Tickling - Erotic or platonic?

[nytoetapper1]

Is tickling erotic or platonic for you? Does it always need to involve sex, or can you just enjoy tickling for the enjoyment of it?

For me, it's 90% platonic. I just enjoy tickling some girl's feet. Seeing how they squirm and writhe and hearing their laughter. While I do get a little worked up during a platonic session, sex is not the goal, then. The other 10% usually happens during sex. A little playful tickling to spice things up.

What say you, my people?

 

[TickledToDeath]

Depends on who you're with and the intent during the tickling.
While it does NOT HAVE to involve sex, it could but for the most part, it is platonic. However as you pointed out, one could get "worked up" during the tickling making the lee that much more ticklish. The actual act of sex is not mandatory.

TTD

 

[kibdos]

This is a fascinating question.

Speaking personally, ALL tickling is erotic to me even though 95% of the tickling I have done throughout my life has never developed into sexual contact. While I love using sensual tickling as foreplay, most of my experiences have been grabbing a girl's feet, tickling them for about a minute or so (if I am lucky) and then letting them go. It was undeniably sexual for me but not for her and no sexual contact followed. I don't know if I would describe this as "platonic" exactly since one of the pair (myself) was aroused by it.

I tickled my mother-in-law for years. This was obviously sexual for me - it may have been for her as well - but we never discussed it. It led to a brief excursion into actual sexual contact once but, when we both backed off, the tickling continued unabated. I have a long-standing, platonic but very close relationship with a female who loves having her feet tickled the way cats love to be stroked. It is pleasurable but not sexual for her. Again, however, it IS sexual for me even though the prospect of any other "normal" sexual contact with her is out of the question. I like women's feet; I like tickling. They both turn me on and the feelings remain sexual for me even if the tickling takes place in a "platonic" relationship.

Perhaps it's a substitute for sexual contact. I like sex as much as any man but I admit - and this confession may label me as a weirdo - tickling a woman with whom I have no sexual relationship can be as erotic as having sex. I've met a number of women who gave me - involuntarily - arousing foot-tickling sessions that I still remember with fondness but who would have done nothing for me in bed. Of course, if you get great tickling and great sex wrapped up in one woman, you have the best of both worlds.

 

[nytoetapper1]

Very insightful, Kibdos. Thank you! Most of what you said mirrors my own thoughts and experience. And if what you said makes you a wierdo, I don't wanna be "normal".

 

[TicklishLynn1]

I agree that it doesn't have to but in nearly every single case, when I tickle with another woman, It does in one form or another.

 

[Mousepawz]

In general, it is totally platonic. It can only become sexual for me if it is with my significant other. Tickling is not sexual for me, it is just another thing that can be worked into an intimate activity. But, for those out there, whatever works.

Pawz

 

[iluv2tkl]

For me, and for probably most of us, we were born loving tickling. I mean we always liked it or at least from a young age. Then as I matured and became able to know what sex is and that it is enjoyable then naturally tickling came along with it. Tickling in a sexual way is just the greatest, but then plain ole fun tickling is as well. Being that I am engaged, when I tickle my girl, it is sexual, plus I have a tickle fetish and so does she. I think tickling is both. I mean occasionally a family member or friend will tickle me or I them, but it does not cause a circus in my pants like it does when either I tickle my girl or she tickles me.

Tickling is a wonderful, beautiful thing. Enjoy it no matter what way as long as it is enjoyable.

Please visit my two threads to learn more about me and hear some cool stuff. I tell the story of me and my tickle soul mate whom I met about three months ago in a thread named..
(I am the new guy and I have quite a story to tell)
and check out tickling tips and neat insight in my thread...
(If you love tickling, you gotta read this)

thanks my friends in ticklin

 

[vampyr]

Well I have had erxperiences with both. Platonic tickling can be more fun than erotic in some circumstances. Like there was this guy I used to study with in high school and we were just "pals". One night we were sitting outside the library after it closed and he just happened to mention that he liked the sound of my laugh. Well I had my shoes off and my feet in the fountain outside the main entrance and I put my bare feet in his lap and said "Make me laugh. I dare you." (Note to all women: never say "I dare you" to someone who is in a position to tickle you) and he tickled my tender feet for about 15 minutes! After that we would "fun" tickling when we had a chance and it never led to anything sexual.

 

[sole seeker1]

For me tickling can be either sexual or platonic. I have tickled people's feet and not gotten turned on by it - usually family members. For instance, while I was growing up I tickled my mom and brother. Later, when my daughter was growing up, I tickled her. None of these experiences were sexually stimulating.

Upon reflection I'd have to say it depends on the person and the situation in which I'm tickling them. I could tickle my daughter one morning in a non sexual way - just poking fun (snicker, pun intended), and my wife the same evening - as sexual foreplay.

 

[TickleTheater]

For me, it really depends on who is tickling me. If it's a friend of mine then it is platonic for me, as in "all in good fun". However whenever my girlfriend tickles me it definately turns erotic... 😍

 

[TRU1]

For me tickling can be either sexual or platonic. I have tickled people's feet and not gotten turned on by it - usually family members. For instance, while I was growing up I tickled my mom and brother. Later, when my daughter was growing up, I tickled her. None of these experiences were sexually stimulating.

Maybe the last part is a good thing? lol, I think that if you got stimulated by tickling one of your FAMILY members, you're minds messed up, because thats just wrong...Btw, I prefer platonic, however whenever I do watch a tickling video (on my pc) I always get stimpulated hardcore and its not because I fool around with myself, but its because its something about me, I dont know, It gets me stimulated for some reason..thats only with videos though...I haven't done tickling to my family sometimes with my girlfriend but I never got stimulated because we were just having fun.

 

[iluv2tkl]

I agree. If it is my girlfriend then I definately like it in a sexual way. speaking of which, I just got back from taking her home and got some good lower stomach and private parts tickling done on her. She absolutely loves it, and yeah it is erotic for me and her. I can, however be tickled by a friend and it is not sexual, but I do not let other females do that to me, it is like cheating on my woman since tickling is like sex to us. Besides, I am the only one that knows it turns her on and she is the only one that knows I get turned on by doing it to her.

Perfect match huh?

 

[iluv2tkl]

If you have a girlfriend/wife and are a guy who likes to tickle. You have no idea what you are missing by not trying it in an erotic manner. It is mind blowing. The female body is a remarkable thing, able to sense a variety of pleasures. You can make her go crazy.

I love ticklin

 

[SyDemon1]

Oh boy

You're making me drool....

 

[Leegrrrl]

good question

I have to say that for me most tickling is erotic, not that I necessarily need it to lead to sex or that I have to be attracted to the person who's doing it, but there's always that little tinge of sexual stimulation that's always been there for me even when I was young.

I've been debating this a lot lately since friendly people here on the forum (and others) offer to tickle me a lot (which would be fun since I could push some limits). Even if it was platonic for them though and just fun I don't think I could do it because there would always be that sexy part of it for me that wouldn't be right to do since I have a fabulous boyfriend. I wouldn't want him doing something that gets him "excited" with someone else, ya know? So all my lee tendencies are for him, sorry all.

 

[iluv2tkl]

I agree with you leegirl

When I tickle my girlfriend, it is always at least somewhat sexual if not 8 inches of sexualness which usually is the case.

I do not tickle other females. Now way, I have an unreal fetish toward tickling and so does my girl who sounds alot like you, are you sure you are not my girlfriend?

I see how people may can tickle and it just be plawhatevertonic.
I mean when a male friend pokes me or something, it definately does not turn me on.

With my girl though, geez, you just have no idea, or maybe you do.

Even tonight I got her wet, super wet, just me tickling her does a number on me as well.

 

[PunKyGurl]

Well since I really don't post much, I guess I'll put my two cents in.

Personally, for me, tickling is platonic, I just have a lot more fun being playfully with others, either male or female. Really that's just how my personality is, playful.

But I would have to say that it would maybe be erotic with a significant other, but I would never know(yet). 🙁

 

[iluv2tkl]

Youare correct

Tickling for my girl was just fun, until we met. She had always had a fantasy in her teens to be tied and tickled by her lover, but that did not make being tickled erotic to her until she met me. Mwa ha ha ha. Read my recent post to my tickle tips thread (tip # 43)
The whole thread contains platonic and erotic tickling but I doubt you can read that last tip especially and not think that would feel erotic and very desirable

The thread is called...
(if you love ticklin, you gotta check out this thread)

 

[nytoetapper1]

Leegrrrl makes a good point. However, if your relationship is strong, there should be no conflict (not that I'm campaigning here).

Let me make a counter point. Guys and gals go to strip clubs and flirt and do other things that may get them charged sexually, while knowing that it's going no further. There's a saying, "It doesn't matter where you get your appetite, as long as you come home to eat." Unless you reach "O" from the tickling, it shouldn't be a problem. My wife doesn't like to be tickled 🙁 (I'm still working on that) but she doesn't mind if I tickle others. She's aware that there is some sexual aspect to it, but she knows full well that I am hers and would never do anything to jeopardize that.

Again, I'm not trying to discount what you say, or question the strength of your relationship (and/or will). I'm just trying to offer a perspective that some people may not have considered.

 

[nytoetapper1]

And Punky, anytime you're in the city, give me a holla!

 

[dsimmonsii]

4-sho!

Maybe it's cuz we're probably from the same area, i.e. NY, but I agree w/ Tapper. You can do whatever you want to someone as far as teasing goes, but that satisfaction better not come from no where else but you're sig-other. Definitely alot of dirty dancin at clubs and bars and parties that is no doubt meant to stimulate yet most people go back home with all that energy and tear up their lover... least I do. Ticklin is the same. Sure it can be platonic, but only when it's with someone you cannot have interest in like (insert family members here). But just like dancing, outside the bloodline, there is always atleast a hint of if not full blown sexuality...

 

[PunKyGurl]

Um...no thanks nytoetapper...I'm probably too young for you anyways...😕

 

[nytoetapper1]

Well said. Represent NYC!

 

[nytoetapper1]

Well, at least you didn't say I was too old!!!
:weird:

 

[iluv2tkl]

I have a question

I am a full body, multi sensationalist, tickler. This means that is it is a ticklish body part, I will tickle it and I tickle it many ways.
There are basically two types of ticklin: hard/intense and soft/light pleasure. The human body can interpret both of those feelings in either a sexual or non sexual way. I tend to feel that the light soft tickling is only for lovers. I mean if a man is tickling a girl soft and pleasing, she naturally will be enjoying it, but how can t be said that there would not be at least some hint of sexualiity for either ler or lee? It would be hard to say that.

Now my question is this. I like to tickle everywhere. Could a straight man honestly say that tickling a female on or around her kitty and groin area, making her squirm and laugh, does not turn him on? Furthermore, could a female this is being done to, say that it does not turn her on.

Tis difficult at times for me to see tickling as non sexual because I have a massive fetish in this area. This is why I only tickle my woman, which is also good because she has a fetish ot be tickled as she recently discovered within the last year. She knew she liked being tickled, but not like that until now.

One other thing, nytoetapper, I find it hard to believe that you could not get your wife into some form of tickling.
I believe that everywoman, unless hindered by traumatic past experiences, can be taught to enjoy some form of tickling.
If you read my tips thread, there is another tickle lover that has a woman who he wants to get into tickling. I offered him some bang up advice there. Tickling by definition is a pleasing of the skin, sometimes it can be an irretant but you just have to work at not making it that. If your wife likes being touched in a pleasing manner, then tickling is already present, just waiting for you to unlock a more intense form. Mixing tickling and foreplay/sex is a great way to get her into it. Again, you got to read my tips.

I know the joy of having a lover who loves to be tickled. It is my desire that everyone have a lover in this way because the pleasure is awesome!