Tickle fetish when you’re not ticklish

[MindOverWhatMatters]

Curious, how do tickle fetishists cope with not being ticklish?

I’ve always been so jealous of people that can really lose themselves in being tickled.

I love being touched in tickle spots, but play is difficult because I’m only moderately sensitive (wiggles and spasms) when there is sexual stimulation involved.

Having the fetish and being attracted to tickling can feel like a weird punishment as I can’t experience getting tickled. Also, as it is a turn on for me, I would have trouble seeking out other lees as I’m in a very happy relationship.

As a tickle fetishist, seeing so many mixed reactions from people getting tickled is like being unable to fathom what sex might feel like. As though your body doesn’t do or experience everything it was meant to.

Just curious how others deal with their feelings on the tickle fetish when they’re not ticklish.

 

[duderino84]

I just tickle. Any girlfriend I have. It's my job.

 

[becomingticklish]

I am kind of in this situation. I am a lee who has very selective ticklishness. I have not yet been able to be tickled in a sexual setting, I can only be ticklish when it's unwanted, e.g a friend platonically tickling me, or when getting a massage.

It hurts, I think about it a lot, but I'm slowly on a journey to try and figure out why this is and if I can increase my ticklishness. I would like to have the experience of being tied down and tickle tortured one day.

I've split up my journey into two main categories: mental and physical.

Physical includes stuff like ruling out nerve damage, increasing circulation, meeting nutritional needs, keeping skin healthy, and becoming more lean/reducing excess fat.

Mental includes looking at how mood affects ticklishness and increasing feelings of vulnerability/surprise as that's what seems to be most important in ticklishness as we can't tickle ourselves very well, plus the fact that I seem to only be ticklish when I don't want it.

My journey is probably far from the end and I'm lacking information and research right now but I hope one day I will be able to experience my kink.

 

[hiphophooray4]

I certainly am wishing you the best of Luck in your journey

 

[Rollo9]

Sounds like it's your calling to tickle others... 🫡

 

[paristickler]

I just tickle. Any girlfriend I have. It's my job.

Fantastic line here ! 😀 😉 love it !

 

[luvgirlsfeet]

If someone isn’t ticklish but likes to tickle I can understand the frustration.
As for me I love to tickle and I’m very ticklish but I don’t have anyone to play with

 

[Jezebel Lee]

I can tell you that some people cope with pure delusion. Insisting they’re the most ticklish person ever, that they have the BEST reactions, that you need to do it for hours and you just “don’t have the drive to break them”… when in reality they just lie there like a smiling corpse no matter what you do or how many times you try.

 

[TheMasterTouch]

As a Ler, it's never frustrated me that I'm not ticklish myself. As the saying goes, everyone is different. My partners are always amazed that I'm not. I guess they can't fathom someone not being ticklish when they've been ticklish their whole life.

 

[D-Tickler]

How do you guys define "being not ticklish"?
In the case of @MindOverWhatMatters , he seems to regard "being moderately sensitive" to be "being not ticklish".
Probably, many more ppl have the similar standard of "being not ticklish" as he does.

But for me, such a standard is not prudent enough.
I still see "being moderately sensitive" as being ticklish to some extent.

 

[Jezebel Lee]

How do you guys define "being not ticklish"?
In the case of @MindOverWhatMatters , he seems to regard "being moderately sensitive" to be "being not ticklish".
Probably, many more ppl have the similar standard of "being not ticklish" as he does.

But for me, such a standard is not prudent enough.
I still see "being moderately sensitive" as being ticklish to some extent.

I’d say it’s actually pretty rare for someone to not be ticklish. There’s just so many different spots, methods, speeds, tools, etc. to combine that at least one of them is bound to work on most people.

When you’ve tried all kinds of different combinations and none of them seem to produce any reaction (or occasionally, a negligible reaction) then I think it’s safe to say the person isn’t ticklish. This is all just my opinion.

 

[D-Tickler]

I’d say it’s actually pretty rare for someone to not be ticklish. There’s just so many different spots, methods, speeds, tools, etc. to combine that at least one of them is bound to work on most people.

When you’ve tried all kinds of different combinations and none of them seem to produce any reaction (or occasionally, a negligible reaction) then I think it’s safe to say the person isn’t ticklish. This is all just my opinion.

Exactly! I'm very in line with you!
For this, I prefer to evaluate any individual's ticklishness with a scale (of 0-10 or 0-100).

You may read some relevant content in this thread of mine:

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Thread 'Ticklishness is more variable than constant for most people'

Nov 1, 2025

Though I don't have much experience of real tickling, I've concretely perceived that ticklishness is more variable than constant for most people.

A typical source of my perception is my observation on my peers in school & university.
Specifically, I observed most of those peers getting tickled mostly on their waists in my childhood & teenagerhood. Most of them did have obvious ticklish reactions in some (perhaps most of) time, but on the other hand, reacted obviously less ticklish or even virtually non-ticklish in some other time.

The second source concerns the 'self report' that I saw...

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