I feel that I somehow fall into this category as you describe drew. But what does "real" mean? I don't mean to warp the topic, which I'll get to in a moment, but for me, there is no pretext for my views.
Haltickling also said something which I could possibly fall under and be placed in by the people here. Being that I was raised to believe sex is immoral and all that hooey or something. Well, I wasn't raised that way, and sex is just fine, its when its cheapened in any number of ways that I feel its wrong. As far as throwing mud, which I'm sure people think I have, I've only brought up things, but never really assaulted anyone for them. As far as thinking I'm holier-than-thou, well, I don't know (are you religious or close to God? If not, maybe I am holier-than-thou
LOL). But as far as this idea that I think I'm somehow better than everyone else, thats just crazy talk. I just have strong views, and it doesn't help I'm in the minority here. Professional therapist? Theres nothing wrong with me, and if thats the way its going to be, we all need therapists.
Now, I do realize the above was not directed at me specfically (or maybe it was, I don't know. Obbjob couldn't have been the only one to read that thread). So pay these side comments no mind if you wish. I just felt it was important to clear those things up.
Now, the topic.
To answer your question njjen, its always been a double standard for women and men. A man can get away with almost anything and even recieve praise for his actions (such as being a player or a womanizer). A woman on the other hand is like you said, a slut, a whore, a floozy, a tramp, a tart, and every other leud term sometimes ill placed on women, especially placed on women of today's society who are more active, more equal, and more involved in making the world go round.
Anything pertaining to sex, a woman can be called up on. A man on the other hand, is not. He is almost immune and unaccountable for his own actions. I'm sure you and everyone else here already know that for yourselves, but I can't think of any other reason for people to think like that or give women a bad rap for it. Some people use prostitution as an excuse, or take a real slut and use her to judge the majority. Life has just not been fair for women since it started. You've always had subordinate status forced on you and anything thats really our fault (as men) can be put on you. Sure, your not innocent, but you aren't filthy (except for those working the street corners. But then again, some men do that too, and I'm sure some of those prostitutes are not in it by choice. Whether that be because of a pimp or a lack of education or experience in the business world to fall back on. For most of them I'd wager its about survival.)
Its sick, and I don't agree with it. Its not right that women have the finger pointed at them so easily and yet the man can be pat on the back and given a cigar to smoke with his buddies.
- Damien