Tickling: A genuine fetish/fascination, or an excuse for human touch?

[Artoo]

Good question, Crystal 🙂

People are on this forum for a variety of reasons, all centered on this love of tickling. Inevitably some people are here for reasons that many people are not here for.

I would postulate therefore that there is probably at least one person out of the sixty thousand members we have who is here for that reason. It may be none at all. It may be more. I don't know, as I can only speak for myself. And I'm here through a love of tickling - I live in a touchy-feely sort of society 😛

 

[huskys]

Do you think there are people on this forum who are just starved for touch, and use 'liking tickling' as a way to get physical contact and intimacy they're otherwise lacking in their lives?

I would say thats definitely possible. But I think it would be pretty easy to tell after a while if they were genuine "tickle lovers".

Excellent question though. I mean there are lots of people here who like tickling for different reasons, and have different ideas on what they want in a "tickle partner". To think there are people around who may not be that interested in tickling at all ..................... just goes to show how careful you have to be!!!

 

[xSamanthax]

Do you think there are people on this forum who are just starved for touch, and use 'liking tickling' as a way to get physical contact and intimacy they're otherwise lacking in their lives?

This is not a thread created to insinuate flaming. (for once. I know, I know!) I'm genuinely curious on hearing opinions.

Motivation is so hard to gauge.

But tickling *is* a form of intimacy (or can be) and it certainly involved physical touch. So in a sense, we are all seeking touch and intimacy. For me, it is not an excuse to be touched or be intimate...I don't need an excuse, lol. It is one of many ways that I experience touch and intimacy.

I do think it may be tempting for some to adopt tickling as a playful, non-threatening way to break that touch barrier and create some intimacy. Don't think there is anything wrong with that though.

I am sure that there are people who target tickle people because it seems to them a short cut to physical touch and the associated intimacy. I think that is true for any fetish though...the potential to be used like that. When you have such specific needs, it is easy for someone to take advantage of that need.

And to be honest, it happens with true tickle people as well. There are ler's and lee's who don't see a person, only an object to use for their personal satisfaction.

 

[Deleted member 66627]

I think people are misunderstanding Crystal here.

She's not asking you to defend or prove your tickling fetish. She asks a rather interesting question in that perhaps some people find their way here because they don't have, maybe have never had, any kind of intimate touching with another human being. Including, but not restricted to, tickling.

I am going to be honest here. There have been members over the years that I've witnessed and thought perhaps they found the TMF and decided to stay in hopes of meeting someone and using tickling as a form of human intimacy that they desperately want/need, not something they have to pay for.

Thanks, Man. You nailed it right there.

It just frustrates me, when there is someone that sticks right out as to just be 'sucking off' of this fetish for their own means of physical touch or lack thereof.

It's like..

Go find your own interest, chief. Don't step into a Den thinkin' you know well of what is involved in it.

 

[craigsie]

I think maybe a combination of both?......

 

[xSamanthax]

Thanks, Man. You nailed it right there.

It just frustrates me, when there is someone that sticks right out as to just be 'sucking off' of this fetish for their own means of physical touch or lack thereof.

It's like..

Go find your own interest, chief. Don't step into a Den thinkin' you know well of what is involved in it.

This is an interesting response.

I have never been "territorial" about my kinks, so I am having a hard time relating to this sentiment.

What do these types of people (who are sucking off the fetish) take away from you/the fetish/the experience of the forums? A sense of being special? A sense of true community? A sense of safety/security, knowing that you are with kindred spirits?

I see a lot of threads that boil down to who is "real" and who is "faking". I'm curious as to why we (humans in general) have this need to separate ourselves. I have a theory...I'd like to see what others think. =)

 

[TMF Jeff]

With so many people on the forum, I would guess that there are people here to cover every possible motive.

But I can't imagine a bad reason to be here. I like to think that the forum is just as welcoming to people who have only an intellectual appreciation of tickling as it is to a fetishist.

For example, a lot of models come here to post on behalf of a producer and end up getting swept into the community. And it seems that almost inevitably, they start to love tickling more and more. I can think of at least three or four examples of that, some of them posting in this very thread.

Another good example is the spouse/girlfriend who comes here to find out what their partner is up to, discovers what a warm group we can be, and joins in. The next thing you know, they're spotting mainstream scenes on TV and hurrying online to report them to everyone.

Honestly, I'd like that sort of thing to happen more often, not less...

Jeff

 

[Deleted member 66627]

I'm referring simply to the over the top, prominently visible aggravates.

'Turned' members are not what I am referring to.

I am protective of my fetish, Yes. I have been ever since I realized I've had one.

You get used to that when you have to/feel like you have to hide it from the world around you.

So, when situations arise where you spot a illegitimate (for lack of better word) and you carry a mentality like/similar to mine..It's easy to get a little uneasy.

It's like someone spying almost.

It's a lot easier for those that are open, I'm sure to feel that way..but me? No. It's Mine. And I'm protective of what's MINE.

 

[xSamanthax]

"It's a lot easier for those that are open, I'm sure to feel that way..but me? No. It's Mine. And I'm protective of what's MINE."

You may be on to something...I am very open about my kinks, never felt the need to actively hide them. I don't shout it from the rooftops, but I don't hide it either. But I can definitely see where having it as a "secret" would make one suspicious of other's motives...give that urge to protect that secret part of ourselves.


/muse

 

[Deleted member 66627]

I am very open about my kinks, never felt the need to actively hide them. I don't shout it from the rooftops, but I don't hide it either. But I can definitely see where having it as a "secret" would make one suspicious of other's motives...give that urge to protect that secret part of ourselves.

You got it. And much credit to you, babes. I wish I could..but I am just not there yet. I don't completely KNOW yet what I'm into..tickling may be a base..but it might branch off into other aspects...I don't know..

So when something that reads ingenuine approachs me..the claws have a tendancy to come out..because I guess I could say I am still vulnerable..because I am still learning.

 

[xSamanthax]

You got it. And much credit to you, babes. I wish I could..but I am just not there yet. I don't completely KNOW yet what I'm into..tickling may be a base..but it might branch off into other aspects...I don't know..

So when something that reads ingenuine approachs me..the claws have a tendancy to come out..because I guess I could say I am still vulnerable..because I am still learning.

Actually, I'd give you the credit. When I was around your age, I could not even acknowledge my desires, not even (maybe especially) to myself. So you are way ahead of the curve, imo.

And fwiw, I think self is the only one that matters with stuff like this. It may always be something you keep to yourself. As long as you aren't keeping it *from* yourself, you will be fine. =)

 

[Deleted member 66627]

Actually, I'd give you the credit. When I was around your age, I could not even acknowledge my desires, not even (maybe especially) to myself. So you are way ahead of the curve, imo.

Wow, thanks.

And fwiw, I think self is the only one that matters with stuff like this. It may always be something you keep to yourself. As long as you aren't keeping it *from* yourself, you will be fine. =)

Absolutley.

I just am careful of where I tread.. Because ingenuines approach and can screw my experience/learning up..which makes me angry/hostile/typical Jo.

 

[Wolf]

I think

The thorn, here, in the wise-beyond-her-years Crystal's paw, is that she has a pretty finely tuned bullshit detector, and when it pings, in a supposedly safe and open environment such as this, it can be annoying and troubling.
It's difficult enough, talking about deep-seated things like fetishes, without getting the feeling that there are people around who aren't really into what you're revealing you're into, and you wonder about their motives and intentions.

Of course, I could be wrong. I've been known to be.

 

[Deleted member 66627]

The thorn, here, in the wise-beyond-her-years Crystal's paw, is that she has a pretty finely tuned bullshit detector, and when it pings, in a supposedly safe and open environment such as this, it can be annoying and troubling.
It's difficult enough, talking about deep-seated things like fetishes, without getting the feeling that there are people around who aren't really into what you're revealing you're into, and you wonder about their motives and intentions.

Of course, I could be wrong. I've been known to be.

I would have been on of the first to jump all over ya if you were, man.

And you we're spot on.

Exactly. Motives and Intentions. That, and I feel they are interfering on something that isn't theres..just because they can't find touch any where else.

As Milagros mentioned earlier...get a damn massage.

 

[Lea28]

YES, but I like to be tickled...

Do you think there are people on this forum who are just starved for touch, and use 'liking tickling' as a way to get physical contact and intimacy they're otherwise lacking in their lives?

This is not a thread created to insinuate flaming. (for once. I know, I know!) I'm genuinely curious on hearing opinions.

Crystal,

Human touch is a fabulous thing for sure, and you are incredibly bright to suggest / ask, but for moi at least it's about sensual sensation and romance. That makes be blush... but it's true.

Hugs are nice and provide a "touch fix"... but tickling is different.

Having said that, if a guy wants to hug me after an hour of HOT sex, toe sucking, and tickling me from my neck to my feet, then even bettter 😉

Impressive mind you have...

Lea

 

[Maestro1874]

I would agree with those who have answered this thread with a, "It depends." response. I myself have a definite fetish for tickling that is separate and distinct from every other need. It's always sexual for me, and therefore reserved for appropriate situations. Just like I wouldn't, no matter how desperate for human contact I might ever become, run up to a random person and cock-slap them in the ear, I'm not going to randomly tickle someone either. It's a violation of trust, even if they DON'T have any idea it excites me.

Conversely, I am sure there are members here whom are starving for any contact at all, and can mostly be found on arbitrary assortment of fetish sites trying to find...something.

There are also a would assume an infinite gradation of shades in between. So be it! 🙂

 

[tickletime4u]

To me it's a facination first. A facination with how a light touch can create such power over somebody else. A facination with how different people react differently to being tickled in different parts of the body, yet every ticklish person is equal in the fact no matter how intelligent, powerful, wealthy or not, what type of person, confident or shy, everyone who is ticklish will be reduced to an hysterical jelly when tickled.

Other things that go with it also facinate me, the difference between a tickled person restrained and not, clothing, the fact a women for example can dress so powerfully by showing such confidence in her femininity, and yes by doing so is so vulnerable to the touch.

The fact here that it is all with consent also facinates me. The fact that every ticklee on here when faced with the temptation of putting themselves into a position of total submission to someone else will, provided they are happy with the person and the scenario, will willingly walk into the trap, some even convincing themselves, no matter how often they have been shown to be ticklish in the past, that they will get the better of the exchange and continue to be sassy even in the hysteria of defeat.

Yes of course I like to see it in action, and put these things into practice whenever possible. Is that part of wanting the intemacy you refer too, maybe it is as I would love to indulge more often than I do, I cannot deny that. but I also find it facinating, one of the few things in life that brign the mental, psyical and pschological aspects together all at once. Afterall, I struggle to see how something that can start with a gentle touch at one end of the body and end in total laughter and submission to soemone else at the other end of the body, can be anything other than very facinating indeed.

 

[tickledgirl]

Exactly. Motives and Intentions. That, and I feel they are interfering on something that isn't theres..just because they can't find touch any where else.

As Milagros mentioned earlier...get a damn massage.

Not quite sure if I'm understanding here. Are you saying that people are who hitting on/tickling/touching you under false pretenses? That's not cool, definitely they should back off.

But it sounds to me like you're saying you'd like to set up some kind of checkpoint to validate who should or shouldn't be allowed on the forum. Obviously that's impossible, but even the concept really rubs me the wrong way. Why should motive A for expressing a fetish be fine, but motive B be verbotten? Maybe I'm misunderstanding?

But I can't really understand how someone starved for touch would find satisfaction on an internet forum. So maybe you are talking about actual physical encounters, (at NEST or what have you) and I'm off-base here.

 

[Deleted member 66627]

But it sounds to me like you're saying you'd like to set up some kind of checkpoint to validate who should or shouldn't be allowed on the forum. Obviously that's impossible, but even the concept really rubs me the wrong way. Why should motive A for expressing a fetish be fine, but motive B be verbotten? Maybe I'm misunderstanding?

But I can't really understand how someone starved for touch would find satisfaction on an internet forum. So maybe you are talking about actual physical encounters, (at NEST or what have you) and I'm off-base here.

Misunderstanding.

Not looking for Validation, or any types of checkpoint, man.

Any one is welcome where they choose to wander.

Doesn't change the MIND-SET..that I carry.

Was simply vocalizin' it, is all.

 

[luvgirlsfeet]

It has always been a fetish/fascination for me since my pre-teens days and I'm glad it has continued on 😀

 

[tickledgirl]

Misunderstanding.

Not looking for Validation, or any types of checkpoint, man.

Any one is welcome where they choose to wander.

Doesn't change the MIND-SET..that I carry.

Was simply vocalizin' it, is all.

Got it. Thanks for setting me straight.

 

[Oddball]

Now I understand the question a bit better then when I first answered.

Now, are there people here who are looking simply for human contact, and use this particular fetish and environment in order to get that 'fix'? I would assume so, since I'm betting every avenue has a form of... for the lack of better wording, 'High jacking'.

Is it wrong or bad? Now, obviously one can't get touched through a computer screen, but to get that attention is one thing entirely different. I find myself in Crystal's corner, in the sense that I don't like the idea that people are here using a fetish I hold deeply, for reasons beyond just the sexual attachment, in order to get a quicky attention fix.

The idea of a massage or some form of physical contact doesn't seem like the solution or even the problem really. As stated before by other very smart people, it's just the attention. The PMs, answers to replies, and long chats about whatever are the real grabber of the Forums here that many people want.

So I don't think it's the lack of physical contact as much as it's the lack of positive communication that really brings people here, whether they are tickling fetishinists or not.

 

[brianspencer66]

I think there are those here that may use tickling as an excuse. But it is not just human physical contact but perhaps social contact to as some may have mentioned. In some cases that may not be such an bad thing.

I guess being a male I may not have the same sense of personal violation of somthing I hold dearly as a female may. But I guess its up to all of us to do sort of a mental spot check of the persons with whom we are dealing on a one to one basis (at least online to start). You know there is another intresting dimension to this. No one has brought up the fact that perhaps 2 people of the whom may harbor some ambiguity about tickling, yet who may seek intimate or any kind of contact may find they have somthing in common away from the community.

But as always with any large group your going to have people with differing objectives.

 

[Paultickler]

Tickling really turns me on! Isn't it the same?

 

[Deleted member 66627]

Tickling really turns me on! Isn't it the same?

Huh?