TICKLING FETISH (do you want to live it out?)

[Cavum]

This is just something I got to see for myself...
is this really true?? I just read this statement:

A lot of people on communities like this don't even want to live their preferrence (I do avoid fetish here although I usually do refer to it as a fetish myself because I think only very few people actually have a "pathological" tickling fetish) in reality and are content just to talk about it, do cyber play or watch clips and pictures

Personaly I think this is the biggest load of bullcrap I have ever heard, but I guess we'll see...

 

[lilone4sir]

Umn... wtf?!?!?

Maybe I'm an oddity in the community then but I don't watch clips, look at pics or cyber play. If I wasn't playing... what the heck would be the point?!?! Lifes for the living... and last I checked I was still breathing!

 

[Tckleme]

It´s definitely not true.

 

[Cavum]

Poll added....

 

[rhiannon]

Since this is my statement, let me clarify: It doesn't come from me, but from someone who is in the tickling community for a long time and just made that experience over the years. And guess what...I have also made that experience! Very often, people are all about a tickling session, but when it gets real, many, many, many back out!

People who actually will answer actively on here of course will not give that answer! But look how many people on here are actually posting and look how many are just lurking! So - it will be really hard to find evidence for this!

As for me: I do WANT to live it out, but I don't NEED to.

 

[drnkntklr]

Of course I want to partake in the experience. Maybe someone who is more of a voyeur prefers to merely discuss and watch videos, but I think it's fairly safe to say that strict voyeurs are in the minority here at the TMF, most of the people here want to experiment.

 

[*giggles*]

since what i love most about tickling are the sensations and interaction between lee and ler, i'd definitely not be content just watching videos and chatting about the subject. all of that does very little for me compared to the real experience.

 

[milagros317]

I want to live it out and do live it out, mostly with Goddess Shelly these days.

 

[solescratcher99]

I think only very few people actually have a "pathological" tickling fetish

I know I'm being nit picky here but, generally speaking, pathological means behavior that is A) unhealthy; diseased and B) the cause of traumatic experiences.

A person's sexual preferences have little to do with pathology. It's like when psychologists used to assume people were gay because of 'daddy issues'.

Anyway, yeah, I assume some people are on here out of curiosity and between being vanilla or 'fetish'. I wouldn't say that the majority (fetish or between-ies) don't want to experiment or make tickling a part of their sex lives though.

 

[rhiannon]

When I say "pathological fetish", I mean that the person is unable to experience sexual gratification without that fetish. And still I wouldn't consider it "unhealthy" unless the person itself suffers from this condition. Most of the time if a person needs to have the fetish to be sexually aroused, the person does indeed suffer because of it.

 

[Rook's Media]

Most of the time if a person needs to have the fetish to be sexually aroused, the person does indeed suffer because of it.

What??????



Once again, with all due respect:

How in the world do you know?

To make a statement like this, you must be an expert on fetishism...right?

Fetishism is a very, very deeply rooted part of many human beings.
If they have a good grasp on their particular fetishes, it's actually quite a healthy existence. Many view it as a gift...



Ryan @ Rook's Media

 

[KrazieDog]

What needs to be separated from the very start is that lurking has anything to do with not wanting to live it out. It does not. Lurking is a state of being, and a simple phrase here that mean "not participating and or contributing". Lurkers may be living out the fetish/kink/love of tickling every damn day of their lives and just "choosing" not to participate in the community or social side of things. The same way most men are living out their sexual lives, doesn't mean they won't go and look at porn on the internet without joining the social aspects of a forum. Like others have said their is no way to know what any one other person prefers without each and everyone giving their opinion on it.

People are here because of their fetish or love of tickling. For 10's of thousands here it is or can be sexual and/or they love it to the core. To assume that most aren't interested in having it in their life is like assuming most of the kid's in a candy shop don't like candy, but only like to look at it.

 

[solescratcher99]

Most of the time if a person needs to have the fetish to be sexually aroused, the person does indeed suffer because of it.

Does a gay man necessarily suffer from his sexuality because he needs another man to be sexually aroused? Does a heterosexual woman suffer from her sexuality because she only becomes aroused by men?

In most romantic/sexual situations, there is always going to be some level of suffering. However, isolating that suffering to the sexual activity itself is begging the question.

Does someone who needs feet/tickling/bondage to get off suffer because of it? If so, what are the conditions of this distress?

I think if you look into this, you'll find the likeliest reason a person suffers from their sexuality has a lot to do with the social reaction towards that individuals sexual activity. In other words, most sexual based distress has more to do with the society's perception of that sexuality than the sexuality itself.

 

[rhiannon]

What??????



Once again, with all due respect:

How in the world do you know?

To make a statement like this, you must be an expert on fetishism...right?

Fetishism is a very, very deeply rooted part of many human beings.
If they have a good grasp on their particular fetishes, it's actually quite a healthy existence. Many view it as a gift...



Ryan @ Rook's Media

How do you know I'm not a sexual therapist dealing with it every day? Okay, I am not, but a good friend of me is a psychologist specialising in stuff like this, and in a German forum I hear quite frequently from people who can only be aroused by tickling a woman. If their girlfriend undresses in front of them, nothing happens. And that DOES bother them, their girlfriends and the relationship! Therefore - they suffer!

I don't know if you look at fetishism in another way that I mean here. If it is just one thing among others that arouses you, like it is for me, then cool - no problem! But if it is the only thing that arouses you, even if it is not something as unusual as tickling, it can be a big issue. I know it would be a big issue for me if my husband could only be aroused by tickling me, even though I am into it, because I would always get the feeling that it is not ME he wants, and that I could be replaced at any point in time.

I think if you look into this, you'll find the likeliest reason a person suffers from their sexuality has a lot to do with the social reaction towards that individuals sexual activity. In other words, most sexual based distress has more to do with the society's perception of that sexuality than the sexuality itself.

I completely agree. But since you need at least one partner for most sexual experiences, the "society's" perception of the sexuality is very important to the single individual.

 

[Musicroxmysox]

Honestly, I don't see the point of being here if you don't want to actively engage in the fetish....

I mean I understand some people are still lurking and getting comfortable and such, but to never want to do actual engaging....that I just don't get.

 

[rhiannon]

It's pretty easy!

For the longest time I never thought of really living it out, I just came here to look at pics and for the clips! I never even looked at the threads in the discussion forum, I didn't care, I had no interest to talk to people who shared the interest, because it was just something I wanted to witness.

I didn't want to be tickled or tickle. I actually didn't like to be tickled and got aggressive when people did!

And I know I'm not the only one who is that way. Sometimes the attitude changes, but for some people it never does.

 

[Cavum]

It's pretty easy!

For the longest time I never thought of really living it out, I just came here to look at pics and for the clips! I never even looked at the threads in the discussion forum, I didn't care, I had no interest to talk to people who shared the interest, because it was just something I wanted to witness.

I didn't want to be tickled or tickle. I actually didn't like to be tickled and got aggressive when people did!

And I know I'm not the only one who is that way. Sometimes the attitude changes, but for some people it never does.

And again...you don't have a fetish. It's something you like. And thats the case of the ones you know as well. Thats two very different things. Why is that so hard to understand? You don't change attitude to a fetish you have. It's there even if you like it or not. I have been at a point where I HATED my fetish, but it's still there and I still get turned on by the things.
It's allways "interesting" to see non-fetishists who tryed to analyze how a fetishist works... Just because you know someone that is a psychologist specialist in fetishism don't make him/her or you a expert in fetishism.

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

There are two assumptions being made here. I believe that both are totally wrong. One is that people who lurk rather than posting aren't really into things. The other is that only those with a true fetish want to be tickled.

Some people lurk rather than posting because this is such a deeply personal thing for them that they are uncomfortable discussing it in "public". They would rather keep to themselves and enjoy it with their partner(s) than discuss it on an open forum like this.

You don't need to have a "fetish" to enjoy being tickled. I absolutely love being tickled. But, while it can be sexual for me at times, it is not a fetish (or, more correctly, a paraphilia). Still, I come here and share my thoughts with others who enjoy it...no matter what level each of us enjoys it on.

As with any other sexual interest, tickling doesn't necessarily have to make ones life feel miserable. Those who enjoy "normal" or "everyday" sexuality can be just as unhappy or frustrated or whatever as those who enjoy something different. The difference is largely in whether or not we accept it in ourselves. Society around us will always have its own opinions of things. Though it can effect us, we don't have to allow it to.

 

[rhiannon]

And again...you don't have a fetish. It's something you like. And thats the case of the ones you know as well. Thats two very different things. Why is that so hard to understand? You don't change attitude to a fetish you have. It's there even if you like it or not. I have been at a point where I HATED my fetish, but it's still there and I still get turned on by the things.
It's allways "interesting" to see non-fetishists who tryed to analyze how a fetishist works... Just because you know someone that is a psychologist specialist in fetishism don't make him/her or you a expert in fetishism.

Not in the "pathological" definition of the term, no. For me it is simply a sexual preferrence, not a real fetish. I totally do understand that, you don't seem to read what I am saying!

But I do know people who DO have a tickling fetish, a TRUE tickling fetish, they do need tickling to be aroused, they can't even have an orgasm during vanilla sex, and they suffer a great deal from it. You yourself even say that you hated your fetish...at that point, why did you hate it?

As with any other sexual interest, tickling doesn't necessarily have to make ones life feel miserable. Those who enjoy "normal" or "everyday" sexuality can be just as unhappy or frustrated or whatever as those who enjoy something different. The difference is largely in whether or not we accept it in ourselves. Society around us will always have its own opinions of things. Though it can effect us, we don't have to allow it to.

Very well said....but it is always also a matter if you need tickling to have a fulfilled sex life, and if you have a partner for it. For some reason right now a line from "Look for the bare necessities" from the Jungle Book comes to mind!

 

[cabalist]

I believe that as with any other "fetish", one can "legitimately" be interested in it as something they wish to actually personally experience or more as "pure fantasy" which may arouse and/or amuse them without any particular need or desire to physically/personally experience it.

While I suppose we could quibble over whether the latter are "true" fetishists, or how many of those with such an interest there may be in comparison to the number falling into the former "category", I have little doubt that there may be some, if not many, who would fall into the "pure fantasy" category.

In fact, I could probably count myself among them to some extent, since although I have experienced a number of enjoyable such real "sessions", it's in no way "necessary" to me. On the other hand, I can't say that many pictures or videos "do much" for me either, so I may possibly fall into a hypothetical third category of "WTF am I doing here, anyway?"