Okay, so this is more of a rant than anything else but feel free to comment of you like.
So i met this girl, she was into me at first and I wasn't really looking for someone but I thought 'Hey lets give it a try and see how we both get on.' So i took her on a date, bought her a meal and a few drinks and we started to get to know each other. Now, from previous experience i believe that being honest and open from the start is the best thing to do, so i told her what i was into (i didn't just blurt it out, the conversation was headed in the direction of 'things you like'). I told her about my foot fetish and everything that was involved. She insisted that she hated people touching her feet and that it wouldn't happen - but she did enquire as to what i specifically liked. So i mentioned tickling (obviously) and i mentioned foot massages, biting, sucking, kissing and all the other foot related activities that i could think of.
Now, i know what some of you may be thinking: Idiot! Why did you come out with all that stuff on a first date?! But as i said i believe its better to just get everything out in the open and thats just my way of doing things.
So, the date ended, and it went well. Later that week we were texting and she was saying things like 'we need to work on my feet fear' and 'we'll take baby steps and see how we get on'. So naturally i was happy, i thought even if she is a bit reluctant to indulge me shes at least is willing to try things because she's understood how the whole fetish thing works.
However, we get a couple of months down the line but we are still in her 'step1' - foot massage on one foot with sock (or tights) on. I'm not saying its selfish of me to think the way i do, in many ways it probably is. But if she is willing to try things (even in baby steps) then naturally i'm going to try to encourage her to take a step further now and again. There was no success. Eventually she called things off, said i didn't understand her or her hatred of having her feet seen or touched and that she felt that it was a selfish thing to want what i wanted. I didn't disagree with her, in fact she may have been right. I was amicable, apologised for making her feel uncomfortable and admitted that i didn't want to pressure her they way in which she felt i did.
But now, i argue my case. I am what i am. I don't hide away from my fetish - in fact i have, and always will be, open about it. Forgive me for 'pushing' her into things but she said she was willing to work on her foot phobia and i obviously chased that. If anything, it was not her who was misunderstood, its me. She didn't fully understand how my fetish worked or how much i enjoyed feet and tickling I wouldn't have minded a reaction of disgust on our first date because at least then i would've known that things probably wouldn't have worked. But i feel teased by the fact that i was given an indication that we could try and work around her fear and my fetish. At this bitter stage it feels like i have wasted time on someone who could have just made her feelings clear from the start and by doing so avoided the humiliation of being told i was just to weird and selfish for her tastes.
Ahhh, i feel a bit better now i've got that off my chest, thanks to anyone who read all the way through this rant. At least here on the TMF there's no danger of not being accepted or understood 😀
So i met this girl, she was into me at first and I wasn't really looking for someone but I thought 'Hey lets give it a try and see how we both get on.' So i took her on a date, bought her a meal and a few drinks and we started to get to know each other. Now, from previous experience i believe that being honest and open from the start is the best thing to do, so i told her what i was into (i didn't just blurt it out, the conversation was headed in the direction of 'things you like'). I told her about my foot fetish and everything that was involved. She insisted that she hated people touching her feet and that it wouldn't happen - but she did enquire as to what i specifically liked. So i mentioned tickling (obviously) and i mentioned foot massages, biting, sucking, kissing and all the other foot related activities that i could think of.
Now, i know what some of you may be thinking: Idiot! Why did you come out with all that stuff on a first date?! But as i said i believe its better to just get everything out in the open and thats just my way of doing things.
So, the date ended, and it went well. Later that week we were texting and she was saying things like 'we need to work on my feet fear' and 'we'll take baby steps and see how we get on'. So naturally i was happy, i thought even if she is a bit reluctant to indulge me shes at least is willing to try things because she's understood how the whole fetish thing works.
However, we get a couple of months down the line but we are still in her 'step1' - foot massage on one foot with sock (or tights) on. I'm not saying its selfish of me to think the way i do, in many ways it probably is. But if she is willing to try things (even in baby steps) then naturally i'm going to try to encourage her to take a step further now and again. There was no success. Eventually she called things off, said i didn't understand her or her hatred of having her feet seen or touched and that she felt that it was a selfish thing to want what i wanted. I didn't disagree with her, in fact she may have been right. I was amicable, apologised for making her feel uncomfortable and admitted that i didn't want to pressure her they way in which she felt i did.
But now, i argue my case. I am what i am. I don't hide away from my fetish - in fact i have, and always will be, open about it. Forgive me for 'pushing' her into things but she said she was willing to work on her foot phobia and i obviously chased that. If anything, it was not her who was misunderstood, its me. She didn't fully understand how my fetish worked or how much i enjoyed feet and tickling I wouldn't have minded a reaction of disgust on our first date because at least then i would've known that things probably wouldn't have worked. But i feel teased by the fact that i was given an indication that we could try and work around her fear and my fetish. At this bitter stage it feels like i have wasted time on someone who could have just made her feelings clear from the start and by doing so avoided the humiliation of being told i was just to weird and selfish for her tastes.
Ahhh, i feel a bit better now i've got that off my chest, thanks to anyone who read all the way through this rant. At least here on the TMF there's no danger of not being accepted or understood 😀
