This goes along with my initiation story.

[amandahaze]

This is from a PM exchange I had with another member and he thought that others might be interested. I could bump up my initiation story that this relates to, but I am leery about bumping old stories. This kind of stands alone on its own also.


We were both in college and had been dating about 6 months. Jeff started paying more attention to my feet, and one day he tied me (fully clothed) to his dorm bed so he could take off my shoes and socks and kiss my feet. I thought it was cool that he felt close enough to me to do that and soon he was kissing them whenever we fooled around. I even let him take some Polaroids of me (that we still have--one of the benefits of staying together is that nobody felt compelled to destroy them), and I took one of him kissing my feet. I was going to show it to my sister but when I mentioned that Jeff rubbed my feet she said "gross, feet are nasty" so I never told her about anything else he did.

In our sophomore year he had an apartment---more tying up, more feet, more Polaroids. He even took one of me with my hands tied behind my back, kissing his feet (still have that one too.) When one of us was tied up there were threats of tickling, but it was never done. I would sometimes tickle his nipples while giving him head but he never once acted like he was going to tickle me. And even though we didn't talk about it a lot, we knew that we were doing things that most couples didn't do--bondage and feet and naked photos. It was all very cool to us.

Then the end of our sophomore year is when my hazing happened. As you read, I was "tied" and had my feet written on and cleaned. (Later I found that specific activity was in a book of "icebreakers" used by our trainers, except the tying-up part was not emphasized). So it was all supposed to be silly and innocent. I never once thought about not telling him what happened, because to me it was not a big deal.

To him it was a huge deal. He immediately hated the thought that my bare feet had been on such public display for other guys, and that other guys had done things to them, and that they had seen me in such a vulnerable and "embarrassing" position.

I can go on, but that's the basics up to that point.

 

[milagros317]

It sounds like you have a very good relationship.
Thanks for sharing your experiences here. 😀

 

[robmic]

Amanda, you can bump anything you want! Your feet are to die for! (The rest of ya ain't too bad either!)

 

[hyped_up]

I remember that tale. Intriguing to learn the plot points that led up to everything. Thank you for sharing.

 

[JaySnow]

I agree with Rob, bump away lady!!! I can say that I would not deal well if another man tickled my wife or touch her in gratifying way. Her I do not share. I understand your husband getting upset, especially with a gorgeous wife like you.

Yeah, I'm greedy, post more stories please.

 

[amandahaze]

Thank you all. Most everyone here on the TMF has been very kind and patient with me (except the one young man whom I had to ignore). I joined here to try to get closer to understanding what my husband really wants, and to do what we can before we get too old. It's amazing to me that this May is 30 years that he and I have been dealing with his tickle "demons", which are really just desires. As I have time I'm going to chronicle more of our lives since that fateful day, and post them here. Even if no one else is interested, this is kind of a form of therapy for me (and for him).

From reading posts on the forum I've come to see that people have an unending variety of tickle interests. I wonder sometimes how I'd feel about it if it weren't so intertwined with my love of my husband and our emotions. One thing that I still struggle with is when I read about wives who won't even try to indulge their husbands. I can understand if a woman if just entirely too ticklish to tolerate much (that would be me, but my desire to not back down from anything always overrides), but wives could let their husbands play with their feet, or even tickle their husbands if that's what he wants. It's no different than asking for anal (maybe even easier than anal), or for anything else in the bedroom. People want what they want.

 

[Wesker28]

but wives could let their husbands play with their feet, or even tickle their husbands if that's what he wants. It's no different than asking for anal (maybe even easier than anal), or for anything else in the bedroom. People want what they want.

This is one of the reasons why marriages, and indeed relationships break up.

 

[amandahaze]

This is one of the reasons why marriages, and indeed relationships break up.

Absolutely right. But I'd feel like a dummy and a failure if I let a sexual desire break up my marriage. Unless my husband was completely pigheaded we could find compromise to make him or me happy, which we vowed to do. If we don't try hard to understand and to please each other, who will?

 

[Wesker28]

Precisely. 😉

 

[robmic]

Absolutely right. But I'd feel like a dummy and a failure if I let a sexual desire break up my marriage. Unless my husband was completely pigheaded we could find compromise to make him or me happy, which we vowed to do. If we don't try hard to understand and to please each other, who will?

Man, how I wish there were more women like you in this world!

 

[amandahaze]

Man, how I wish there were more women like you in this world!

Thanks but I recall taking a vow to do it.

 

[Wally West]

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[robmic]

Thanks but I recall taking a vow to do it.

Exactly my point! That's lost by so many these days...

 

[Iluv2Btickled]

I agree with amanda. Too bad I'm single. I think guys think that my way of thinking is "too-good-to-be-true" and I have an ultimatum or something. *shrugs*

Thanks for sharing your story! 😀

 

[Toesheldback]

Amanda, you may have covered this in previous posts, but I'm curious...

I would get jealous/pissed if another man was tickling my wife, but would be ecstatic if another woman was doing it. If your hazing experience was 100% female, would it have been different for him?

 

[amandahaze]

Amanda, you may have covered this in previous posts, but I'm curious...

I would get jealous/pissed if another man was tickling my wife, but would be ecstatic if another woman was doing it. If your hazing experience was 100% female, would it have been different for him?

That's a great question. Honestly we haven't really talked about that angle of it because it just didn't happen like that. I'll ask Jeff what he thinks (he loves to talk about it), but I'd guess it would have been less of the "jealous boyfriend/other guys seeing" and much more of the "need to protect me from being embarrassed by mean girls." I don't know if it would have crept into our sex life or not. Like I said, it was still almost three years after that night before he got the idea to tickle my feet. Really good question, great way for me to bring it up to him.