Tickling replaced Sex?

[yukio.san]

you don't need therapy, you just need to discover exactly what you want in sexual life if you think you don't know yet. if you want to discover it, then try to stay a week without watching tickle stuff and see what happens 🙂

 

[the tickleshow]

Interesting topic. Sounds like your textbook definition of a fetish; although that has been mentioned here already. I have to agree with something Rhiannon said earlier about seeking therapy. No one is saying there is anything wrong with you, but looking into the future, if there is no change in your perspective, you may be in for many evenings alone.
I have always LOVED tickling and I often get off on tickling my significant other, when there is one (divorced 2 months now!). But if I had to choose, I am always choosing sex first.
Good luck.

 

[Kittycupcake]

Am I the only guy on this forum that's never been into regular porn? I've never been interested in watching anybody have any type of sex at all. It just turns me off, I think its kinda gross.

I love having sex with girls though. Just don't like porn.

It is kinda gross! Plus. If I was hungry I wouldn't wanna watch people eating, so why if I was horny would I want to watch people fucking?!

 

[Kittycupcake]

Oh and to the OP. I'm not experienced of qualified to judge really. But I reckon you should just have fun and explore. Sex and fetishes are like a huge playground of awesomeness, and just cos you don't like the look of the swings doesn't mean you won't find something else you adore (plus the swings might be fun after all if you find the right person to play with!) Find someone you trust and be open and honest and just go with whatever you enjoy.

 

[rhiannon]

My advice is don't get therapy as long as you don't suffer. When it gets to a point you start suffering - get therapy. It's like with everything else. You don't go to the doctor unless it bothers you.

 

[Marquis De Sade]

Oh come on. This kid doesn't need "therapy." This reminds me of a thread where some dude was talking about how he couldn't get it up for five minutes and everyone was like "get to a doctor --- now!" Sometimes I just think people are so bored that they are trying to create excitement in their lives with the advice that they give to people.

OP, there's nothing wrong with you. You don't need to go to therapy any more than the rest of us do. You like what you like. You'll probably never be Porn God Rod Jeremy if you're not attracted to T&A. But that's okay. Just find yourself a girl that you like, and that you're attracted to, and that is open to your tickling fetish, and the rest will work itself out.

My bad. I should've added to my reply that therapy would only be something worth looking into IF the OP is looking for a long and meaningful relationship with a woman who has an issue with the particulars of the OP's preferences in the bedroom. Yes, there is nothing "wrong" whatsoever with the OP and his tastes. If that were the case, we would all be sitting on leather couches and paying for it.

However, a relationship takes two. It's hard enough for vanillas to find a match and they outnumber those with serious kinks. The majority of the music and film industry's income have capitalized on the stats for decades. If you're into tickling that's one thing and it's easy to get around or incorporate into foreplay or sex. Normal porn to me is boring as hell so I can relate in regards to that part of the subject. It ranks right up there with tickling clips for me. But if you don't find a naked woman arousing least of all what's between her legs, the OP might (MIGHT), run into some serious relationship issues considering again, a relationship takes two individuals. I might completely wrong on this as I only speak from personal experience so that's the only point of view I can see through. But I've NEVER known a woman who doesn't WANT to get naked with her man. THAT might call for some help to perhaps not "fix" anything but at least get around as it will narrow the list of potential partners down even further.

 

[HeadRed]

If you're feelings are so strongly polarized to just tickling, then I'd venture to say that as early as you realized that what turned you on, you fixated on. In essence, took something small and conditioned yourself. That's the bad news. The good news is that you can also unlearn and recondition yourself. It started with masturbation in the first place, what you need to do (if you don't have a gf or fuckbuddy) is invest into association and slowly ween yourself off because too much of something is destructive. I can relate somewhat because I am only interested in watching foot tickling porn. now while I'm fortunate that every part of a woman's body and many many different things turn me on/get me off, I also have to be aware that every time I stay exclusive to one type of media to get off, I'm conditioning myself a little more.

 

[Desert Tickler]

When I was in my 20's, sex was a part of it. Not anymore. I don't have sex much anymore at all. Maybe three, four times a year. That's it. Mostly I focus on my tickle fetish. Everything is about getting that woman into the ties and stocks to be tickled senseless. I far and away get more from this. I leave load all over the floor, satisfied with another conquest. My best load blowers were tickling feet until my victim was in hysterics, exhausted, maybe crying a little, piss in hr pants. I'm a sadist tickler. What can I say? Sex can't top that.

 

[berlinerbaer]

Hey, I'm new on the forum, but have been a "lurker" for some time. I would like to keep most of the details of my identity a secret, but I am in college and male.

I have come to ask a question. Have any of you ever noticed your fetish conquer your desire for sex? For as long as i can remember, the idea of "sex" or penetration in general, has never turned me on, and in fact slightly turns me off.Seeing a girls boobs or vagina also does nothing for me, and also seeing a girl a naked is also a bit of a turn off. Even kissing doesn't seem attractive to me. However, a girl in a bikini can drive me crazy, and the idea of tickling a girl is also very gratifying. I for one, masturbated to that very idea often. Cuddling and even the simple idea of physical contact turns me on as well, but nothing else. I am afraid that this will get me into trouble later in life. Have any of you ever noticed anything like this?

I used to be exactly like that. But then my appreciation for sex asserted itself a little later, in my early twenties. Now that I'm an old man, in my mid twenties, no problems.

Mind you, if the sex is too plain, I might still become disinterested. It doesn't have to be some kind of wild, explicitly fetish activity, but if there isn't at least some kind of kinky energy underpinning the experience, might not do it for me.

Hi "12",

I fell precisely like you describe, and, different than LD, it did not stop do be like that (yet?), and I am in my early 40s. I would not go so far as to say this is pathological with a requrement to go to a shrink and have it fixed. For me that would be as awkward as gong to some christian "straight camp" if you are gay. The degree of trouble you are getting probably depends on how you approach things. In my experience, people (well, actually I can only talk about the male homosexual subpopulation) who are into feet and / or tickling have an elevated probability of not liking "normal" (in the Clintonian sense) sexual intercourse the same way as you and me. Of all the tickle / foot guys I have met over the years, I guess one third hates penetration, a further third doesn't care, and only the remaining third really wants it. This is definitely different from how the rest of the gay crowd feels.

That said: my advice would be to use the advantages of the internet age in order to find the woman who will be fitted to provide both you and her with the (tickle-)sexual satisfaction you need. I personally would not date a guy who insists in having "normal" sex. I think I would not even date a guy unless he has a tickling fetish. Or at least a related fetish which will allow for frequent tickle activity. As long as I don't find that fitting partner I prefer being promiscuous and find my tickle partners through platforms like this. (While curiously noticing a rising interest by straight guys within the last 1-2 years)

Best wishes,
Thomas.

 

[Sweet Sunshine]

You are not alone and this issue caused problems for me in my past relationship. He liked sex, I liked tickling and the sex wasn't doing it for me. He couldn't understand why I wasn't interested in him, but that wasn't the case. His desire was to have sex with me and that turned him on. My desire was to be tickled by him and that turned ME on. Our solution...tickle sex. He would torture me during sex and we were both happy. Unfortunately, I'm not with him anymore, I hope I can find someone who is as accepting of my fetish and who would be willing to incorporate it into our lives.....

 

[yukio.san]

You are not alone and this issue caused problems for me in my past relationship. He liked sex, I liked tickling and the sex wasn't doing it for me. He couldn't understand why I wasn't interested in him, but that wasn't the case. His desire was to have sex with me and that turned him on. My desire was to be tickled by him and that turned ME on. Our solution...tickle sex. He would torture me during sex and we were both happy. Unfortunately, I'm not with him anymore, I hope I can find someone who is as accepting of my fetish and who would be willing to incorporate it into our lives.....

thanks for sharing this, i have a similar story with my gf. sorry to hear you're not together anymore, hugs!

 

[Sweet Sunshine]

I know how hard it can be when you are in a relationship with someone and we have this love for tickling that we are scared to share. I found someone who was so open to it and ended up having as much fun as I did because he wanted both of us to happy. I may not be with him anymore, but I am grateful that he showed me that you don't have to have the fetish to enjoy it. I hope everyone on this site at some point or another finds love with somone who is open and happy to tickle just because we love it too...

 

[HeadRed]

I've never met a girl that actually enjoyed it. It's always been that they found a way to appreciate it.

 

[rhiannon]

@ Desert Tickler: So...are you in a relationship?

 

[stroker]

Hi USER 12

Crikey I thought I had just read something I had posted about myself (except for the nudity/boobs part - which do turn me on). This is even an ongoing issue in my current relationship. Thankfully there is such a thing as Viagara, which allows me to appear more interested in sex than I actually am.

Anyway relax and be true to yourself. Don't do what most of us older ones (pre-internet) have done over the years, mainly beat ourselves up about who we are.

My thoughts down to the letter.

 

[MaleTickleeDC]

In my experience, people (well, actually I can only talk about the male homosexual subpopulation) who are into feet and / or tickling have an elevated probability of not liking "normal" (in the Clintonian sense) sexual intercourse the same way as you and me. Of all the tickle / foot guys I have met over the years, I guess one third hates penetration, a further third doesn't care, and only the remaining third really wants it. This is definitely different from how the rest of the gay crowd feels.

This is an excellent observation. I think there exists a wide array of sexuality beyond just "gay, straight, or bi." The gay guys have this figured out because homosexuality was an underground subculture for most of history, meaning that there were fewer social norms to adhere to, more experimentation was allowed, etc. When you grow up straight, you've got parents, friends, TV, rappers, etc, all telling you exactly what's "normal" and what's not. And the message you receive is that it's normal to be attracted to girls in a very specific way, and to be turned on by very specific body parts, sexual positions, watching porn, etc. So if a straight guy deviates from this at all, he'll probably just pretend that he's just like everyone else in order to avoid being viewed as weird. Gay guys have had the freedom though of admitting it when they don't like penetration or vanilla sex or whatever. Since being gay was "weird" and "bad" anyway, the guy was already branded by society, so he could just go to town with whatever he really did like (feet, tickling, oatmeal, etc). My guess is that there are a TON of straight guys who don't like certain aspects of T&A, or who maybe don't care for penetration or regular porn or whatever, but who would NEVER admit this because it would potentially ruin their relationships, their rep with their friends, etc.

 

[rhiannon]

I think there exists a wide array of sexuality beyond just "gay, straight, or bi."

The thing here is:

From just your own point of few, it really doesn't matter what you like and what you don't like and what is considered "normal" in the community unless you need to hurt or harm someone in order to get what you want. Really, it doesn't - as long as you're not suffering yourself from it.

And that's where we have the problem.

Most people are striving to get a partner, a relationship in which they can fulfill what they like. It is hard enough if you do like what most people like (and would therefore considered as being "normal"), but if what you like differs from that, it gets harder and harder - all the way up to literally impossible.

That's fine and dandy if you don't care not having a partner and just go out to pay for whatever you like. If you want a partner - that's where the suffering comes in, and that's where you should think about trying therapy if you really absolutely can't cope with a "normal" sex life otherwise.

 

[ArchNemesis]

well it can't TRULY replace sex as long as tickling makes you horny. You can keep tickling as long as you want but that's not going to help the bulge in your pants if you're a guy (or even if you're not?) What I mean is at some point you want to get off. You may or may not want to get off with someone else, but you still want to get off, no?

 

[tickletime4u]

Personally I can take or leave sex and usually leave it. I much prefer tickling. But that's just me. There is no right or wrong here, just what you like and prefer. Freedom means eveyone will be different and thank goodness for it.

 

[Sharkiegirl]

There are some times that I would take a good 2 hour long tickling session over sex, but even if I'm not fucking afterwards I need some sort of sexual gratification. I would suggest trying to tie tickling in with more vanilla sexual activities to make the relation in your brain between the two.