Things we say that we regret

[Celtic_Emperor]

We all have our highs in what we do and say, but we also have our lows.

What is the worst thing you've ever said/done to anyone that you seriously regret, and it really ate you up inside? What happened because you said it/did it, and what happened long term with the situation? Is it still unresolved, or are things as they should be?

(ie- you argued with your wife, and called her mother a stupid bitch because you and her mother don't get along and it really hurt your wife that you said that, even if some if it may be justified and/or she agrees her mother is unreasonable. This is just an example, I've not experienced anything like that or even seen it. 😛 )

 

[Lazarus]

Well, On.....

December 7th, 1994, I said "I Do" to my now ex-wife....


I honestly feel that to be the biggest regret of anything I have EVER said to anyone at all.

SERIOUSLY.

 

[Limeoutsider]

I always call my mom that, but not to her face

One of my biggest regrets, went smoething like "Yea you can come have a few beers"

 

[Dave2112]

Jesus, Lazzy, you stole my line! "I Do" is one of lines that we all learn to regret eventually. 😎

 

[Celtic_Emperor]

Provided it doesn't work out. 😛

 

[Knox The Hatter]

The most grief I've ever gotten came from being truthful with certain people when a lie would've worked better. Now that I'm older I realize that there are people out there who much prefer a lie; they've managed to delude themselves about so many things that the truth has become an alien thing.

Among this demographic I include my parents. They only hear what they want to hear. I remember when they were starting their deli business so many years ago, and how they were looking forward to me coming in to help. One day, I came home from work, and my dad asked me about how I really felt about this. I told him that the worst times in my life revolved around food service in some sort of way. He then went into one of his all time tempertantrums, and even threatened to cut me out of his will. Like I really give a fuck. My wife doesn't believe me when I tell her about my parents!

I have to admit, I'm much more of a 'Let the Chips Fall Where they May' type of person nowadays.

Think about it. Can you really be honest with people and not suffer some kind of consequence?

 

[Celtic_Emperor]

No, you cannot. Which is why people lie so much. But the mistake in lying is that it's deceptive. I'd rather go through a tiff with someone and speak the truth of the matter so it can be resolved later than to lie to them, tell them what they want to hear, and allow them to go on believing a lie.

Even if it made them feel better unknowningly, I'd feel worse and depending on the level of the lie, wouldn't be able to handle it and would eventually tell them. So its better just to tell the truth from the start.

I don't like lying and I never really do, to my knowledge. I think the worst lie of all is the lie of self deception. And if you believe those sort of lies then you're really in for some trouble down the road.

 

[giantfan121262]

Think about it. Can you really be honest with people and not suffer some kind of consequence?[/COLOR] [/B]

There could be a worse consequence if you find out the truth down the road after that person has lied

 

[featherfingers]

There could be a worse consequence if you find out the truth down the road after that person has lied

I was invited to dinner by a girlfriend of a friend of mine. As we began eating, she asked me what I thought of her boyfriend as a person. I told her there were a few things about his personality that needed work. The next day, she told me that she couldn't be friends with someone who talked about her boyfriend behind his back... guess I should've just told her, "He's cool. May I have another biscuit, please?"

What would have been the better course of action in this scenario?

BTW, I was still a teenager when this happened. I've learned a lot since then.

 

[Neutron]

Never..

If you worry about what you say you won't get a whole lot of worth said.

Tron

 

[Knox The Hatter]

I was invited to dinner by a girlfriend of a friend of mine. As we began eating, she asked me what I thought of her boyfriend as a person. I told her there were a few things about his personality that needed work. The next day, she told me that she couldn't be friends with someone who talked about her boyfriend behind his back... guess I should've just told her, "He's cool. May I have another biscuit, please?"

What would have been the better course of action in this scenario?

BTW, I was still a teenager when this happened. I've learned a lot since then.

My point exactly.