Tickling and Sex Question, Please Help!

[feathercap]

Hi there everyone!

Iv'e had a foot/bondage/tickling fetish for as long as I can remember. But ever since I've started dating...(I'm 18), I've run across quite a problem. I'm now in a pretty serious relationship(almost 2 years) and my girlfriend is really open in letting me tie her up and tickle her feet.

A good thing, right? Well the problem is is that everytime we try to do something else sexual I can't get aroused. I think it's because I've had the fetish so long and when I began masturbating I only fantisised about feet tickling. In fact, sex in itself still makes me a little bit queezy, and I've yet to have an orgasm with her except for when I'm tickling her. It's very frustrating because I know i'm noy gay...it's just all I want to do is tickle her! It's causing quite a problem because she wants to be sexual and I just can't phiysically do it. Has anyone else had the problem...any insight?? I'm really desperate.

 

[ViperGTS]

That's a shame, man. My lady friend is very much into the whole tickling thing too, only I can't say either of us have ever had a problem with getting aroused during it. It sounds more serious than just something that can be talked out...perhaps you shoudl talk to a doctor. You may have a chemical imbalance that's triggered by the fetish.

Or you might be thinking about the wrong thing.

I'm as far from a doctor as ya can get.

I wish you best of luck.

 

[Red Jester]

I don't quite understand your problem. Why can't you just have sex right after you tickle her if that gets you up?

 

[feathercap]

because the tickling is the only thing that arouses me...when im done...so is the penis...we've tried the beginning stages of sex but I just go down...handjobs or bjs wont work either...only tickling...i dunno maybe professional help would be beneficial...i just dont have the means to pay for it, or who to go to...

 

[Newcastle Uni]

Hey man.

Hmmmmm. I sort of have the same problem. I'm far more interested in tickling than anything else. Can you ever get it up by just thinking of tickling a girl - your girl even? Why not concentrate on tickling her whilst having sex. Imagine in your mind that you're tickling her and that shes laughing. Maybe (and this might be a crap idea) you could get some sort of headphones and listen to a recording of you tickling the crap out of her whilst doing it. She'll get the sex she wants and not be able to hear the tape. You can just use her as a great big wanking machine whilst you imagine tickling her????

A rubbish idea, but an idea nonetheless

 

[b0xr]

Why don't you try tickle talk...I've done that with my wife with excellent results. Tell her how much you are going to tickle her once she has orgasmed.How you will pin her down and have your way with her.

 

[AquaFeline]

Tickle her while you're inside her, or if this also works have her tickle you while she's on top. Even if it's difficult to have sex that way sooner or later I imagine you'll either learn to tickle during sex or to have sex after tickling.
It's also quite all right to think about other things than the person you're with during sex if that's what it takes at first; there's also the possibility of having tickling porn on (maybe she could play with you while you're both watching?)

 

[nosforatiop]

I've had similiar issues

And I'll tell you why: It's because you have a paraphilia instead of a fetish; meaning you need one particular stimulus to get aroused. I have the same thing and I have sex with my girlfriend almost every night. The problem I used to have is that I would simply be thinking about it to much. Incorporate your tickling with your foreplay; take your time and wait until your really erect and ready. Main thing is relax and don't be thinking about whether you'll be able to perform or not. Another thing is don't masturbate for a few days, let yourself get really worked up. One method I use is playfully tickling my girl while were both naked up to the point where my penis is touching her vagina and I would slowly work myself in while she is laughing hysterically (mmmmm....excuse me). Try getting a hand-job from her while tickling her just enough so she can barley concentrate on what she's doing. If you see where I'm going with this; then use your imagination. There are lots of ways to incorporate tickling into your sex life.

Hope this helps

 

[Em Es]

You can have sex and tickle her feet @ the same time

FC, just mount your girlfriend from behind while tickling her feet, which will be within reach down by your knees.

 

[feathercap]

Well thanks a lot everyone for your advice, I will definitely use it.

This place is really cool...i'm glad I joined up.

 

[Newcastle Uni]

Well thanks a lot everyone for your advice, I will definitely use it.

This place is really cool..especially the NewUni bloke ..i'm glad I joined up.

Cheers man!






Yes, I changed his quote. Sorry.

 

[irina]

And I'll tell you why: It's because you have a paraphilia instead of a fetish; meaning you need one particular stimulus to get aroused. I have the same thing and I have sex with my girlfriend almost every night. The problem I used to have is that I would simply be thinking about it to much. Incorporate your tickling with your foreplay; take your time and wait until your really erect and ready. Main thing is relax and don't be thinking about whether you'll be able to perform or not. Another thing is don't masturbate for a few days, let yourself get really worked up. One method I use is playfully tickling my girl while were both naked up to the point where my penis is touching her vagina and I would slowly work myself in while she is laughing hysterically (mmmmm....excuse me). Try getting a hand-job from her while tickling her just enough so she can barley concentrate on what she's doing. If you see where I'm going with this; then use your imagination. There are lots of ways to incorporate tickling into your sex life.


This is not meant to be in any way a useful reply to the original question, for which I apologise, but I had to tell you how incredibly aroused I was by the thought that I just read from killerangel. 'Try getting a hand-job from her while tickling her just enough so she can barley concentrate on what she's doing.' I don't know about your guys, but concentrating on that image has already produced three orgasms in me and I only read it about ten minutes ago. Thank you for the idea - it will live with me for a long time to cum.....

 

[ViperGTS]

Cheers man!






Yes, I changed his quote. Sorry.

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