Tickling in a Relationship ONLY

[shylittleme]

Now i'm not seeing anyone right now at the moment so i'm 100% single. But since i've joined this forum in May 2004. i've been as of late having thoughts pertaining to Tickling in Relationships. when i do meet that special girlfriend of mine i've been thinking over that i've come to a point where now i don't really think i'd even want Sex in a Relationship with a girl. I'm thinking that i would probable only want Tickling in a Relationship and that's it and have Tickling as my form of pleasure or Sex in a way.

But part of me is thinking that theses thoughts are immature and unreal when it comes down to it. Because every normal couple (either Married or boyfriend and girlfriend or even same sex couples in the mix) are having normal sex. But for people like us and for people that are into other forms of fetishes that is kinda like there Sex in some ways really when you think about it. But it is unreal and wrong of me to be feeling and thinking this way,to be thinking that i'd probable only want Tickling and NO SEX at all in a one on one boyfriend and girlfriend Relationship?

i no Sex is not wrong and God even created Sex. But part of me wants to have some Sex with my future Girlfriend when i do meet her 🙂 (since will techology i'm still a virgin) i've only Masterbated. But the other part of me just wants to not have any Sex at all with my future Girlfriend and to only Tie her up (if that is what she so chooses) and to Tickle her like Crazy!!!!!!!.

Does anybody here see what i'm meaning by all this or kinda grasping to what i'm trying to mean here in a way?


just very unsure of myself that's all. Because i'm still a virgin and i'm still single and i've never been the Ladies man type at all in Real life and i LOVE Tickling very much just like the rest of the members on this website community

 

[Sunday_10pm]

You will want sex. When you try and imagine what it will be like having sex with your future girlfriend now, you can't even begin to imagine how the feelings you have for her will change the way you think. I think I probably felt similar to you once, but sex with someone you love is about a hundred times better than any other pleasure in life. No matter how strong you think your fetish is you'll probably find that when you start to get really close to someone, sex will become far more important than tickling. Tickling is lust. I don't know if anyone else has found this, but I find that the stronger the feelings I have for a girl, the less I care about tickling her...

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

What you shared sounds more like self doubt than anything society would place on you. Wanting to have tickling as your only form of physical pleasure isn't really an unknown thing. There are others for whom this would be the case. It's technically refered to as a paraphilia (using something other than intercourse for pleasure). But, unless you're talking to someone who's very conservative, I don't think you'd get much negative response. I think the main problem is that so much of society idolizes "sex" (intercourse) that it seems foreign when someone doesn't share the degree of interest. I wouldn't worry about it. Just be safe and honor your feelings.


As for Sunday's comments...

Tickling is lust. I don't know if anyone else has found this, but I find that the stronger the feelings I have for a girl, the less I care about tickling her...

...

That may be the case for you...perhaps for many. But, we're all different and sex doesn't HAVE to play a role in every relationship...no matter how close it is.

Ann

 

[Sunday_10pm]

unless you're talking to someone who's very conservative, I don't think you'd get much negative response.

Do you honestly believe that? I think that almost certainly less than 1 percent of people would put up with somoene who only wanted to tickle them, and never have sex. And even then it would be a very odd relationship.

Also, I don't expect everyone to agree with me Ann, I'm just interested to see if anyone does feel the same way as me...

 

[dstrbd]

If so, my girlfriend is one of that 1%.

Sex doesn't do much for me. A little, but not a whole lot. She knows this flat out, and she also knows how much tickling does for me. At first she hated it, and over the course of 11 months, she's come to enjoy it, because it's like sex to me. We'll have sex once in a while, just because that's what she enjoys, and I have to give back to her what she gives to me.

So yes, it's possible to have a relationship based more on tickling than on sex.

 

[Sunday_10pm]

Ok look, my original post was based on a gut feeling that shylittleme is likely to be similar to myself, rather than one of the people Ann mentioned who have a paraphilia rather than a simple fetish. I would say my tickling fetish is quite strong, and I know that when I lust after a girl, I would rather tickle than have sex with her. This doesn't mean I have a paraphilia. What I was trying to say is that It's more likely that the way he feels about having sex will change when he gets a girlfriend and starts to have strong feelings for her, as I found.

I'd also like to rephrase the comment I made about Ann's post: I think that rather than saying "1 percent of people would put up with it" I should probably have said, "less than one in a hundred people you meet would be willing do it for you". I think this is more a question of love. Since shylittleme was talking about his first girlfriend, I think that saying only the most conservative of people would have a negative reaction is a bit of an idealistic comment. "dstrbd" and his girlfriend are proof that it can work, but they must have something very special (i.e. love), and this is what allows them to overcome the difference in their sexual needs. And, like he said, he gives back to her what she gives to him, and I'm sure he enjoys giving it to her even if it's not what he would be doing in an ideal world. Maybe that's why I think that sex is so much better than tickling, because I get so much joy from the pleasure it gives my girlfriend...

(this is a really good topic btw)

 

[tommytikl]

Here is the thing and Ann stated this pretty well..
Shy, you are soooo focused on finally tickling a girl(girlfriend) that anything besides tickling her will NOT bring you pleasure with her.
I mean at the movie theater, ball game, or sex or whatever...
Now for me, I love tickling, I love sex, put them together and WOW that is just an amazing experience!!!
Your brain has no idea what is going on!!

Oh and here is something to think about...don't masterbate for a WEEK...then see how much you DON'T want sex...just a point...

Honestly, I was in the about the same boat as you when I was in my late teens and it seems like you will never meet a girl, much less one that is ticklish..but you will...
Just be yourself...relax a little bit and ask that girl out that catches your eye.
And I am a pretty darned shy person!

 

[shylittleme]

Thanks to everybody that replyed so far.

But the thing i don't get is why would Society as a whole care what two people do in the privacy of there own Home or Apartment when dealing with intimate issues?

for one i could care less what two people do in there bed room's for pleaser or to turn themself's on. in Less your a real nosey person that wants to know everything and everyones business then yeah i could see why you would care.

and my 2nd question to this debate. why would society and people as a whole care if a person wanted to only use Tickling as there sex in a way with in a Relationship? what so suddenly if you don't have regular sex like everybody else in the World your considered and labled as odd and a freak?

 

[tommytikl]

But the thing i don't get is why would Society as a whole care what two people do in the privacy of there own Home or Apartment when dealing with intimate issues?

Good question..you should ask folks that are gay the same question...
They get called freaks and odd and still because they don't have
"Regular" sex just like "Society" dictates.

wanted to only use Tickling as there sex

Shy, here is what I don't fully understand from what you are saying...so when you tickle someone you only tickle them and never sexually "release" or you tickle each other and masterbate after or what, i am just a bit confused by what you mean as "use tickling as there sex"

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

Do you honestly believe that?

Yep, I do. There are three reasons for this. One is that, unless you shove it down peoples throats, most folks I know don't care what you do in your own private space. Two is that, unless you're some sort of exhibitionist about your sexual habits, nobody's likely to know anyway. So, who cares? Three is that most people have their own secret "fetishes" (or whatever other name you want to give it). So, they're less likely to judge others for theirs if they do find out.

Would people think us odd if we went around advertizing our desires? Sure. People think that everyone who isn't exactly like them is odd. (Just look at the responses even within this community.) But, that doesn't mean that we're wrong or disturbed or any of the other things peope like to tag others with.

Bottom line? As long as you aren't hurting yourself or anyone else in the process, do what feels right to you and your partner. To hell with what other people think. I certainly am not worried about what people think of my desires/interests.

Ann

 

[Sunday_10pm]

ok, when you said "unless you're talking to someone who is very conservative" I thought you were referring to the likely view of a his first girlfriend, rather than a third party's opinions on his relationship.

 

[shylittleme]

Good question..you should ask folks that are gay the same question...
They get called freaks and odd and still because they don't have
"Regular" sex just like "Society" dictates.




Shy, here is what I don't fully understand from what you are saying...so when you tickle someone you only tickle them and never sexually "release" or you tickle each other and masterbate after or what, i am just a bit confused by what you mean as "use tickling as there sex"

when i say (use tickling as there sex)

i mean having Tickling (weather including bondage with that or not) as there sex. replacing regular sex WITH Tickling! and have Tickling been the thing that turns you on in the bed room or where ever insted of just regular sex

 

[Knox The Hatter]

Good luck, Shy. Man, are you gonna need it! 🙂

 

[ticklemo]

I had a relationship for a year and a have where there was only tickling but no sex. I loved the tickling but I wanted more. It was hard because he refused to move up to the next level. Then I met a wonderful man who tickles me and makes love to me. We ended up getting married almost 2 years ago and have a beautiful baby boy, 5 month old Liam.

 

[tommytikl]

when i say (use tickling as there sex)

i mean having Tickling (weather including bondage with that or not) as there sex. replacing regular sex WITH Tickling! and have Tickling been the thing that turns you on in the bed room or where ever insted of just regular sex

Well tickling turns me on in the bedroom but it then leads to sex...doesn't replace the sex. Actually I find that tickling makes my sex better and sex makes tickling better...kind of a two way street.
(In an intimate setting), the longer I tickle the more I get turned on and on and on and the more the direction heads towards sex, however, that doesn't mean my fingers stop moving once the sex begins...

I mean I can tickle without having sex and it is great, awesome even.
In fact, that is usually how most of my real-life encounters work out...just tickle playing but not sex...and it is great but to add the sex to the tickling well...I am for that...

 

[shylittleme]

Well tickling turns me on in the bedroom but it then leads to sex...doesn't replace the sex. Actually I find that tickling makes my sex better and sex makes tickling better...kind of a two way street.
(In an intimate setting), the longer I tickle the more I get turned on and on and on and the more the direction heads towards sex, however, that doesn't mean my fingers stop moving once the sex begins...

I mean I can tickle without having sex and it is great, awesome even.
In fact, that is usually how most of my real-life encounters work out...just tickle playing but not sex...and it is great but to add the sex to the tickling well...I am for that...

well thats great for you i'd glad to hear all that. But from the way i'm thinking right now i don't think i'd have sex with my future girlfriend quit yet, we'd ONLY Tickle each other. but yeah maybe down the line we would have sex! but when i do meet my future girlfriend that won't be an idea as of yet

 

[tommytikl]

OHHHHH....NOW I get what you are saying Shy...my bad, the blonde hair gets in the way sometimes...
You are saying that when you meet your future girlfriend you simply want to tickle her instead of just having sex...
So you are saying, or take kissing as an example, you want to kiss your GF but don't want to get right to sex...
I understand that...
That's cool.

 

[shylittleme]

OHHHHH....NOW I get what you are saying Shy...my bad, the blonde hair gets in the way sometimes...
You are saying that when you meet your future girlfriend you simply want to tickle her instead of just having sex...
So you are saying, or take kissing as an example, you want to kiss your GF but don't want to get right to sex...
I understand that...
That's cool.

Bingo 🙂