...I believe that I've developed a technique in which tickling can be utilized to either have a woman reach her climax, or just plain make it more intense. I'm sure others have developed their own style. What's great about it is I've had an opportunity to turn women who might hate being tickled into literal ticklephiles. I think the key lies in the fact that since tickling is a derivative of touch and sensitivity of touch, it can be used in such creative ways. Additionally, applying different pressure and textures (i.e. feathers, brushes, etc.) is what separates a master tickler from a novice in my opinion. Yet can't the same be said for foreplay? Essentially, I am convinced that women do not like being touched or tickled in one particular spot for long amounts of time. It becomes boring and they become desensitized. Like touch, one has to explore every inch of her body and try to memorize the most sensitive areas. I'd like feedback from women as to how they feel we men tend to just go straight to those sensitive spots. Time and time I've heard women say that they want us to work our way into it, yet the women I've done this with for the most part did not so much have a tickling fetish. I'm sure I can receive better input from women who are enamored with being tickled and have been from an early age. So....what is the best technique that receives the best results for you women? 🙂
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Tickling a Woman to Orgasm...
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Jimblast said:
So is there a specific technique you care to share, or is it just the variety? 😉
I agree that it's not as effective when a guy just goes straight for the sensitive spots - in sex or tickling. I much prefer a little variety and guesswork.
Nice post!
Well...
...first, no clip. I mean, there aren't many women would want me posting them in such a precarious position, I'll leave that to the producers in the forum.
Secondly, yes there is one particular set of techniques. I will say without being too specific that again, it involves paying attention. Let's face it, we all communicate in certain ways. I've found that in talking with someone, especially if you're on a date or are dating someone, using the 80/20 rule is effective. In other words, listen 80% of the time and use open ended questions to get the person to talk about themselves.
I'm going to go out on a limb and say that most women would prefer a guy who sort of takes control, yet is not over bearing about how he does it. If you have a first date with a woman, be decisive. Find out what kind of food she likes and have different restaurants picked out in advance. Have a plan and a back up plan. Give her a choice based upon a couple of things you feel she would like to do, and ask which she would prefer. Don't ever show up on a date and say, '...so, what do you want to do?'. By the same token, be flexible, if you choose something that you might think she would like, and she informs you she doesn't like it, then have a back up plan.
It's the same using tickling in the bedroom. Use variety, different textures, trying different pressure. Feathers, silk scarves, licking food off of her body, using your tongue, use them all. She will 'tell' you what she likes and what she doesn't like just by facial expressions, breathing, moaning, but like in a conversation with a woman, you have to focus and be cognaisant (spelling?) of what's she's telling you. Many guys miss this. Don't continually ask her...'do you like this?' or 'do you like that'?. Watch her face, listen to her breathing, hone in on her movements. Next, use your knowledge of the areas that create the most positive response and alternate between those areas. Don't just tickle in a particularly ticklish spot immediately, caress across a wider area teasing her until you get to the 'hot spot'.
Okay, that's the precurser. The rest of my technique would be between any partner and myself. I do feel that if guys started with this precursor, the chances of tickling your partner a second time will have much better odds. Once you have her attention, remember the adage, 'torment and pleasure'. I think if you take it to the 'torment and pleasure' level after paying attention to her body, then you may well find out what technique is best for you.
You know, after writing this, I suddenly feel like Doctor Ruth, and that very image is causing me to quit writing! LOL! Sorry!
...first, no clip. I mean, there aren't many women would want me posting them in such a precarious position, I'll leave that to the producers in the forum.
Secondly, yes there is one particular set of techniques. I will say without being too specific that again, it involves paying attention. Let's face it, we all communicate in certain ways. I've found that in talking with someone, especially if you're on a date or are dating someone, using the 80/20 rule is effective. In other words, listen 80% of the time and use open ended questions to get the person to talk about themselves.
I'm going to go out on a limb and say that most women would prefer a guy who sort of takes control, yet is not over bearing about how he does it. If you have a first date with a woman, be decisive. Find out what kind of food she likes and have different restaurants picked out in advance. Have a plan and a back up plan. Give her a choice based upon a couple of things you feel she would like to do, and ask which she would prefer. Don't ever show up on a date and say, '...so, what do you want to do?'. By the same token, be flexible, if you choose something that you might think she would like, and she informs you she doesn't like it, then have a back up plan.
It's the same using tickling in the bedroom. Use variety, different textures, trying different pressure. Feathers, silk scarves, licking food off of her body, using your tongue, use them all. She will 'tell' you what she likes and what she doesn't like just by facial expressions, breathing, moaning, but like in a conversation with a woman, you have to focus and be cognaisant (spelling?) of what's she's telling you. Many guys miss this. Don't continually ask her...'do you like this?' or 'do you like that'?. Watch her face, listen to her breathing, hone in on her movements. Next, use your knowledge of the areas that create the most positive response and alternate between those areas. Don't just tickle in a particularly ticklish spot immediately, caress across a wider area teasing her until you get to the 'hot spot'.
Okay, that's the precurser. The rest of my technique would be between any partner and myself. I do feel that if guys started with this precursor, the chances of tickling your partner a second time will have much better odds. Once you have her attention, remember the adage, 'torment and pleasure'. I think if you take it to the 'torment and pleasure' level after paying attention to her body, then you may well find out what technique is best for you.
You know, after writing this, I suddenly feel like Doctor Ruth, and that very image is causing me to quit writing! LOL! Sorry!
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Wow, Jimblast. You really know what you're talking about, at least in my eyes.
I think a little bit of foreplay is always good, but repetition isn't. At least not with something I consider sensual. I agree that you shouldn't ask "Do you like that?" often because it ruins the fun of tickling, at least in my experience. I don't like to talk, except beg, when being tickled, ESPECIALLY not to reveal something about certain spots on my body. I feel uncomfortable and I immediately think the fun is ruined when that happens.
Good posts, and I think that someone should never go straight for the goods. 🙂
I think a little bit of foreplay is always good, but repetition isn't. At least not with something I consider sensual. I agree that you shouldn't ask "Do you like that?" often because it ruins the fun of tickling, at least in my experience. I don't like to talk, except beg, when being tickled, ESPECIALLY not to reveal something about certain spots on my body. I feel uncomfortable and I immediately think the fun is ruined when that happens.
Good posts, and I think that someone should never go straight for the goods. 🙂
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luvn2laf said:
Darn! Another TMF gal w/a boyfriend. Aren't any of you chicks single?! Help me out here!
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Hey JimBlast,you make alot of excellent points using variety of touch,techniques as touch can be very erotic when a feather is used,even fingertips,ect which adds,enhances the pleasure or torment heightening the intensity of the tickling evolving if you will from playful tickles to the tickles where the woman has a tough time whether to laugh or moan or both🙂 and if I could add anything additional to say,it would be for the man tickling to demonstrate that he is enjoying himself as much as the Lee is and take your time enjoying every minute,every touch,ect. Personally speaking,this woman here relishes in the journey from the beginning to the wonderful orgasm and I have found that orgasms that aren't forced and happen naturally are the most intense..
I'd also like to add that I love all aspects from tickling,it is arousing even in it;s simplest form but I can keep the tickling playful,loving the laughter as I am adaptable,flexible,respectful to tickling with those lees,lers that are in relationships with another and they love the tickling to be playful,and keep the sexual side to themselves..
I'd also like to add that I love all aspects from tickling,it is arousing even in it;s simplest form but I can keep the tickling playful,loving the laughter as I am adaptable,flexible,respectful to tickling with those lees,lers that are in relationships with another and they love the tickling to be playful,and keep the sexual side to themselves..
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TKLMAN said:
I am single Tklman,I hear you are going to MTP this weekend..Have a great time!,I wish I could attend but I have other matters to take care of
Sorry Toneus...
....I have my memories and there is trust involved. I wouldn't even know how to approach a woman after such an intimate moment in order to see if she would allow me to post it in a tickling forum? Don't think that'll fly.
Something I didn't mention. I am a strong proponent through experience that after a woman climaxes, her body is ten times more sensitive thereby being ten times more ticklish. I'm convinced that is true. Asking the ladies, have you experienced the fact that you are much more ticklish after an orgasm? Just curious in terms of your input.
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....I have my memories and there is trust involved. I wouldn't even know how to approach a woman after such an intimate moment in order to see if she would allow me to post it in a tickling forum? Don't think that'll fly.
Something I didn't mention. I am a strong proponent through experience that after a woman climaxes, her body is ten times more sensitive thereby being ten times more ticklish. I'm convinced that is true. Asking the ladies, have you experienced the fact that you are much more ticklish after an orgasm? Just curious in terms of your input.
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Jim you are my kind of guy. It sounds like you actually understand the concept of really listening and not just hearing. I can't speak for the rest of the women here but I do love a guy who is decisive instead of "I don't know". I consider that sexy as hell. Any man that is willing to take the time to get to know their female, in bed and out, will be justly rewarded in their own right. They say variety is the spice of life. Thats true for every aspect.
I agree with Jim's post as well. In fact I'm dating a woman I really like and I'm carefully trying to find out what she likes by asking questions and listening carefully.
I don't know enough about her yet to know that much...but that is what dating if for.
But for dating I always suggest as specific a place to go or a movie to see or restaurant to visit as possible.
I don't know enough about her yet to know that much...but that is what dating if for.
But for dating I always suggest as specific a place to go or a movie to see or restaurant to visit as possible.
Thank you for the feedback!
Thank you for the feedback, Brookie, Hotel, Luvn' and Sultry Brunette! The true experts are the women like yourselves who know your own bodies and moods. I've asked about whether or not you all tend to be more ticklish after you climax....but here's another question:
Does your ticklishness change with your mood swings? From my experience, it does. Also, sometimes women I've tickled want sheer torment one time, and sensual the next. Soft strokes vs. really deep tissue kneading. Do your moods affect your ticklishness? I'm curious to hear your thoughts!
Thank you for the feedback, Brookie, Hotel, Luvn' and Sultry Brunette! The true experts are the women like yourselves who know your own bodies and moods. I've asked about whether or not you all tend to be more ticklish after you climax....but here's another question:
Does your ticklishness change with your mood swings? From my experience, it does. Also, sometimes women I've tickled want sheer torment one time, and sensual the next. Soft strokes vs. really deep tissue kneading. Do your moods affect your ticklishness? I'm curious to hear your thoughts!
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Orgasmic Toes
Hi Jim, I want to compliment you on a wonderful thread! It is nice to meet you. It is apparent that you are a loving and patient tickler. Yes, it is true for me anyway, after my orgasm, the tickling sensations become so much more intense for me. My toes are my "hot spot." When each of my sensitive toes is stimulated by a sweet caress and tender nibble, the feather's kiss will ultimately drive me mad with hysterical pleasure! Since I am always very excited before the tickling begins, my smiles quickly turn into sweet giggling and hysterical laughter. When the tickle-talk begins, I will loose it completely. Likewise, I love it when he tells me how nice and soft my feet are just before the kissing and nibbling begin. When my toes respond with wiggling and I begin to smile and giggle, his "evil" grin is so precious. It makes me crazy just writing this post. Anyway, thank you again Jim!
Hi Jim, I want to compliment you on a wonderful thread! It is nice to meet you. It is apparent that you are a loving and patient tickler. Yes, it is true for me anyway, after my orgasm, the tickling sensations become so much more intense for me. My toes are my "hot spot." When each of my sensitive toes is stimulated by a sweet caress and tender nibble, the feather's kiss will ultimately drive me mad with hysterical pleasure! Since I am always very excited before the tickling begins, my smiles quickly turn into sweet giggling and hysterical laughter. When the tickle-talk begins, I will loose it completely. Likewise, I love it when he tells me how nice and soft my feet are just before the kissing and nibbling begin. When my toes respond with wiggling and I begin to smile and giggle, his "evil" grin is so precious. It makes me crazy just writing this post. Anyway, thank you again Jim!Jimblast said:
After an orgasm, I don't want to be touched, much less tickled. It's too intense for me. I need to come down from the high before we could do anything else. Get my senses back in order before the next round. That's provided he did it right in the first place!
I'm into creativity. Surprise me-take me off guard! Make me feel like I'm the most important person in the world all day, and you won't have to worry about begging for "it" at night. I'll basically rip his clothes off for him!!
Oh, I absolutely hate "pushbutton sex"!! I use that term when a man automatically goes to the obvious spots in the name of quick foreplay. It's a major turn off for me-I'd rather not have sex at all than to have it with someone lazy, void of creativity, and in too big a hurry to get his "funky" off at my expense. Take some time with me and build the experience. How can you climax if you haven't built the tension to release in the first place??
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To answer your question about mood swings and their affect, most definitely! If I am tired from working all day or very relaxed with someone late at night then I appreciate the softer touch. That also works if I am down or upset. Something enough to get my motor running but not too much. But if its a spontaneous thing that begs for some rough play....oh yeahhhhhh give it to me like you mean it. It also depends on the part of my body too. Certain places the softer touch works better and then other places need a firmer touch to be effective. But then for me its a rare occurance. More like wishful thinking
Jimblast said:
I can't say I've really been tickled just after climax, but my b/f is definitely more sensitive at that time!
Mood swings... well I would be very happy to be tickled 24 hours a day. It's more the tickler who makes the difference. If I don't want that person to touch me or they aren't a very good tickler then my sensitivity is different. But if it's someone I like/care for, then they can tickle me all they want any time. I usually like sheer torment when it's a friend. With my b/f I enjoy both, but yeah - with him sometimes I do want one or the other. I'm not always in the mood for the soft, sensual side.
What great questions to get me thinking on a Friday...
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I have to agree with the other ladies here . Mood? For me yes . It all depends , sometimes even though they drive me NUTS! I want just the light "teasing" tickles. Other times torture. There are also times when I want both in the same session . Am I MORE ticklish after orgasm? OH HELL YEAH! 😱
It fascinates me to read these responses.....
....I understand that everyone is different. But with experience, I'm finding that there are patterns with tickling, touch, and how they pertain to a woman's anatomy and additionally her psyche. This is good stuff! I'm loving the feedback! Hopefully, a few of the guys out there are taking this in!
Next question for the ladies: I'm finding that blindfolds (sensory depravation) intensify the magnitude of touch....so does being blindfolded seem to make you more ticklish? I'm finding this as well with my experience. Naturally, to blindfold your partner, there has be be an element of trust!
....I understand that everyone is different. But with experience, I'm finding that there are patterns with tickling, touch, and how they pertain to a woman's anatomy and additionally her psyche. This is good stuff! I'm loving the feedback! Hopefully, a few of the guys out there are taking this in!
Next question for the ladies: I'm finding that blindfolds (sensory depravation) intensify the magnitude of touch....so does being blindfolded seem to make you more ticklish? I'm finding this as well with my experience. Naturally, to blindfold your partner, there has be be an element of trust!
Jimblast said:
Well this male is WAY more ticklish after an orgasm that is for sure and every lady I ever brought to orgasm was definitly much more ticklish after the orgasm...some ladies were shocked that I wanted to keep playing after she had cum...I just LOVE to play
🙂But yes, I agree with your main point Jim, you do have to explore a woman, touch her, feel her, caress her...that is usually why I start a tickle session with a massage because it relaxes the lady, and all the touching of her non-sexual parts in a slow but firm caress makes them tingle all over...then i pull out the really fluffy feather...
