Tickling fetish not your favorite fetish anymore? (about changing)

[P[a]pi]

I've been gradually changing lately and I'm just wondering if this has happened to anybody else.

When I met Meka I was only interested in tying her up tickling her. That was my favorite sexual activity with her.

But, the longer I'm with her, the more ideas I get. Now, we are at the point where we have lots of options.

Also, bondage seems to be what I like more now than actual tickling, especially when sexual things are mixed in with it (not talking about sexual intercourse). But, I like to mix in tickling too.

Meka is doing me more too. Meaning tying me up and doing tickling and sexual things to me (again not intercourse).

And I like all of this. I feel like we are both growing as fetishists.

Our roles haven't changed though, which is one reason why I'm okay with all of this. I'm still the dominant ler and she is still the submissive lee. And neither one of us wants a total flip of "power" for lack of a better word. We've actually had this discussion.

Don't get me wrong though. We both still love a plain ol' tickling session that ends with her totally exhausted.

So, I guess I'm asking if anyone here has gradually changed. And if so, did your favorite fetish change from tickling to something else? If so, what? Did power completely flip in your relationship? Or has there been very little or no change at all?

Really, you can talk about how you've changed in anyway when it comes to your fetish(es).

I'm just wondering if this is natural/normal or rare...

 

[Comfort Eagle]

That sounds pretty cool. Good for you guys. :super_hap

Well, I use to have a foot fetish that I kinda grew out of in favor of more tickling. Like, I used to like to play around with a girls feet, but now I'd rather tickle her upperbody than foot stuff. Not the same thing as what happened with you, but simlar I guess. And the power thing you mentioned, I did become more lee later on.

I guess the more you're into something, the more you're willing to experiment with other stuff and become intrested in other stuff too. 😉

 

[Tat1]

I started off with always having a foot tickling fetish when I was a child. I was always the 'ler now that I am growing older and a lot more sexually active, I became more of a dominating craving, I am more into bondage of all levels, from the typical ropes on each corner of the bed, to the most extreme, cant move one inch. With tickling and other sexual acts involved. I also got to the point where I change the rolls completely, which is defidently fun.

so I guess its normal to expand interests into other fields. I made a stance that I would try anything and everything once, and if i enjoy it, I'll continue, if I dont then its off my list. If I didnt try everything there is, then I dont know what I actually like..

so keep expanding and keep trying new things, ya never know what you will enjoy and crave.

but on the side note.. I still crave a good old foot tickling and when i pass the girls at the University of Arizona (knowing its a hot desert place here and 70% of girls are from southern cali, lots of sandles) i still glance at there feet and start daydreaming lol

 

[Cavum]

My fetish for feet and tickling have been there for as long as I can remember. But even that they are 95% of what I like within the sexlife, there is alot of other stuff I LOVE to do. To have a sweet sub tied total helpless and then torture her with pain does also give me a big kick. Several times I have had super ticklish subs tied up and ready to be tortured, but I have then only done other stuff that tickling. I even experienced a sub begging me to tickle her, cause the torture hurted so much, but I still didn't do it. This doesn't mean that tickling isn't my favorite fetish anymore. When you have a fetish, you have a fetish. That is at last my opinion. You can't "loose" a fetish. When you have it, it will stay there. If you "loose" a fetish, you never had the fetish in the first place...then you just liked it. I know many disagree with me at that statement, but for me there is a BIG different on having a fetish for something and to like something.

 

[eagphilly]

It's a ok to try out new and different things Papi. I veiw as a natural thing in human nature. The same goes for fetishes as it does for everything else. I love cookies....but sometimes I want something else thats yummy that isnt a freakin cookie XD
Chilidish comparisons aside, I totally veiw your point here. Tickling will always be a signifiicant role in your fetish life, but without mixing it up with something else or trying other things it will seem more stale as time goes on. Mixing it up is what it's all about. I've become mored enthralled with bondage myself since I recognized my tickling fetish, and Im lucky enough to have a lady who will explore with me.
Don't view yourself as wierd for wanting to try different things, its natural 😉
Tickling will always be there, and perhaps there will be times where it will re-emerge as a prominent role. Its all in the ebb and flow of sexual and general intrests ^_^

 

[morgandee]

...no, i still want people to die

 

[Journia]

That is totally normal.

 

[P[a]pi]

Thanks guys, I read all of eveybody's posts and I appreciate the responses.

It's cool to know that others have gone through similar things.

 

[Meka1]

yeah, when Papi and I first started dating i guess you can say that it was pretty basic. It's really cool now that we have so many options to do involving our fetish. For me though i still like tickling more then anything else..i'm a lee, its in my blood (haha), however i don't have a problem with bondage for sexual things. 😉, its all in good fun

 

[sisko1821821]

I never really considered myself a fetishist, I've worn a shirt that said kinky once, but it was a gift. I guess when i was younger,(tickling) was more interesting than it is now, I still gently slide my finger(s) around my girlfriend(s) skin when we lay down in bed, but thats just that. I dont bound them or tickle them, and I never once told them about my interest in cute feet., I dont think its that big of a deal. It also depends how Im feeling. A girl I used to go out with had by far some of the cutest feet ive seen and when we had sex, the fact that I was pleasing her was fairly enough, (of coarse in my head, her feet did cross my mind !) well, not exactly, but knowing her feet were in mid-air next to my head just turned me on, but its not something I would discuss openly with a partner. Keeping it a mystery prolongs my desire. Call it a private fantasy, but it works. Keeping it private makes it more fun for me, I dont think I would let a partner know about me having something for cute feet, Im sure somewhere down the road, it'll bite me in the azz,but yea, I think I'll keep that to myself thank you, and so far, Im "perfectly" fine. 🙂

 

[MistressValerie1]

For me it has ebbed and flowed over the course of my life. There were times that tickling played only a small role in my romantic life and other times, like now, when it is more important to me and my partner. I think that it is completely normal for tastes to evolve and change as we get older and gain in experience.

 

[James Brown]

I never really considered myself a fetishist, I've worn a shirt that said kinky once, but it was a gift. I guess when i was younger,(tickling) was more interesting than it is now, I still gently slide my finger(s) around my girlfriend(s) skin when we lay down in bed, but thats just that. I dont bound them or tickle them, and I never once told them about my interest in cute feet., I dont think its that big of a deal. It also depends how Im feeling. A girl I used to go out with had by far some of the cutest feet ive seen and when we had sex, the fact that I was pleasing her was fairly enough, (of coarse in my head, her feet did cross my mind !) well, not exactly, but knowing her feet were in mid-air next to my head just turned me on, but its not something I would discuss openly with a partner. Keeping it a mystery prolongs my desire. Call it a private fantasy, but it works. Keeping it private makes it more fun for me, I dont think I would let a partner know about me having something for cute feet, Im sure somewhere down the road, it'll bite me in the azz,but yea, I think I'll keep that to myself thank you, and so far, Im "perfectly" fine. 🙂

I think that's really interesting, and I have done that too from time to time. I don't know about you, but personally I think it depends on how close I am to the person. I agree though, that retaining a "private" fantasy can be a real turn on 🙂

 

[The Unseen Hero]

I used to be a ler, but now I prefer to be the lee. I think we just change as we all get older and experience new things.

 

[ttheocjones]

Me personally i've always had a foot/tickling fetish and will always have that. Since finding out about bondage i'm intrigued by it on some levels mostly for tickling purposes. Foot fetish is mostly a sexual thing cause i love sucking on them in the act of intercourse. I guess the only things that changed for me is bondage cause i wasn't hip to it in the beginning. As far as switching roles or becoming a lee i guess with the right person i might be open to it. I have had my toes sucked before and must say it is very stimulating and i could definately get used to it.