Tickled Past Your Safeword

[DannyMc]

Has this ever happened to you , for one reason or another the tickling kept going . Did you find it a new and suprising experience or did it turn to anger or fear . Did it go to the point where it became almost a loss of reality ? .........This question is being asked because of something I read on another thread , this is not an endorsment to not acknowledge a safeword , it's just a question , has it ever happened to you .

 

[Vae]

This is just uncool. I don't use safewords most of the time, but notice the first half of the word: safe. A safeword is generally used when the tickling has become unpleasant. If you tickle past it, then you no longer give a damn what the other person is feeling. If you like the idea of making someone suffer, then why the hell agree to a safeword at all? A safeword is generally used between two people who trust each other greatly and if you break that trust, the whole thing is ruined.

That said, no, it's never happened to me, but I very rarily ever use safe words. 🙂

 

[TickledToDeath]

I will let you know IF I am ever tickled to and or past my safeword but you may be too old to read by that time!

 

[isabeau]

Has this ever happened to you

no it hasn't.............

 

[DannyMc]

Before anything becomes misunderstood , I added something to the question and I will add something here . This is not a endorsement to go past a safeword it's just a question to those that it may of happened to . Just a personal account of what they experienced ,no more , no less .

 

[AffectionateDan]

Never better happen on *MY* watch. Violating that trust is an extreme no-no, punishable by similar extremes. Respecting limits in this community is paramount. If someone chooses to not HAVE a safeword, the Ler is still obligated to maintain a careful watch for signs that the Lee has had enough. If the Lee's don't feel safe enough to play, these events will dry up and blow away. I have yet to witness it happening, because we go over the rules of conduct repeatedly to avoid anything like that happening.

Then again, on the flip side of the coin, there's always those out there who don't KNOW their limits, and opt not to safeword to test them. I've played with some of them. I still insist on talking about the option before we play. Dangerous waters to sail, but there's thrillseekers out there nevertheless. It all boils down to common sense and observation. Just keep your eyes peeled, respect limits, and everyone will have a fun time.

 

[ShadowTklr]

I don't use safewords either, which isn't to say that I wouldn't use one, but I just don't find the need for it. Part of the fantasy is to not know how long I will go, or how often I will attack. I actually WANT my lee to "suffer" the anticipation of the pleasure torture, and be fully aware that she has no recourse to evade me, nor preempt my intentions. But that's me and that's the way I play.

Having said that, I will tell you that I would never abuse a ticklee, and if there was a safeword, I would adhere to it.

It is my philosophy that the lee should enjoy the experience in a safe and trusting manner. All the talk about helplessness and no mercy and all that stuff is designed to stimulate her imagination so that the tickling I do give her is augmented by the excitement from the illusion of her having no control.

 

[AffectionateDan]

Very well put!

It is my philosophy that the lee should enjoy the experience in a safe and trusting manner. All the talk about helplessness and no mercy and all that stuff is designed to stimulate her imagination so that the tickling I do give her is augmented by the excitement from the illusion of her having no control.

Beautifully spoken.

 

[ShadowTklr]

Beautifully spoken.

Thank you much, my friend. 🙂

 

[maniactickler]

This is a new century. who uses safewords anymore!

 

[Luv2Tickle69]

The idea of having a safeword is indeed a good thing...but in my experiences, I never used one myself when tickled. But then, in all fairness, I was never put into a situation where I was tied or immobilized WHILE being tickled either....in every case (even during very lengthy sessions), I had freedom to move, and there were little breaks in the action (ranging from 10 seconds to a minute), and the tickling was done very freestyle. As my signature suggests, I was ALWAYS ready to take the most tickling along my feet, because that's where I favor being tickled the most AND the longest!!!

Now...on the giving end...I know for a fact I've never crossed any threshold of tolerance with any lady 'lee. If they had enough (even if it were only for a moment), I stopped....pure and simple. The idea (speaking strictly for me) is to keep tickling FUN for the 'lee....to allow them the ability to control the action....even if they were OK with some movement restriction (which was always done bodily rather than with ropes/cuffs). You'd be surprised how much longer they'd allow me to go, especially when they knew I could control myself....

....'lees and 'lers....no two of either group are built quite the same....

 

[tkrexx]

It is my philosophy that the lee should enjoy the experience in a safe and trusting manner. All the talk about helplessness and no mercy and all that stuff is designed to stimulate her imagination so that the tickling I do give her is augmented by the excitement from the illusion of her having no control.

That was well-said. I'm gonna remember that....And likely use it too!

Rxx

 

[Mephistopheles]

Well, I must admit I am a sadist, so yes, I do enjoy the suffering my victim has to endure.

But I never actually do it simply because I respect the trust the other person has vested in me by letting me tie her down.

Unless ofcourse I hate the person, that brings out the cold merciless sadist in me.

 

[luvgirlsfeet]

I've tickled tickleshotel to her password which at the time was penguin back in February 2006

 

[ticklish_bitch]

I don't use a safeword either, but my boyfriend and I are always tickling each other, and I completely trust him. It would be torture to go past my saying "I give up", which is when he usually stops, but at the same time, I think it would be awesome. I really want to try being pushed past my limits and past what I think I can take and see what it's like. Of course, I would never do it with someone that I don't trust as much as I trust him, but I think the whole experience could be fun. Does anyone else agree?

 

[wendynpeter]

I don't use a safeword either, but my boyfriend and I are always tickling each other, and I completely trust him. It would be torture to go past my saying "I give up", which is when he usually stops ...

Then "I give up" is your safeword (phrase). A safeword doesn't always have to be a stop word. In the bdsm world, we usually have a "yellow" word (that means slow down, caution, etc...) and a "red" word (that means stop now). These are intuitive ideas, and so lots of people with no formal exposure to bdsm often have a version of them, even if they think they don't. So it usually works out to be "I give up," or "OK,OK,OK!!!" and "Fucking cut it out right now!!!!!" LOL but it's all the same in the end.

I was going to post this to the "Should the 'Lee Like It?" thread, but I'll take the opportunity to say it here:

If you are a person who finds yourself getting off on the fact that you are torturing someone - really torturing someone (meaning that they hate what you're doing to them at ALL levels of their psyche), then you need professional help, because you're a sociopath. If you find yourself getting off on the idea of doing that, make sure you can keep that fantasy in check before you EVER enter into a real-life scene with another person. Play is play (intense play is intense play), but abuse is criminal behavior. And remember, above all else: Your bottom, NOT YOU, decides whether or not what you're doing is abuse.

 

[BellaRisa]

I really want to try being pushed past my limits and past what I think I can take and see what it's like. Of course, I would never do it with someone that I don't trust as much as I trust him, but I think the whole experience could be fun. Does anyone else agree?

Actually my Top and I do a little something like this, and it 'is' fun . He's a spanker converted into a seriously sadistic 'ler, and while "red" would stop everything immediately, he loves to tickle me into saying "please spank me! " and then counting down from 10 with the tickling intensified before he's done. It's *wrong* in that really good way and lets you test your limits while maintaining trust

Bella

 

[LEE_LACH]

A difenate no no to me. IF me and my 'ler use a safeword, it needs to be held with the utmost respect. I havn't heard of a case of "When tickling goes wrong" And hope to NEVER hear of one.

Anyway, the very base of the question is wrong. By letting the 'ler tie me up, I knowI could put my trust in Her/Him, and if the 'ler breaks that trust by ignoring the safeword...She/He will never lay a finger on me again.


Good Laughs. Liliach

 

[BikerBadBoy]

safeword

no it hasn't.............

Better question: Have you ever wanted to be? You know I don't like safewords. Has to do with rules I guess. Hate boundries!!!

 

[isabeau]

Better question: Have you ever wanted to be? You know I don't like safewords. Has to do with rules I guess. Hate boundries!!!

yes i have wanted to be..i do have a safeword but never had the opportunity to use it yet...and i know you don't like safewords.. i know you hate boundaries..and following the rules..yes i would like to be tickled past my safeword by the right person..

 

[gabrielle]

I don't use a safeword either, but my boyfriend and I are always tickling each other, and I completely trust him. It would be torture to go past my saying "I give up", which is when he usually stops, but at the same time, I think it would be awesome. I really want to try being pushed past my limits and past what I think I can take and see what it's like. Of course, I would never do it with someone that I don't trust as much as I trust him, but I think the whole experience could be fun. Does anyone else agree?

Yes, I do! Me and my ex boyfriend used to play without any safeword as well. I never wanted one. I trusted him completely as well and he never made me regret it. He knew, that once I started to beg him to stop I was very close to my limits as I usually never beg. He loved to listen to me for a while anyway 😉 but would eventually stop and that was perfect for me. So I did enjoy a bit of the sensation to be push past my limits, but it never went too far.
Recently I started to think about how it would be to be pushed even further and really enjoyed that fantasy. As a fantasy it has something very intriguing, but I am still not sure...I really like ShadowTklr's comment ...

All the talk about helplessness and no mercy and all that stuff is designed to stimulate her imagination so that the tickling I do give her is augmented by the excitement from the illusion of her having no control

I guess in reality it definitely IS all about the illusion.

gabrielle

 

[wendynpeter]

Better question: Have you ever wanted to be? You know I don't like safewords. Has to do with rules I guess. Hate boundries!!!

Uh huh. And are you a top, or a bottom?

 

[Mike3355]

i have been tickled beyond what you'd call a safe word yes, wasn't to upset cause well i wasn't in pain or anything, but it did infact turn out she just couldn't understand what i was saying threw me laughing like a hyena at the time...so all was good..

 

[wendynpeter]

...and i know you don't like safewords.. i know you hate boundaries..and following the rules..

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