The right mentality for being ticklish?

[PlayfulCarbonara]

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[SadCuzNotTcklsh]

I got to thinking about this... as much as I complain about not being ticklish at all, I realized it is probably for better. I really don't think I have the sense of humor to deal with it. Catching people in precarious positions to tickle them, as many of us do to our SO, would probably tick me off to no end. For instance, if I am reaching up for something trying to grab it and someone came up behind me and latched onto my sides or attacked under my arms... I'm not sure I'd have the sense of humor to react well lol.

So then I started realizing- a good lee isn't just about being ticklish, or even VERY ticklish. It is about having the proper mentality for it. A particular sense of humor to put up with having a task completely disrupted by some jerk wiggling their fingers in a sensitive spot just to watch you flail about spastically for a second and bust out of laughing involuntarily. That asshole!

Random epiphany here.

Whatever the right mentality is for being ticklish, I don't got it.
And I know I have a great sense of humor, so shouldn't that mean I would ticklish? I dunno man....

 

[miskiduk]

Considering it's a sexual kick for most us, it heavily depends on who it is doing it, when and where, and whether you're in the right mood at the time.
Many many ways it could just piss you off, regardless of whether you like being tickled or not.

 

[rhiannon]

I really don't think I have the sense of humor to deal with it. Catching people in precarious positions to tickle them, as many of us do to our SO, would probably tick me off to no end.

Guess what....if I am tickled from behind while I stretch, reach for something etc., I get seriously pissed off. And I am a lee. 😉

So, what's your new excuse for not trying to be a lee? 🙂

 

[ticklechambers]

This is an interesting thread. Mentality is interesting in general terms when it comes to being tickled. I sometimes consider if the degree of ticklishness of a lee is dependant some or even entirely on the psychological behind it.

But i suppose that is would be like anything else (in regards to your point). Some people are annoyed by some things, and others are not. Some people like the taste of chilli... and others cannot stand it. Because people feel/taste/associate different things differently 🙂

 

[Usually`Bubble]

I'm mostly a lee, and am generally tolerant of tickling situations. It really depends on how I'm feeling at the time, and who is doing the tickling. My boyfriend is like the OP but relatively ticklish in certain areas, even when he allows me to tickle him on the odd occasion I can tell he doesn't enjoy it all that much and is hanging out for my excitement to wear off. If he's doing anything requiring his concentration I wouldn't even think about touching him in such a manner.

 

[chicago]

The only time I would get mad if the bf tickled me is if something serious happened or I was mad about something. Actually, even then I probably wouldn't care lol

Ok, maybe sometimes when I'm grumpy in the morning. =/

 

[BrightEyes1082]

There are plenty of times where I just kind of squawk "I'm not
in the mooooood!" because I'm just not feeling it. But I'm collared
to a sadist who doesn't care if I'm in the mood, and unfortunately
I don't have the capability to just turn it off and stay mad looking.
I think the times I hate it most are when we're snuggled up and
have just had a really intense conversation or something, and all
feels perfect, and she can't keep her fingers still. That's when I wish
I had a hypno-pause trigger for her.

 

[goddess_nemesis]

If we're alone and my guy would randomly tickle me, I would probably be fine with it and I would actually enjoy it. But if we were hanging out with (vanilla) friends and he tried to playful tickle me, I'd be incredibly annoyed because I don't want to be tickled in front of people. And if he were to continue even if I said stop, I'd be so pissed. The exception to that is if we attended a gathering or were hanging out with kink-minded friends.

 

[chicago]

If we're alone and my guy would randomly tickle me, I would probably be fine with it and I would actually enjoy it. But if we were hanging out with (vanilla) friends and he tried to playful tickle me, I'd be incredibly annoyed because I don't want to be tickled in front of people. And if he were to continue even if I said stop, I'd be so pissed. The exception to that is if we attended a gathering or were hanging out with kink-minded friends.

Yeah, if it was like around family or something, oh my god I'd be pissed. I'd probably laugh about it retrospect though. If it was like while we were walking down the street and he tickled me in front of people we didn't know, I probably wouldn't care too much lol

Though, that's not necessarily an invitation, so hopefully he doesn't read this and get any ideas lol

 

[rhiannon]

Instead, this is tying a good lee with having the right disposition to not blow up on the ler when he tickles them at a time they aren't ready for it.

How does it make you a bad lee if you blow up on the ler when he tickles you while you are not in the mood or not ready for it?

That's like saying someone is a bad partner because they don't want to have sex whenever their SO wants it.

 

[darkscar]

There is a Time and place for everything. many people have different reactions to different atmospheres. Example: You may be a big lee and love to get tickled because it turns you on, however deep in your mind you may not want to show these reaction in public or with people you may be unconformable with tickling you If you are tickled in public or tickled by a person you don't want tickling you, you will get an uneasy felling and your brain may enable a defense mechanism that causes you get angry and fight back. because tickling causes a sexual trigger in you, your brain my set up the same defenses it does when someone inappropriately touches your private areas when you don't want them to. I'm no psychology pro but that's my though on it.

That or you don't want that big glass jar you are reaching for to come crashing down on your head when you lower your arms to defend yourself.

 

[rhiannon]

darkscar, your thought on it is exactly right! Very well described!

 

[darkscar]

Thanks!

 

[SadCuzNotTcklsh]

So if I feel like being ticklish, I'll be ticklish?
Sweet my problems are solved

j/k

 

[ticklechambers]

I've never not been in the mood though 🙂 the only time i'd say no is in front of family members..... because.... well that's like having sex in front of them. OR if i'm crying over something. But even then, sometimes a good tickle fixes that!

 

[rhiannon]

So if I feel like being ticklish, I'll be ticklish?

No. But sometimes if you're ticklish you're just not in the mood to be tickled!

the only time i'd say no is in front of family members..... because.... well that's like having sex in front of them. OR if i'm crying over something.

Try being poked in the sides while you are on your toes trying to lift the fryer from the top of the closet! That one ended in the emergency room for a friend of mine, and I can't say that I felt very much sympathy!

 

[miskiduk]

One summer I spent an entire day sanding down window frames ready for a re-paint. Near the end of it I was hot, tired and sunburnt! As I was reaching up my girlfriend tickled me and caused me to fall off the stepladder. That was probably the longest barrage of 4-letter words I've ever used in my life 😀

 

[darkscar]

Try being poked in the sides while you are on your toes trying to lift the fryer from the top of the closet! That one ended in the emergency room for a friend of mine, and I can't say that I felt very much sympathy!

Safety First! Tickle With Extreme Caution and use a damn hard hat

 

[ticklechambers]

Try being poked in the sides while you are on your toes trying to lift the fryer from the top of the closet! That one ended in the emergency room for a friend of mine, and I can't say that I felt very much sympathy!

Hahahaha, well i'd have to assume that my 'ler would use common sense and not put me in physical danger. That for me would be more a case of not liking the consequences of a badly timed tickle. I'd still be in the mood for it at the time 🙂 Just wouldn't like the pain after.....

 

[rhiannon]

I'd still be in the mood for it at the time

I'm just not into being tickled while stretching...personally I think it's really uncomfortable.