The ticklish pull

[MRERIC]

Just sitting here thinking, no matter how being tickled is such a tortured feeling..why do most of us crave it so much? Also is it crazy, am I nuts for thinking of it often? What does everyone else think?

 

[MrTicklefeet]

Your thinking too much. Your not crazy or nuts, just absorbed.

 

[Volsung]

Too complex a question. You might want to dig a little bit in the forum for related topics.

 

[a7hgsir4h3jk]

I feel exactly the same way! For years I craved being tickled, yet when it actually happens it's such an uncomfortable feeling that I want it to stop. Why am I so into it?! I mean, I don't feel the same way about pain or humiliation. Just tickling. It's weird.

 

[CapturedDoll]

I feel exactly the same way! For years I craved being tickled, yet when it actually happens it's such an uncomfortable feeling that I want it to stop. Why am I so into it?! I mean, I don't feel the same way about pain or humiliation. Just tickling. It's weird.

I think its because we've kept these desires hidden for so long. We've told our minds since forever and ever: Shhhhh! Don't say anything NO ONE will understand. So our brains are trying to protect us by telling our bodies to get uncomfortable. It's a theory. But I think the more we try new things with other people here... or our partners (or both) the more we can train our brains to let us just get horny. I think repetition of stepping outside of our comfort zones within the tickling community first might be the key... we all understand... so... as Pinhead says... "Time to play...".

Also Jillian Michaels said in relation 2 working out. "Time to get uncomfortable... or nothings going to change". I will change this quote to fit our needs. Time to get uncomfortable if we want to get comfortable. And make no mistake... being tickled makes people uncomfortable... we are getting TICKLED. So... I suggest putting yourself into different situations like I am with my TPE weekend... experiencing different people as if were really happening is mind blowing. I've done rp in the past and this year... but not like this... woah... amazing. And realize.. Lers WANT to make us uncomfortable... (2 make our bodies twist and turn and contort.. to be forced to laugh... and to get turned on to it.) And THIS is the part we need to be vulnerable with and expose to them... (and I am a switch... so I would agree with this statement if it were said by someone else..)

 

[rdhd]

Captured - what you gave is not a theory, rather an hypothesis. To make it a theory, we do have to do numerous experiments to verify it. When can we start?.......😀

 

[CapturedDoll]

Captured - what you gave is not a theory, rather an hypothesis. To make it a theory, we do have to do numerous experiments to verify it. When can we start?.......😀

*rings your door bell*

 

[rdhd]

dang doorbell's not working (another fikkin fix to the house....). Of course, all experiments are in private, until the study is complete.......😉

 

[matt62]

As a 'ler, I can't answer MRERIC's question, but it is something that I am endlessly trying to understand - the psychology of the 'lee. I am full of awe and admiration for you 'lees, and thank heavens for you and the way you keep coming back for more. I can only surmise it must be similar to the psychology of the roller coaster rider (and I can't do roller coasters either) - an attraction to the sensation of helplessness and exhilaration in an extreme situation where you know that ultimately you are perfectly safe?

But it is weird that this sensation can be uncomfortable and disturbing yet simultaneously so powerfully attractive.

Maybe tickling is disturbing because it is so invasive - it is basically an attack. And yet it can become something that we seek and desire, because it is also a non-violent, very personal and responsive interaction, and as human beings we all want closeness and intimacy. Tickling might be compelling precisely because it combines that powerful element of attack/control/invasion with exquisite mutual responsiveness and intimate contact. Another thing - maybe the only other thing - that can have that combination is sex. Tickling might have its hold over us because our brains and nervous systems find it so weirdly akin to sex?

 

[a7hgsir4h3jk]

As a 'ler, I can't answer MRERIC's question, but it is something that I am endlessly trying to understand - the psychology of the 'lee. I am full of awe and admiration for you 'lees, and thank heavens for you and the way you keep coming back for more. I can only surmise it must be similar to the psychology of the roller coaster rider (and I can't do roller coasters either) - an attraction to the sensation of helplessness and exhilaration in an extreme situation where you know that ultimately you are perfectly safe?

But it is weird that this sensation can be uncomfortable and disturbing yet simultaneously so powerfully attractive.

Maybe tickling is disturbing because it is so invasive - it is basically an attack. And yet it can become something that we seek and desire, because it is also a non-violent, very personal and responsive interaction, and as human beings we all want closeness and intimacy. Tickling might be compelling precisely because it combines that powerful element of attack/control/invasion with exquisite mutual responsiveness and intimate contact. Another thing - maybe the only other thing - that can have that combination is sex. Tickling might have its hold over us because our brains and nervous systems find it so weirdly akin to sex?

*sips tea* This is interesting stuff.

 

[matt62]

Going back to the roller coaster analogy - I would really like to know whether there is a correlation between 'lees and roller coaster lovers! Seriously, if there was a correlation, it might tell us something about the psychology of you people...Personally, the thought of being tickled and the thought of going on a tall roller coaster both hold about equal levels of terror and fascination for me.

 

[silktkl]

Its not crazy to have the feeling you have a "tickling fetish" is just that, we all have these feelings else we would not be here, how bigger part of your life it takes up is a different thing, it can become an obsession and the craving can be acute.

 

[chicago]

Can't control what turns you on. Even though I get tickled damn near every day for the past 3 years, there are days I still can hardly think of anything else. It is what it is. Vanilla folk are said to think about sex like every 10 seconds or so.

 

[Alliekat]

I think about it a lot. I may go days and weeks where I do not think about it a whole lot, and then there are days where all I can think of is sex, tickling and porn! Just because it is weird does not mean it is wrong! I am a fairly normal person but get turned on by weird stuff, so I would not worry about it if I were you 🙂

 

[ISUmark]

definitely on my mind all day and night. Doesn't stop me from functioning like a normal human being, but the thoughts are always in the back of my mind.