Tickle Sessions?

[mattovil]

To all of you who are more experienced (than I am) out there, I was wondering what would be considered the best way to get a tickle session going. It might sound like a dumb question, but I see it as a big thing to get to since I don't really know how to find others who are into tickling.

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

Generally speaking your best bet is probably going to be meeting someone here. People have been successful getting vanilla friends or significant others to play with them, but personally I've always found it to be easier and more enjoyable to play with people who already have an idea of what I'm into and why.

That said, I would poke around here (no pun intended) and see who you can find in your area or whatever area you'd be willing to travel to to meet. Chances are one or both of you are going to want/need some time chatting to get to know eachother. After that once you've gotten comfortable with the idea meet for a non-play date - go for lunch or coffee and see how you get along in person. Once you're comfortable with that, you can talk about getting together to play 🙂 Of course this is just a general outline. Sometimes people do it differently - faster or slower. This is just how I've gone about it in the past.

Another way would be to look in the Gatherings section of the forum and see if there are any munches or gatherings in your area. I think they have occasional munches in Chicago that you might want to think about hitting up. There you can meet people and see if you click with anyone without any pressure. There's also a few annual gatherings that are a great opportunity to meet a lot of really great people all at once. NEST is held the beginning of every May in Philly. Bella's Birthday Bash is every November in Ohio. UNY is held Superbowl Weekend in Albany, NY. They're all great and you'll meet awesome people at every one.

Lastly, you could try the Personals. I don't know how much luck people really have with the Personals section around here, but if nothing else you can get the names of people who live in your area and send them a message. It can't hurt.

My advice on messaging - don't be overeager to ticklechat. It's a big mistake a lot of people make. Some people are really super into it. But many others, especially girls (in my experience) really prefer to get to know you a little bit first before tickle-flirting. Many girls (and maybe guys, too - I'm not sure) will flat out ignore messages that start with anything like, "Hey, where are you ticklish? Do you want to play? Tickle tickle!" or anything like that. Pretend you're walking up to him/her in a grocery store or a bar or in class and strike up a conversation that way. There is a lot more to all of us than tickling. Start with all that stuff and let the fun stuff come up naturally.

Sorry this is so long. Hope it helps! Good luck!

 

[mattovil]

I was thinking about some of the Chicago Munch parties if i could get up there. I wish there was a Bloomington area one just for tickling, although i am planning on going to a munch with one of the bloomington normal fetish groups off of fetlife. I also was thinking about going to Bella Bash or NEST sometime when i get the money together. Thank you for your suggestions, i really appreciate them.

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

Bella's is the next gathering. It's still several months away, but the upside of that is that it gives you lots of time to save up 🙂 And it's not super far, I don't think, right? If you can get it together to go, I highly recommend it. Bella's was my first gathering in 2008 (I think) and everyone was very welcoming. You'll have fun 🙂

Fetlife isn't a bad resource at all, either. The people you meet may not be specifically into tickling, but they're already kink-friendly, so you might have some luck finding someone who's curious to try it 🙂

 

[maniactickler]

Pay for it. search the internet for escorts.

 

[mattovil]

unfortunately i don't have money for escorts, but i was wondering when bella bash starts and when do i register?

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

I believe it's the second weekend in November. She'll post info about it eventually in the Gatherings section, and probably something in Tickling Discussion and/or General Discussion, too. But it's only June, so it probably won't be for a while yet.

 

[mattovil]

I believe it's the second weekend in November. She'll post info about it eventually in the Gatherings section, and probably something in Tickling Discussion and/or General Discussion, too. But it's only June, so it probably won't be for a while yet.

thanks for the info, from what I've read i will probably try my best to attend, it sounds like a blast.

 

[iloveddub]

Generally speaking your best bet is probably going to be meeting someone here. People have been successful getting vanilla friends or significant others to play with them, but personally I've always found it to be easier and more enjoyable to play with people who already have an idea of what I'm into and why.

That said, I would poke around here (no pun intended) and see who you can find in your area or whatever area you'd be willing to travel to to meet. Chances are one or both of you are going to want/need some time chatting to get to know eachother. After that once you've gotten comfortable with the idea meet for a non-play date - go for lunch or coffee and see how you get along in person. Once you're comfortable with that, you can talk about getting together to play 🙂 Of course this is just a general outline. Sometimes people do it differently - faster or slower. This is just how I've gone about it in the past.

Another way would be to look in the Gatherings section of the forum and see if there are any munches or gatherings in your area. I think they have occasional munches in Chicago that you might want to think about hitting up. There you can meet people and see if you click with anyone without any pressure. There's also a few annual gatherings that are a great opportunity to meet a lot of really great people all at once. NEST is held the beginning of every May in Philly. Bella's Birthday Bash is every November in Ohio. UNY is held Superbowl Weekend in Albany, NY. They're all great and you'll meet awesome people at every one.

Lastly, you could try the Personals. I don't know how much luck people really have with the Personals section around here, but if nothing else you can get the names of people who live in your area and send them a message. It can't hurt.

My advice on messaging - don't be overeager to ticklechat. It's a big mistake a lot of people make. Some people are really super into it. But many others, especially girls (in my experience) really prefer to get to know you a little bit first before tickle-flirting. Many girls (and maybe guys, too - I'm not sure) will flat out ignore messages that start with anything like, "Hey, where are you ticklish? Do you want to play? Tickle tickle!" or anything like that. Pretend you're walking up to him/her in a grocery store or a bar or in class and strike up a conversation that way. There is a lot more to all of us than tickling. Start with all that stuff and let the fun stuff come up naturally.

Sorry this is so long. Hope it helps! Good luck!

This is perfect! You don't know how creepy it can be having some guy see you as a you to fill a sexual need. I won't respond if it's not civil and friendly at first. This is a great place to look for a playmate/ partner. I've had no luck with fet
life but many have. 🙂

 

[Rusty Shackleford]

You can either:



Post regularly and at length in multiple sections on the forum, giving people an idea of your intellect, character, opinions, personality, etc, and then hope to connect with another ticklephile from the TMF and go from there.

Try Craigslist for locals in your area (it's a jungle, to be sure, but perseverance has paid dividends for me personally).

Make a well-rounded Fetlife profile (same principle as establishing yourself on the TMF). Most people on Fetlife are usually more willing to meet up IRL than folks here on the forum.

Attend munches and gatherings.



.....or the tried and true method of connecting with a vanilla (be it friendly, sexual or otherwise) and TACTFULLY introducing this peculiar proclivity of ours to them.



I've met a handful of people through CL, but most of my sessions have been with girlfriends more than willing to indulge me (it's usually a win-win for the both of us).

Good luck. It can take literally years of posting, messaging and searching before you find someone willing to session with you, but trust me is it worth it.

 

[voided9]

I've set up sessions through TMF Personals, Craigslist, and Fetlife. Just be sure to have a nice, detailed profile; a pic if you're comfortable, and don't come on too strong. Hope that helps!

 

[mattovil]

Thanks so much everybody, I am actually looking at attending a munch next week in my area, just to get to know everyone. And sooner or later i will update my fetlife profile even more. once i have time though.