as bondage (if you use that) take a LOT of trust, and trust is something you don't exactly just earn over night. So depending on what you want out of the session (and what you want it to involve), building a 'ler-'lee "connection" can take some time.

Furthermore, at least to me tickling is kinda a display of affection, so again I would feel weird tickling someone I wasn't at least good friends with.