TICKLING ACCEPTED

[Jagermeistered]

Bad idea. 🙂 I wouldn't buy a car I haven't driven before! 🙂

And, trade-ins can get pretty expensive. 🙂

 

[ticklechambers]

Maybe they outed themselves so that they weren't feeling like that were hiding a piece of themselves, and finally wanted to be completely honest about who they are.

yeah it was simply a step i took to be open about it. And Rhiannon, wow you like to debate. 😛 but... now that i've read all of this- just want to point out that i meet up with these people and talk about it face to face.

And there are some people i've told in my personal life too. Face to face- who haven't seen my online dating profile. I just wanted to let everyone know that- OMG sooooooo many people have been COOOOOOOOL with it 😛

🙂

hahaha, and no people shouldn't run around yelling "i love blow jobs..." lol... that's different. What guy doesn't like a blow job? lol. This is about me asserting my identity to the world. And feeling comfortable and confident with it. 🙂 It's about taking a step to accept who i am. Even if it's a baby step!

*tickles everyone who reads this comment and hugs them*

 

[Hyroneimus]

Haha this is quite interesting, have only openly admitted it to two people, but since I am a guy, i was REALLY wierd about it, just acted like i didn't care, and that always smooths things along, but I found that if i tell a girl about it, they just call it cute...-.- which is NOT cool at all, but then they have this look in their eye, and they want to see just how far my fetish really goes, and they tickle, and tickle, i get short of breath, and huff, and puff, and kick, and scream, so The moral so far is, i like telling girls =p they use it against me, but i kind of like it.....
😵

 

[rhiannon]

And Rhiannon, wow you like to debate.

Yeah, that's me!

OMG sooooooo many people have been COOOOOOOOL with it

You know what? I never once experienced someone NOT being cool with it. Because it isn't bad! And because most people don't give a crap as long as you don't want to DO it with them. 🙂

and no people shouldn't run around yelling "i love blow jobs..." lol... that's different

Why is it different? If tickling floats your boat, it's the same thing, and just because it is common that people like blow jobs, doesn't mean one thing should be shouted out into the world and the other thing shouldn't. 🙂 (By the way, I actually met guys in my life who DIDN'T like blow jobs! 🙂 )

 

[PomPom]

And would the same people also run around telling everybody: "I totally love blowjobs....this is who I am - take it or leave it"? I bet you, people would look at them like they are totally crazy! Most people don't WANT to know stuff like that.

Why does everybody and their mother need to know what turns them on? This doesn't have anything to do with being completely honest about who they are.

Close friends - I understand that! My closest friends indeed know I am into tickling - and they don't care, because it is completely not interesting to them since we don't have any sexual contact!

While you may not feel the need to do it, some people might want to so they feel better about themselves. Its comes down to personal preference.

 

[rhiannon]

While you may not feel the need to do it, some people might want to so they feel better about themselves.

Let's say my colleague felt the need to come to me and tell me what he is sexually into....believe me, I would think he is weird, not for what he is into, but for him feeling the need to tell me. 🙂

 

[Jagermeistered]

Ladies might find it weird, but most guys would call it: a sign from the gods(that they love him and want him to get laid!) 🙂

 

[Tidas]

Let's say my colleague felt the need to come to me and tell me what he is sexually into....believe me, I would think he is weird, not for what he is into, but for him feeling the need to tell me. 🙂

You say you love to debate, but you really aren't very good at examining context.

1.) the OP is on a dating site, which means people are going to talk about sexual preferences. This is no different than speed-dating except that it is more effective and efficient.

2.) "You know what? I never once experienced someone NOT being cool with it. Because it isn't bad! And because most people don't give a crap as long as you don't want to DO it with them." This only means you are lucky. People are judgmental, and just because you don't think it's bad doesn't mean PLENTY of people out there would heartily and vocally disagree with you.

3.) "Why does everybody and their mother need to know what turns them on? This doesn't have anything to do with being completely honest about who they are." Read what she posted. Friends and significant others. People who are close to you and care about you, and people to whom you may feel like you are not being completely truthful with in some situations. There are times when I have never felt like I could fully connect with some of my BEST friends in certain situations because I have to hide the fact that I have a few fetishes that I am nervous about sharing. Guys talk about sex. A lot. It gets pretty uncomfortable sometimes when you can't say what you really mean when having that conversation with your friends. Especially after 10+ years.

4.) "Let's say my colleague felt the need to come to me and tell me what he is sexually into....believe me, I would think he is weird, not for what he is into, but for him feeling the need to tell me. 🙂" Of course that would be odd. That isn't anywhere in the realm of what the OP was talking about, but sure, that would be strange. However, if you are having a conversation with some colleagues that happen to be good friends, and it turns to sexy stuff, people start sharing, things get interesting...why shouldn't it be ok to share your fetish then? Your friends would know something interesting about you, and you may grow closer for it. Or they may shun you and you would then know they weren't your friends anyway. Pretty important information imo.


So when you have an opinion about something that you think runs counter to someone else, make sure you are actually providing a counterpoint, instead of talking about something completely different, and making it look like you are debating.

 

[rhiannon]

You say you love to debate, but you really aren't very good at examining context.

So when you have an opinion about something that you think runs counter to someone else, make sure you are actually providing a counterpoint, instead of talking about something completely different, and making it look like you are debating.

Sometimes in a thread, the discussion widens, a discussion topic becomes more and more generalized. This is what happened.

Especially since there are a lot of threads where people worry exactly about what I am talking, that they feel the need that they should tell everybody around them what they are into.

the OP is on a dating site, which means people are going to talk about sexual preferences

That's right! But still I wouldn't list any of my sexual preferrences on my profile! Too many people I would not want to know could come across that site!

People are judgmental, and just because you don't think it's bad doesn't mean PLENTY of people out there would heartily and vocally disagree with you.

Also true. Would it be a big deal? No.

People who are close to you and care about you, and people to whom you may feel like you are not being completely truthful with in some situations.

Like my parents? Never really felt the need to tell them about it, at least not my father. My mother actually knows.

However, if you are having a conversation with some colleagues that happen to be good friends, and it turns to sexy stuff, people start sharing, things get interesting...why shouldn't it be ok to share your fetish then?

Now, if you read what I wrote more closely, you would know that my close friends all know about my fetish. None of them had a problem with it.

 

[PomPom]

Let's say my colleague felt the need to come to me and tell me what he is sexually into....believe me, I would think he is weird, not for what he is into, but for him feeling the need to tell me. 🙂

I doubt he would because a colleague isn't a close friend of yours.
I don't think 'colleagues' or 'aqquantinces' would ever tell you what they're into sexually.
I'm talking about close friends, people like that. They probably just want acceptance.

 

[rhiannon]

I doubt he would because a colleague isn't a close friend of yours.
I don't think 'colleagues' or 'aqquantinces' would ever tell you what they're into sexually.
I'm talking about close friends, people like that. They probably just want acceptance.

And there isn't a problem with that. My credo is, if you talk to the people about sex, I can also tell them that I'm into tickling.

But sometimes it seems that people on here feel they should out themselves to everybody around them.

 

[miskiduk]

Seriously, what the fuck is the point of 'outing' yourself to everyone? That's just stupid and obviously going to alienate some.
Sexual things are best left to bedroom play, is that not obvious? If you ran naked down the high street shouting (guys in mind here, since I am one) "I love pushing my nob into girls' pussies" you would be considered a nut-case - and probably a dangerous one! Ok, that's an extreme example, but along the same lines when it comes to discussing sexual turn-ons. They belong in sexual situations.
In any realtionship that becomes serious you are going to come to the question of what you like sexually. That is the time to 'out' yourself without seeming like a loony. In all honesty, not many people are going to have any major objections to a fetish such as tickling in this day and age, provided it falls within their own boundaries (and the general opinion is becoming much more liberal-minded in this regard). It isn't anything that someone would find particularly sickening I'm sure - maybe a little 'off-the-wall', but that's not a bad thing in most people's opinions.
I've only recently decided to 'out' myself, but I haven't gone around telling everyone. Why would I unless I'm about to fuck them?! Why the hell would I bother telling anyone else, unless I actually want them to think I'm some kind of sex-fiend?
Seems a no-brainer to me. However, I do appreciate that some of us (myself included) are old enough to have lived with the fetish before the days of the 'net. At the point you finally decide to give up the repression there is an obvious temptation to shout it out to the world. Just think about it though, how many everyday people go around publicly announcing their sexual desires in everyday life? Not many - and nor should we, otherwise we're just going to appear perverts. ...and maybe we actually are if we do?!

 

[socktickler86]

Sheesh, why does everything have to turn into a fucking argument (or as some would say, "heated disagreement")?

Anyhow, for one, let's just get this also into context. We're talking about close friends, not co-workers and the neighbor and the mailman. People go around having sex with people they've known for a weeks or a few days or for 2 drinks yet we still want to pretend it's some sacred part of our lives? Please.

Also, the fact of the matter is, even though some people may not understand it, some people feel telling close friends about these sorts of things can bring comfort to them. You can be intimate with someone who will outright lie to you about what they think about your lil 'kinks', but a good friend will tell you the truth because you don't plan on including them. It's a psychological issue I believe. Humans are social creatures. Not everyone interacts with other people in the same way.

 

[miskiduk]

Sheesh, why does everything have to turn into a fucking argument (or as some would say, "heated disagreement")?

Anyhow, for one, let's just get this also into context. We're talking about close friends, not co-workers and the neighbor and the mailman. People go around having sex with people they've known for a weeks or a few days or for 2 drinks yet we still want to pretend it's some sacred part of our lives? Please.

Also, the fact of the matter is, even though some people may not understand it, some people feel telling close friends about these sorts of things can bring comfort to them. You can be intimate with someone who will outright lie to you about what they think about your lil 'kinks', but a good friend will tell you the truth because you don't plan on including them. It's a psychological issue I believe. Humans are social creatures. Not everyone interacts with other people in the same way.

Yeah, that's a fair comment. It is often pretty reasonable to share sexual preferences with very close friends. However, I think you know the point I was trying to make.
Also, argumentation is a good thing - it leads to deeper thought. Only when it degenerates into personal attacks should it be considered pointless and stupid.

 

[rhiannon]

It is often pretty reasonable to share sexual preferences with very close friends.

And believe me, very close friends will just not care, because what you are into sexually does not affect them whatsoever! So unless you don't tell them something like "I enjoy drugging girls in bars and date-raping them!", I highly doubt the relationship will change after that confession.