The really bad part of being a ticklephile

[BigBrownEyes]

There's one aspect of this fascination with tickling, which we all share, that really bites my butt. That is the nearly unstopable thoughts about certain people around you, of which you wonder how ticklish they and if certain parts of their antomy are ticklish. In addition, you wonder how they'd react to getting tickled and how they feel about it.

I had a situation not long ago with someone I work closely with. There was a major flirty buzz going on between us for about three weeks. It hit the ground seemingly because of the working realtionship and her penchant for dating dufus hillbillies. Ok, I can accept that because the calendar says that I'm an adult. But this person is tops on my list of people in my everyday life that I'd like to tickle. I'm pretty sure that I'd pay money to find out where and how ticklish she is. I'm also pretty sure that I give up lung, or a kidney, if I could tickle her from top to bottom just once.

Therein lies the conundrum. It's the intense desire of wanting to tickle someone who we'll most likely never get close to and wondering is they're ticklish. The same could be said about wondering about the ticklishness of a certain celebrity.

Ok, I'm glad I got that off my chest 🙄

 

[crydun]

yeah that is a pain. There's a few profs out here at the college that I'd love to have a go at. Alas, I know that will never happen. That's where this place comes in. You can talk to people to truly "Enjoy" it. All in all, life is good. I wouldn't give up these lightening bolt sensations for anything!!!

 

[Luv2Tickle69]

I think those 'feelings' never fully go away....even if you're involved with someone who DOES enjoy being tickled by you, and sharing the joy in return....(whether they're into it quite the same way or not notwithstanding). That curiosity....that wonder....esp. when you catch a solid glimpse of a part of their anatomy that's usually renowned for being sensitive/ticklish...always puts the thought in your head!! 😎

 

[crydun]

I think those 'feelings' never fully go away....even if you're involved with someone who DOES enjoy being tickled by you, and sharing the joy in return....(whether they're into it quite the same way or not notwithstanding). That curiosity....that wonder....esp. when you catch a solid glimpse of a part of their anatomy that's usually renowned for being sensitive/ticklish...always puts the thought in your head!! 😎

I think you're right, luv. You should see my reaction when a man is shirtless

 

[Pokey]

Knowing may not be better

You know, one of the things about being older than most is I don't normally get labeled as someone trying to "hit" on a lady, so if I wonder if they are ticklish and where, I generally ask them and surprisingly 95% have told me. I even have eventually found some to say no they aren't and find that they are, even if only a little bit. But I discover that in due time and very casually. The kind of bad part is knowing if someone is ticklish and where, and even how ticklish they are, and knowing that and not being able to participate, that isn't always helpful, lol.

 

[brnbch]

That's what I was going to say!
I can get over the wondering if someone is ticklish ..but if I actually find out they are and I can't tickle them THAT'S torture!!
If I see a cute girl being tickled briefly by her boyfriend.. I can't think of anything else for the rest of the day exept that I can't tickle her.
I one time poked my sister-in-law under her arm when she raised it to pour my brother a drink, She jumped and almost poured it in his lap.
Everybody just sort of laughed and said it would have been funny if she'd had poured it all over him. But I was thinking Oh God!.. now I'm going to yearn to tickle her for the rest of the night.
Or the time I found out that a Hot coworker was VERY ticklish (by her own admission) and I gave her a little tickle while we we talking about it but I couldn't really keep on doing it for fear she'd get pissed and report me to HR
so every time she raised her arm or exposed her ribs it was MURDER keeping from tickling her more!!

 

[Mitchell]

Big Brown Eyes, this is a situation I encounter all the time both on here, and in real life. In addition to asking the "How ticklish are you, and where" question to girls on here, I also find, that any time I see a woman I find attractive, or there is a woman I know in r/l, but may not know personally, I almost always wonder how ticklish she is, where, and what her tickle history has been. I think this is probably common place for most ticklephiles, to wonder about the tickle history of those they find desirable, but maybe cannot have, either because of the person being a stranger, a co worker, boss, or involved with someone else. I would say that a very high percentage of ticklephiles of both sexes think of this issue, and this question, so we are not alone in our curiousity and desire in these areas.

Mitch

 

[BigBrownEyes]

Thank you everyone for you your responses. Your viewpoints are appreciated!

Crydun, I agree that life is good. I sure can't complain. But I just recently had to forget about dating someone whom I was very interested in for a few weeks anyway. Ok, I did it. But now I can't stop thinking about how much I'd like to tickle her and how ticklish she is. It just really frosts my butt! I'd like to get the whole thing out of my mind. Perhaps hypnosis would help. Of course, you're running the risk of the hypnotist planting a psychological timebomb, such as making you undress and imitate a chicken every time you hear the phone ring.

Mitchell, it sounds like the same type of thing happens to you. I have to admit that it makes you feel better when "you're not the only one..."

Wondering about someone's "tickle history" is a good way to put it. I wonder about that with quite a few people I know, some more than others.

I'm glad I vented. I feel better about it already 🙂

 

[amk714]

Whenever I see a pair of nice-looking bare feet on an attractive woman, I wonder whether or not she's ticklish. But it doesn't bother me because I can always fantasize about her later. 😛

 

[BigBrownEyes]

Perhaps I shouldn't have used to word "bad." I mean it's not the end of the world, or anything. But a ticklephile's desire to tickle is strong. Maybe "frustrating" would have been a better choice.

Hey, it's possible that someone with some other type of fetish might have these feelings, but along different lines. I won't cite any examples. We can all just use our imaginations on that one.

 

[tklr5150]

Yeah, I was having one of those nights myself. I think it's a double-edged sword. You take it along with all the other components of sexual attraction - one more thing to enjoy when you've got it, one more thing to be frustrated by the lack of when you don't. Everybody deals with it on some level, we (and others with fetishes) just have that extra level.

 

[kirasao]

I Truly Empathize

In my line of work I see a lot of different people. Every now and then I'll even get lucky enough to lay eyes on a woman I think just has to be God's gift to men. From that point, it doesn't take me long to start having tickle fantasies about her. The frustrating part comes from hiding my fetish altogether. I know for a fact that no one around me would understand my love of tickling, so I certainly wouldn't just ask some stranger about her ticklishness (I'm just talking about me, personally). That's one of the killers in my life right now, anyway. Oh, well. Good Luck and Happy Tickling, my friend.

 

[Red Jester]

Yes, because men without tickle fetishes never think about sex when they see women.

Anyone with a fetish thinks about it when around other people. Regardless of what it is. Sometimes when sitting around people I think about how ticklish they are, then after I realise what I'm doing I wonder how many people around me are thinking about sex.

Out of curiosity ladies, how often do you think about tickling someone or being tickled in a day? Statistically the average girl thinks about sex a lot less than the average man, it'd be interesting to see how a tickle fetish relates to this.

 

[dskodj]

Buttttt!!!!!!!!! when you think about it (at least in my case)..the whole tickling thing does go back to sex/getting off. Its the main gateway in this fetish..as is every other fetish. So sitting around wonderng if a hot female (or male in a female ler's fetish case) is ticklish and either having thoughts about it or what have you is no different than the common everyday joe thinkin...hmm, i wonder how good she is in bed

 

[BigBrownEyes]

....very interesting viewpoints. Although bringing tickling in a relationship is mindblowing and even better when it actually happens, I can completely separate the two. There're women who I'd like to tickle, but I don't necessarily want to start a personal relationship with them. It's getting tougher all the time for two people to start dating and really click. So I can get the "wanting to date them" ideas of my mind easy enough. But I can't get the "wanting to tickle them" ideas to go away.

I bet that someone with a spanking fetish, like James Spader in "The Secretary," sees someone and thinks "damn, I'd love to spank her little ass..."

Ok, that's was just a little friday levity 😀

 

[Butterfly wings]

There's one aspect of this fascination with tickling, which we all share, that really bites my butt. That is the nearly unstopable thoughts about certain people around you, of which you wonder how ticklish they and if certain parts of their antomy are ticklish. In addition, you wonder how they'd react to getting tickled and how they feel about it.

I had a situation not long ago with someone I work closely with. There was a major flirty buzz going on between us for about three weeks. It hit the ground seemingly because of the working realtionship and her penchant for dating dufus hillbillies. Ok, I can accept that because the calendar says that I'm an adult. But this person is tops on my list of people in my everyday life that I'd like to tickle. I'm pretty sure that I'd pay money to find out where and how ticklish she is. I'm also pretty sure that I give up lung, or a kidney, if I could tickle her from top to bottom just once.

Therein lies the conundrum. It's the intense desire of wanting to tickle someone who we'll most likely never get close to and wondering is they're ticklish. The same could be said about wondering about the ticklishness of a certain celebrity.

Ok, I'm glad I got that off my chest 🙄

You are so right BigBrownEyes. Great post. And the others on here that have posted on this thread are right as well.

 

[Lionhart]

For this reason I am happy/sad to have given up my job in retail. Especially during summer time when women would come into the store hot off the beach; flip flops, halter tops, skimpy shorts.. You know the type.. Of course I had to keep a proffessional tone at all times, but gggrrrrr did I want to pop the question.. On some occasions I would get into a flirty exchange and have success in regards to tickling discussions, but it didn't happen as much as one could hope. All ya can do is stay on your toes.. (lest they be tickled)

 

[Red Jester]

....very interesting viewpoints. Although bringing tickling in a relationship is mindblowing and even better when it actually happens, I can completely separate the two. There're women who I'd like to tickle, but I don't necessarily want to start a personal relationship with them. It's getting tougher all the time for two people to start dating and really click. So I can get the "wanting to date them" ideas of my mind easy enough. But I can't get the "wanting to tickle them" ideas to go away.

I bet that someone with a spanking fetish, like James Spader in "The Secretary," sees someone and thinks "damn, I'd love to spank her little ass..."

Ok, that's was just a little friday levity 😀

Thats still the same as a non fetishest. All guys have girls they want to have sex with and not want to date.

 

[Knox The Hatter]

I seem to have reached a point where my just knowing seems to be enough; I don't have a burning desire to give it a test. I figure my fingers will get there in their own due time...if I so desire. Like I said, if I know she's ticklish, that's fine with me.

 

[Glovelover]

"Tickle History"

Recently, one of my past girlfriends from highschool contacted me (via email) just to have a "what have you been up to these past twenty years" discussion. We knew each other since Elementary School and only dated briefly in Highschool but have not seen or spoke to each other since graduation. The key thing about this past girlfriend is that She was very aggressive when we dated and constantly took advantage of my ticklishness. We also had several discussions that if we were ever alone, She threatened to use her brother's handcuffs on me and tickle me. Therefore, my secret was out with her from the start. She was the only girlfriend I figured to actually be into Tickling/Domination/etc. and she knew I was into being tickled.

Since I am married, I kept the emails polite and did not "dip into that well" (so-to-speak). I did innocently "hint" at our past relationship in an effort to see where She is today with Tickling/Domination/Etc. Actually, she dismissed or did not 'take the bait' and elaborate on anything. She still sounds sexual as she was back then, but I do not see the same attitude/interest as before.

I thought this would be appropriate to add to the discussions posted.