Tickling for tickle fetishists = Sexual abuse for 'vanillas'?

[chiliconcarne]

I was recently musing on an interesting notion related to tickling and the effects of somebody with a tickle fetish of being tickled as a child.

Us tickle fetishists, by definition gain sexual pleasure from getting tickled and/or being tickled. Naturally, the sexual pleasure is garnered only if the tickler/ticklee meets our set of criteria - anybody who falls outside the criteria tickling us would make us feel rather unpleasant.

Now here's the crux: As younger children and teenagers, many of us were tickled by parents and relatives.

I wonder... I just wonder if being tickled by say, one's father would have a similar developmental impact as one's father sexually abusing them.


After all, tickling to tickle fetishists is sexually charged, and the incidence of parents and relatives children is highly frequent...

I'd like your opinions on this notion.

 

[rhiannon]

I just wonder if being tickled by say, one's father would have a similar developmental impact as one's father sexually abusing them.

No, absolutely not! I was already sexually attracted to tickling as a child, but still....it is something completely different although I did not want to be tickled by anybody back then, even though I did not know why.

On the other hand, what kind of tickling are we talking here? A short tickle will not impact in such a way, prolongued tickling though, even while immobilized, might indeed feel like abuse to a child, and it actually is abuse - even if there is no fetish involved.

 

[MaleTickleeDC]

I was tickled by family members as a child and it didn't feel like sexual abuse. Tickling is now fused with my sexuality, but before I went through puberty, I had no sexual feelings and so could not interpret tickling as sexual. The tickling I experienced as a child was essentially asexual to me, though I still desired tickling and would seek it out. If I were tickled now by people that I'm not sexually attracted to in any prolonged manner it probably would feel like sexual abuse.

 

[Deleted member 2452]

I was recently musing on an interesting notion related to tickling and the effects of somebody with a tickle fetish of being tickled as a child.

Us tickle fetishists, by definition gain sexual pleasure from getting tickled and/or being tickled. Naturally, the sexual pleasure is garnered only if the tickler/ticklee meets our set of criteria - anybody who falls outside the criteria tickling us would make us feel rather unpleasant.

Now here's the crux: As younger children and teenagers, many of us were tickled by parents and relatives.

I wonder... I just wonder if being tickled by say, one's father would have a similar developmental impact as one's father sexually abusing them.


After all, tickling to tickle fetishists is sexually charged, and the incidence of parents and relatives children is highly frequent...

I'd like your opinions on this notion.

i find this question to be warped! smite yourself.

steve

 

[MaleTickleeDC]

No, I always find things like this completely absurd. There is a difference between tickling / being tickled by someone you are attracted to / tickling flirtatiously / erotically, and tickling with friends or family, and 99.999999999% of people can differentiate between the two and if you cant you probably have some other issues at hand.

That's quite a presumptuous statement. You do realize that most vanilla people would consider it quite abnormal to be turned on sexually by tickling at all. There are people out there who would call the police on all of us if they saw this website. So for you to say that there's something wrong with people who view tickling as ONLY sexual is hypocrisy. That's essentially the same thing as a vanilla person saying that there's something wrong with anyone who has any kind of tickling fetish. I.e., just because you can't relate to a certain inclination doesn't make it objectively disordered.

 

[robmic]

I can't tell you why, but I can say that I can differentiate between sexual tickling and fun tickling. Finding tickling fun as far back as I can remember, I grew up loving it and went through puberty before it became sexual to me. And even after that, still being a minor myself, sex and tickling just didn't connect to me. It wasn't until I lost my virginity that it even started to come to light that there might be a correlation between the two. If I tickled my nieces or nephews, I certainly didn't think about anything to do with sex and them! Ewwwwww!! As I got older, tickling became a great icebreaker and later on, foreplay. So, I sincerely think the feelings between tickling and sex can be separated.

 

[rhiannon]

There is a difference between tickling / being tickled by someone you are attracted to / tickling flirtatiously / erotically, and tickling with friends or family, and 99.999999999% of people can differentiate between the two and if you cant you probably have some other issues at hand.

I am one of those people where tickling and sex is pretty much hardwired. Meaning, I cannot be tickled without seeing it as being some kind of sexual, meaning it either will turn me on or it feels like someone is grabbing my boob without my consent. It was not that way when I was a child though, although I still do think that if someone tickles a child against their will for a prolongued period of time it is abuse, although not necessarily sexual abuse.

 

[ezio]

: Parrot2: