Well, it would appear this thread needs another virgin.
I'm 21 and haven't had sex. I don't plan to until I'm married either. Though I have nothing against those that do have pre-marital sex.
I've had many chances to have sex, especially when I've visited my ex-girlfriend and when I recently visited my second. There were times when we were completely alone. For hours at a time. With my first girlfriend, her mother would leave for long periods of time and leave my ex's brother in charge. He had himself locked in his room like a recluse, so I knew that it wouldn't have been a problem. There were plenty of oppourtunities as there was with my current girfriend.
We've all agreed that sex is sacred. Its a gift, an impartment of love. I don't think anyone would be able to feel and get the full effects by having intercourse with someone they aren't even sure they love with all their heart and soul and never plan on leaving. My first relationship didn't work because I had a problem with her mother, and I realized that if I stayed with this relationship her mother would eventually drag me down with her and I'd closer and closer to my ex's family, and with all due respect, they made me very uncomfortable and I could tell almost instantly that these were people I wouldn't get along with.
It wasn't any fault of my ex or me, so we decided it was best to end it mutually. I didn't dump her, but I could have.
And now, with my current friend, I'm actually comfortable with her family. Very good people, though I did not meet all of them, the immediate family that is. Maybe next time. Anyways, when I visited her I insisted on having my own motel room, because I didn't want to impose on her family by staying there with them, and I wanted to comfort her mother and perhaps by doing this help her think more of me as a gentleman.
Anyways, I had my room, and my girlfriend and I would go out and drive and do this and that. There were lots of things to see. But when we'd get back, there was still time before she ought to be getting home. Not that she had a curfew I think, but I'm sure she didn't want to worry her mother.
Anyways, in that time frame from getting back from having fun and her going home, there were plenty of times for us to have sex. The most we did was make out and have some foreplay. That was good enough for both of us.. 😱
Bottom line people- I think with my mind, not my southern compass. Sure, we there were times when we were both really turned on and it could have become more, but it didn't because we're strong people. See, if you can't put a value in chastity and viriginity, then it means nothing to you and it would be easier to give it away.
I'm really happy with my girlfriend, and if God wills it, I want to stay with her. I know she feels the same way. We had a wonderful experience. We shared eachothers minds, and thoughts and emotions. There was lots of holding and quiet, peaceful silence just being in eachother's presense was enough. And of course this wasn't some substitute, as I believe these things are necessary and are a key part of a successful relationship. We didn't just make out like wild animals.
I'm proud of being a virgin. Theres nothing weak about it. Its a strength. Temptation is just a little runt. I don't let him tell me what to do. I've got control. And thats important.
Sorry for the long post, but you basically asked me alot of things in only so many words. Basically my sexual history, or lack thereof. I felt like it was important to explain though.
