tickling relationships

[fordtech30]

I am putting this on here to get some input from my fellow tickle enthusiasts. I would like to know from everyone out there if they mind if their significant other is tickled by someone else?

Do you mind if another guy tickles your girlfriend or wife?

Do you ladies mind if your man tickles another woman?

I am very much into tickling. Always have been. But if I'm with someone I want that to be something I share only with her.

I would love to hear all of your opinions.

Thank you

 

[26Strings]

I agree. my girlfriends body is MINE and any guy that tries to tickle her or anything else will die! ok a little radical, sorry. no, i don't think i could stand by and let it happen.

 

[RavenMoon]

It is a hard thing to share the person you care deeply for with others in any physical manner. Some people can and others absolutely can not.

For my Love and I personally, he is comfortable sharing me with others at gatherings. He allows me to 'lee and 'ler. Additionally, I am allowed to dominate submissives that I wish as long as he has met them. His only condition placed upon my activity is that I do not bottom to any others without his direct command to.

Now for me, watching my Love with another can be hard. While I really love watching him in his art, watching his responses and knowing what every touch of his feel like, there are times that I also get jealous. Most of this feeling comes from the fact that we came into this life together from different means. Him being a sensualist and I being a sadomasochist specializing in BDSM. We are still working on blending our styles together to satisfy both of our needs. There are times that I long for more pain than he can give me so I get frustrated. In those times, it becomes hard for me to watch him with another.

Good question...

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

I have no problems letting a guy I'm with tickle other girls, and to be completely honest, I can't see myself with someone who wouldn't want me to play with other people as well. Tickling is something personal and special to me, yes, but it's also a very social thing, and something I love to share with other people 🙂

 

[RavenMoon]

I have no problems letting a guy I'm with tickle other girls, and to be completely honest, I can't see myself with someone who wouldn't want me to play with other people as well. Tickling is something personal and special to me, yes, but it's also a very social thing, and something I love to share with other people 🙂

I love that you brought up the social part of tickling...



I have always enjoyed going to the gatherings for the very fact that it becomes a very social affair. The tickling that my Love and I enjoy the best happens in a more private, intimate setting. The tickling that occurs at the majority of the gatherings we attend is much more playful and fun. There is the conversations that occur, the debates, the sharing of ideas and techniques. The food. The comfort that is developed between yourself and the people you meet. It becomes a very bonding social experience much different from intimate, erotic tickling between partners. I think that is why it has been easier for me to watch him tickle others while we have been struggling to define D/s for ourselves, than it has been for me to watch him engaged in other, more intimate BDSM activities.

Just a side thought... 🙂

 

[fordtech30]

I have been into tickling for as long as I can remember. Just new to this tickling scene thing. I myself have never had many just tickling sessions. I have always only tickled women I am very much into.

So is tickling at say like the nest really harmless or would allot of men be totally jealous?

Would you partake in tickling fun if your significant other was bothered by it?

 

[TheTickleMonster]

i don't know what it feels like to see my girlfriend get tickled or tickle someone else because even though i've had girlfriends i've never seen it happen lol. however i think it would bug me a little bit but i'd deal with it because i tickle other girls while i was with them.. but i can see where some of you are coming from, becuase it can be a sexual thing but for me it's not always sexual.. there are many other reasons why tickle girls..

and about tickling girls that have boyfriends or spouces or whatever, i tickle girls that are with someone.. but i try to respect their wishes if they're not single and they don't feel comfortable with it then i'll try to stop. although boyfriends usually hate me anyways, whether i tickle them or not so i don't worry about the boyfriends having a problem with them but if the girl has the problem with it i'll try to stop because i like to keep them as friends..

 

[fordtech30]

I guess since for me it is a turn on that's why it would bother me. In the past I have only tickled girls I was with. Or I thought were cute and wanted to go out with.

I would advise to be cautious about boyfriends though. lol.

 

[sasaxrah]

I think it's totally hilarious to watch my boyfriend be ler'd by others, and it's fun to help. But that's all playful tickling. Certain types of tickling are only for the two of us.

 

[Ticklerguy4u]

I wouldn't mind guys tickling my girlfriend if I had one but I would have to be friends with him. I wouldn't like a stranger tickling her because I feel that if he has enough energy to tickle her..he should have enough energy to at least get to know me as her boyfriend.

 

[jj82277]

monogomy, it's whats for dinner (at least in my house anyway)

 

[DimpleToes]

no I dont mind.. its just clean fun

 

[fordtech30]

I'm getting really great replies from all of you. I really appreciate them coming in.

I guess I'm just old fashioned with that stuff. But I agree, if i were to let someone tickle my girlfriend they would have to be my friend too.

I don't want a stranger to me tickling my girl. Even if he is her friend. We all know that guys always have other intentions in mind. lol. Or at least thoughts. lol

I strongly believe in the monogamy idea. What is better than having a partner that is really into tickling and that being something you share only with each other. AS long as it's an everyday thing. lol

 

[Carsomyr]

I am extremely jealous, or well, I can be. XD

So long as it was perfectly non-sexual I guess I could stand it... maybe... depending on who it was. If it was some random guy at the bar I would immediately just see a bunch of underlying intentions with the action and I'd get extremely pissy. But if it was a mutual friend, you know, someone I knew... That would be different, so long as they weren't rolling around and tickle-wrestling on the floor or whatever. Then I would find it slightly disturbing.

 

[eclipse]

Do you mind if another guy tickles your girlfriend or wife? : Not applicable; am not a guy

Do you ladies mind if your man tickles another woman? : Depends entirely on the circumstances. If it was in a sexual way (like Carsomyr said), I would not stand for it. A friendly poke wouldn't bother me, but chances are if my hypothetical-guy was into tickling I'd want him to only be doing it to me.

It's kind of like kissing...a kiss on the cheek for a close mutual friend vs. a make out session. There's a big difference.

 

[Carsomyr]

It's kind of like kissing...a kiss on the cheek for a close mutual friend vs. a make out session. There's a big difference.

EXACTLY what I was trying to say! XD

 

[fordtech30]

ok. so I can see the decision is split.

Lets say that your a guy or a girl and your significant other wanted to have sessions with other people.

Guys, would you want your girl having sessions with others if you didn't know them even if she said they were close friends with her? Would you go for your girl getting tied and tickled?

Girls, would you want your guy tying up another girl and tickling her? Even if he said she was a good friend?

 

[fordtech30]

Do you mind if another guy tickles your girlfriend or wife? : Not applicable; am not a guy

Do you ladies mind if your man tickles another woman? : Depends entirely on the circumstances. If it was in a sexual way (like Carsomyr said), I would not stand for it. A friendly poke wouldn't bother me, but chances are if my hypothetical-guy was into tickling I'd want him to only be doing it to me.

It's kind of like kissing...a kiss on the cheek for a close mutual friend vs. a make out session. There's a big difference.

Hey there!

So would you consider another person tying them up and tickling them like a make out session?

 

[Carsomyr]

Guys, would you want your girl having sessions with others if you didn't know them even if she said they were close friends with her? Would you go for your girl getting tied and tickled?

What would she get out of a session with someone else that she couldn't get out of a session with me? ...why are we even in a relationship if she can go out for random play? 🙁

I am fiercly loyal, and expect the same loyalty in return. It wouldn't work... It would have a SERIOUS impact on my mental health.

 

[fordtech30]

What would she get out of a session with someone else that she couldn't get out of a session with me? ...why are we even in a relationship if she can go out for random play? 🙁

I am fiercly loyal, and expect the same loyalty in return. It wouldn't work... It would have a SERIOUS impact on my mental health.

Dude! Thank god at least the guys on here think like me. lol

I feel the same way. Playing when your single is great. Go for it!

But when in a relationship it stops.

 

[daddy]

I have no problems letting a guy I'm with tickle other girls, and to be completely honest, I can't see myself with someone who wouldn't want me to play with other people as well. Tickling is something personal and special to me, yes, but it's also a very social thing, and something I love to share with other people 🙂

Exacty. I don't mind if my lady tickles other guys or not. I don't see the big deal even if I was not into tickling. I myself could never be with someone who wouldn't let me play. Jealousy is a BAD thing and way over-rated! I have seen it ruin more relationships that you can imagine...and it didn't have to be that way. Just cause ya tickle someone doesn't mean you are going to screw them!

peace out,
daddy

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

ok. so I can see the decision is split.

Lets say that your a guy or a girl and your significant other wanted to have sessions with other people.

Guys, would you want your girl having sessions with others if you didn't know them even if she said they were close friends with her? Would you go for your girl getting tied and tickled?

Girls, would you want your guy tying up another girl and tickling her? Even if
he said she was a good friend?

For me, tickling is playful first and sexual second, so I have no issues with playing outside of a relationship.

Maybe I'm naive, or too trusting, or whatever, but I'd have no problem with my guy having a session with another girl, bondage and all. And I'd expect the same freedom to have a session with another guy. There is absolutely no room in any relationship of mine for jealousy. I'm not a jealous person (I mean, I have my moments - I think we all do - but they're incredibly few and far between), and I couldn't be with a jealous person.

 

[Adam]

I've edited my answer from the post that originally found its way here. I really, really thought about this for a few days and in all honesty, it'd piss me off. Many of us here are sexually aroused by tickling. So to have someone else, who is aroused, tickle your significant other, who becomes aroused, strikes me as unseemly. In my mind, it would seem pretty much the same as cheating. Maybe I'm wrong, but that's my honest feeling on the matter.

 

[eclipse]

Hey there!

So would you consider another person tying them up and tickling them like a make out session?

Goodness no A tickle fight would be a like a make out session/hitting on/heavy flirtation, tying up sounds like full blown sex to me. I don't know, I've always considered it a bit too intimate. Then again, when I'm in a relationship I'm very....whats the word...I don't like to share 😀 It could be innocent fun but a little bit too personal for me.

And on the other thing,

Girls, would you want your guy tying up another girl and tickling her? Even if he said she was a good friend? Noooo! If he wanted somebody to tickle, he can always tickle me 😀 If he said something like that, I'd say he's a bit too interested in her. "Just really good friends", eh? Ha-rumph.

 

[Rupert]

hmm im a very open and non jealous person, so really it wouldnt bother me to share mainly its been so long since ive had a relationship i dont remember how it feels to be that attatched

so as i stand now id tell her to do her thing, but if shes looking for a *good time* afterwards and decide to do it with the ler than happy trails to her

i dont do cheating so if its taken further than just a great session than poof no more relationship