It's always like this.
Sob story.
You provide examples, suggestions, etc.
Response: It's easier for - tall people / women / attractive people / americans / blood type AB
Then you realize there was never any real desire to exert the effort needed to find and keep a partner.
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As far as settling / finding the perfect partner, when I was single, I would compromise if they had a different kink than mine and it wasn't overly painful or disturbing.
That's the thing most people don't seem to understand; for the vast majority of people (who aren't puritanical nutjobs) a fetish (especially one like this) is a relatively minor concern; but that takes treating them like real people, with their own likes and dislikes, rather than someone you get to inflict your interests on.