WhyNotNow?
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Hi there. I've been into this stuff for pretty much my whole life, but I haven't interacted with the community hardly at all. I've only made a few posts here and I've just about never actually engaged with other people. IDK, it's just always felt like something very private to me.
But recently I've committed to exploring more, and being more engaged, and interacting more with the community. So here I am.
I am a switch at heart, but f/m was my first exposure to this world and remains my first love. But I've noticed a real gap between what attracts me to f/m tickle torture and what the market for such content provides. The more I've committed to really analyzing my interest in tickle torture, the more obvious it's become to me how male-centered the market for tickle torture material is.
I do want to be clear that I'm not criticizing producers or consumers. If everybody felt like I do then the demand and the supply would go up. The fact that the market doesn't cater to me just means what I'm getting out of this is different than what a lot of other people are getting out of it.
My infatuation with being tickle tortured by a woman, I've found, is almost entirely dependent on how much gratification she gets from the infliction of it. I'm drawn to the idea of a woman feeling intimate enough and caring enough to commit to the idea of breaking my will and my mind through the application of tickling (or other pleasurable sensations). Of her getting to know my mind and body well enough to truly torture both of them right to the edge. My interest in all of this is directly related to hers.
But when I try to find f/m content that reflects that, it just seems so obvious that my understanding of this kink is not what this market is catering to. Where my obsession with f/m tickling is centered on the experience of the 'ler, almost all of the material I can find clearly centers the guy's experience. That's not to say the women aren't willing participants or having a good time, but it's the dude who by and large ends up getting off on it (in fact a huge portion of these videos end with the guy literally getting off on it). The guy is the one who's depicted as being "into it." His experience is centered.
There are some exceptions. I dearly love Yahara's work at X-feathers, and if any of this resonates with you you should check it out. You can tell every time she tortures a helpless guy that she's doing it because SHE likes it, not because HE does. His desires are immaterial, she's going to do what she wants until she's satisfied and that's that. He's an object of her pleasure, not the other way around. There are a few other examples that hop to mind, but they're the exception that proves the rule. Unless there's some treasure trove of female-centric f/m stuff out there, I'm just more and more convinced it doesn't exist. And if that's true then I suppose what I'm saying is maybe there are two different species of f/m tickle kinks.
I'm excited by the thought of a woman being excited by torturing me. I guess maybe that's not the same thing as being excited by a woman torturing me. Does that make sense, or am I rambling? I guess what I'm saying is, the key elements of all this for me are 1. a woman who derives immense gratification from inflicting these sensations on a man, 2. obviously the restraints and time required to make the lee really feel and experience the torment and suffering, and 3. a content producer dedicated to centering that ler's experience in the whole enterprise.
Or maybe I'm just overthinking like always, but this has been my (long, at least as a consumer/lurker) experience in this world. I suppose I intend this thread to be a conversation prompt, a market plea, a request for recommendations if this reminds anyone of any content they're aware of, an introduction of sorts to the TMF community (hi!), and maybe a personal ad too (hey.) if this resonates with you 'lers.
Anyway, this site has given me a lot of entertainment over the decades, so thanks.
But recently I've committed to exploring more, and being more engaged, and interacting more with the community. So here I am.
I am a switch at heart, but f/m was my first exposure to this world and remains my first love. But I've noticed a real gap between what attracts me to f/m tickle torture and what the market for such content provides. The more I've committed to really analyzing my interest in tickle torture, the more obvious it's become to me how male-centered the market for tickle torture material is.
I do want to be clear that I'm not criticizing producers or consumers. If everybody felt like I do then the demand and the supply would go up. The fact that the market doesn't cater to me just means what I'm getting out of this is different than what a lot of other people are getting out of it.
My infatuation with being tickle tortured by a woman, I've found, is almost entirely dependent on how much gratification she gets from the infliction of it. I'm drawn to the idea of a woman feeling intimate enough and caring enough to commit to the idea of breaking my will and my mind through the application of tickling (or other pleasurable sensations). Of her getting to know my mind and body well enough to truly torture both of them right to the edge. My interest in all of this is directly related to hers.
But when I try to find f/m content that reflects that, it just seems so obvious that my understanding of this kink is not what this market is catering to. Where my obsession with f/m tickling is centered on the experience of the 'ler, almost all of the material I can find clearly centers the guy's experience. That's not to say the women aren't willing participants or having a good time, but it's the dude who by and large ends up getting off on it (in fact a huge portion of these videos end with the guy literally getting off on it). The guy is the one who's depicted as being "into it." His experience is centered.
There are some exceptions. I dearly love Yahara's work at X-feathers, and if any of this resonates with you you should check it out. You can tell every time she tortures a helpless guy that she's doing it because SHE likes it, not because HE does. His desires are immaterial, she's going to do what she wants until she's satisfied and that's that. He's an object of her pleasure, not the other way around. There are a few other examples that hop to mind, but they're the exception that proves the rule. Unless there's some treasure trove of female-centric f/m stuff out there, I'm just more and more convinced it doesn't exist. And if that's true then I suppose what I'm saying is maybe there are two different species of f/m tickle kinks.
I'm excited by the thought of a woman being excited by torturing me. I guess maybe that's not the same thing as being excited by a woman torturing me. Does that make sense, or am I rambling? I guess what I'm saying is, the key elements of all this for me are 1. a woman who derives immense gratification from inflicting these sensations on a man, 2. obviously the restraints and time required to make the lee really feel and experience the torment and suffering, and 3. a content producer dedicated to centering that ler's experience in the whole enterprise.
Or maybe I'm just overthinking like always, but this has been my (long, at least as a consumer/lurker) experience in this world. I suppose I intend this thread to be a conversation prompt, a market plea, a request for recommendations if this reminds anyone of any content they're aware of, an introduction of sorts to the TMF community (hi!), and maybe a personal ad too (hey.) if this resonates with you 'lers.
Anyway, this site has given me a lot of entertainment over the decades, so thanks.
