The fetish a cause for depression?

[total-individua]

I haven't been here for very long, but quite a few of the people on this forum seem to either be battling depression or just recovering from depression.

I don't know for sure, but is it just people in America (since that's where most of you are) get more depressed than in Australia, or do we get depressed from not fitting in all the time?

I just came back from my psych session, she reckons I feel depressed from a lot of things. I kind of, make myself different, set myself up as a target for people. Apparantly I feel depressed cos I can't fit in, cos I'm too different, and I can't fit in with other people because my sexuality takes over my life.

I'm just wondering if there is a large link with depression and fetishes, or if it's just me exaggerating what I've been seeing, whether I'm seeing it as more intense as it actually is.

I want to hear other people's opinions on this; it's really important to hear what other peoples' thoughts are on the "issue".

Katje.

 

[godoy1030]

I believe fetishes are a source of depression. My foot fetish is a large source of my depression.

 

[maniactickler]

I wouldnt say my tickle/foot fetish leads me to depression, but at times it does get me down. it limits my choices for women drastically. i wont go out with a woman who doesnt have nice feet, or who isnt super ticklish. there arent many of those around. especially here in Mass.

 

[ObservingEgo]

That's bullshit!! Depression is a whole lot more than feeling sad. Depression is a reduction of your energy, your mood, your ACTION... basically your inner and outer life. Keep posting here and wasting your time with your thousands of messages instead of getting out and talking that much with the women in Mass and for sure you'll reduce!! I find it very difficult to believe there aren't many beautiful ticklish women with nice feet in Mass!! I'm certain there are more beautiful ticklish women with nice feet in Mass than there are here! Work on developing a sense of humor and some spontaneity, and learn how to touch a woman... you'd be surprised how many are real ticklish.

 

[daryl]

I wouldn't say that the fetish can lead to depression, but your reactions to it and you're thinking about it can. If you're thinking about it differently, depression is much less likely.

 

[Musicroxmysox]

I really don't feel the two have anything to do with each other. If they do though it is only in the sense that when I am going through one of my depressions that I lose interest in tickling and all that goes with it. However I think that a lot of people on here say they are depressed because they can't find someone to tickle, but its completely different then someone like me because I am actually diagnosed with depression and anxiety and when you have that it truly affects everything in your life.

 

[TickleGuy4U]

If someone's depressed, perhaps being tickled could provide relief, even if the effects are just temporary!

 

[maniactickler]

That's bullshit!! Depression is a whole lot more than feeling sad. Depression is a reduction of your energy, your mood, your ACTION... basically your inner and outer life. Keep posting here and wasting your time with your thousands of messages instead of getting out and talking that much with the women in Mass and for sure you'll reduce!! I find it very difficult to believe there aren't many beautiful ticklish women with nice feet in Mass!! I'm certain there are more beautiful ticklish women with nice feet in Mass than there are here! Work on developing a sense of humor and some spontaneity, and learn how to touch a woman... you'd be surprised how many are real ticklish.

I wont waste my time meeting women unless i know they are ticklish and love it. the best way to find out in my mind is online. im not the type of guy that can meet women in real life and come out and ask them if they are into tickling right away.

 

[method11236]

Depression is a condition invented by American shrinks to make you feel weak, so that you'll buy expensive solutions. Suck it up. Life sucks. You suck. Get it together, cause nobody is going to do it for you.

 

[Musicroxmysox]

Depression is a condition invented by American shrinks to make you feel weak, so that you'll buy expensive solutions. Suck it up. Life sucks. You suck. Get it together, cause nobody is going to do it for you.

Ok method, maybe you think it is but its really not. Depression is real and it affects everything in ones life for someone who has it. Imagine trying to live life but having to force yourself to do everything it is that needs to get done. You have no satisfaction or desire to continue and basically wish you were dead. So why don't you and your little comment go out and spend 15 years like I have living that way. Then tell me if depression is made up!.

(Sorry to everyone else on this thread but this just got me very very angry and I needed to respond.)

-Music.

 

[Mistress Aura]

People who have never experienced true depression would really have no concept of what it feels like. I don't think it's possible for them, any more than someone who has never tasted chocolate or experienced a fine groin kick could understand what that's like, either, until they do it themselves...although I certainly wouldn't wish it on anyone. Well, maybe the chocolate part, but not the rest. 🙄

The easiest definition I've ever run across is that depression is "anger turned inward". Once that happens, the anger seems to mutate into this feeling of complete hopelessness that's very hard to escape. It robs you of everything emotionally and makes you want to hide, to avoid all contact with everyone and everything--and it has a tendency to be self-perpetuating, whether you're aware of it and really want to pull out of it...or you just succumb. Medications can at least bring it under control, especially if it's actually from a chemical imbalance--which does happen to quite a few people. (Guilty as charged. )

Although I can't see it as being a given that "fetish = depression" automatically, it would appear that the correct ingredients are there for the situation to develop. If a fetish is making one feel angry at oneself, even subconsciously, by creating feelings of being different, isolated or freakish, then yes, I could definitely see how it could lead to depression as well.

Mistress Aura

 

[Dirkman]

I wouldnt say my tickle/foot fetish leads me to depression, but at times it does get me down. it limits my choices for women drastically. i wont go out with a woman who doesnt have nice feet, or who isnt super ticklish. there arent many of those around. especially here in Mass.

I hear ya on everything.... but the MASS thing. Dude I lived in Mass for 10 years and found the chicks to have the most insanely ticklish feet in the world... I live in SoCal now and I'm NOT finding the same to be true, although I'm getting lucky here and there. I was right in BOSTON btw.

 

[aurora5150]

People who have never experienced true depression would really have no concept of what it feels like. I don't think it's possible for them, any more than someone who has never tasted chocolate or experienced a fine groin kick could understand what that's like, either, until they do it themselves...although I certainly wouldn't wish it on anyone. Well, maybe the chocolate part, but not the rest. 🙄

The easiest definition I've ever run across is that depression is "anger turned inward". Once that happens, the anger seems to mutate into this feeling of complete hopelessness that's very hard to escape. It robs you of everything emotionally and makes you want to hide, to avoid all contact with everyone and everything--and it has a tendency to be self-perpetuating, whether you're aware of it and really want to pull out of it...or you just succumb. Medications can at least bring it under control, especially if it's actually from a chemical imbalance--which does happen to quite a few people. (Guilty as charged. )

Although I can't see it as being a given that "fetish = depression" automatically, it would appear that the correct ingredients are there for the situation to develop. If a fetish is making one feel angry at oneself, even subconsciously, by creating feelings of being different, isolated or freakish, then yes, I could definitely see how it could lead to depression as well.

Mistress Aura

thank you for that mistress aura. beautifully put.one thing i've noticed is that every once in a while a thread pops up connecting tickling to some type of disorder. i wonder why that is? no malice intended...just curious.

 

[marroon69]

A couple of thoughts

I am not sure if "fetish=depression" but in certain people it might be one of those things that contibutes to it. People tend to attribute fetishes to something out of the norm, something that main stream society doesn't accept. This can cause some people to fell shunned and everyone needs to feel accepted it is just a part of human nature. If your fetish makes you feel like an outsider or freak it can make you pull away of society which can lead to depression.

I guess that is why forums and the internet are so popular..people can be them selfs(even if it is hidding behind a made up name) and express their thoughts, their needs and their fetishes and still remain in anomynous.

It seems to me that this may not be healthly in all cases...if you spend all your time on line and do not get out in the real world it will lead to frustration and to depression.

I know personally it has made me feel like an outcast and casued me to pull a away. But then I always realise that everyone has something to hide...in truth we are all freaks on the inside.


Just a bunch of random thoughts..🙂

 

[Leo tickles]

If a tickling fetish is your main cause for depression, then you DEFINTLEY need help. 🙂


However, if it's something else, here's my formula. You don't have to like how things are, or accept them. You just need to realize that "this is how this is". Either work with it and turn it into something beautiful (applause to myself), or, sit alone and cry about it.

Once you realize that the problem is how it is, you work on changing it. If you aren't working on changing it, then it doesn't bother you enough, and so, stop bitching. (Not directed at anybody here, just my overview of depression.)

 

[Onlyfornow]

If someone's depressed, perhaps being tickled could provide relief, even if the effects are just temporary!

It might work for some, but it certainly doesn't for me. If I'm just sad, then tickling helps me a lot. But I have manic-depressive disorder (bipolar disorder) and when I get depressed, I happen to notice that my ticklishness is almost completely unreactive, and it just makes me more depressed.

 

[Bizkit]

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I wouldnt say my tickle/foot fetish leads me to depression, but at times it does get me down. it limits my choices for women drastically. i wont go out with a woman who doesnt have nice feet, or who isnt super ticklish. there arent many of those around. especially here in Mass.

I would have to agree 1oo%.Even though it may sound close-minded to some people I couldnt really be happy in a relationship if my partner was not ticklish and into tickling.It is a big part of my personality and i need to be able to connect with someone .Unfortunately without it I feel me and that person could never really be on the that same level.So yes,for me the fetish is very depressing.I am the type of person who would rather be alone than be with someone who I dont click with.I have known many people who will stay in lousy relationships because the mere thought of loneliness is to much to bear.As frusterating as it is sometimes,I wouldnt trade my love for tickling for anything.