Tickling Roommates...

[Phineas]

I did this once. A friend of mine (lovely Jamaican girl; very sweet, very bouncy, great bod) broke up with her boyfriend and was feeling flighty. I wasn't interested in dating her but I think she had it for me because she was making all sorts of excuses to spend time with me (I live in Jersey, she lives in NYC, so it wasn't a down-the-block sorta thing).

Anyway, one night we got together to watch some videos and I wound up tickling her silly. Next day she told me it had been a lot of fun and basically gave me permission to do it whenever I felt like it. Proved to be a lot of fun when I went with her and two of her friends to London and got "stuck" rooming with her (the other two were a couple).

We were in London for about a week or two, and I tickled her darn near to death on a nightly basis... usually while she was wearing little more than a T-shirt and panties. 😀

Never saw her or the others after that trip, but I heard she got back together with her boyfriend. Wonder where she is now...

 

[rajee]

😀 [COLOR=FA0053] I would love to have a roommate like you.😉 😛 😀 😎 😀 [/COLOR]

 

[Iggy pop]

I said I had story and I guess I'll tell it. After College I moved in with my girlfriend of the time. After 8 months living together, the relationship soured badly for reasons that I really I do not want to get into. We living in a one bedroom apartment, and I was now sleeping on the couch. It was extremely uncomfortable, and after a couple of months I packed up my stuff, put it in storage, and started sleeping on a friends couch. After a week on his couch I could feel that he was getting a little anoyed, so I then moved to my friends James's couch. After about a week on his couch, James told me that Stacey, a friend of his girlfriend was looking for a roommate.

I had met Stacey a couple of times before. We had talked briefly at a couple of parties, but I didn't know her that well. Stacey was beautiful and I mean beautiful. She was half Tai and half Sweedish and what a great mix that was. A year before she had come in 3rd or 4th place in the miss Texas pagent. She could come off a little full of herself and a bit snobbish at times, but for the most part she was nice girl. She had a boyfriend, so I knew she wasn't availble.

Honestly, I was not exactly thrilled at the prospect of moving in with her, but then again I was less thrilled to be sleeping on a couch. So I talked to her, and she was cool with the idea. So I got my stuff out of storage and moved in. The first 2 months I was there everything went smoothly. We worked completely different schedules. She went to work at 7:30 and I didn't go to work untill noon so she was gone before I woke up and when I got home she was usually just getting ready for bed. On the weekends she usually stayed over at her boyfriend's, so I didn't see her then eithier. When we did see each other we would engage in some small talk, but that was about it.

One Friday night about two month later, I came home only to find her there. I asked her why she was not at her boyfriends and she told me that they had broken up. She had mentioned a couple of times that things were a little rough between her and her boyfriend, but I paid it little attention. She asked me if I had any plans. I actually had plans to meet friends later that night, but I lied and told her no. We decided to go rent a movie from blockbuster. She was sitting in her comfy chair with her bare feet on the footstool. I laid on the floor in front of her the whole time. After the movie we started to talk and joke around a bit. That's when I crossed the line. She said a smart alec remark to me and that when I reached up and tickled her foot. She quickly pulled her feet off the footstool and on to her chair and exclaimed that she was "very ticklish". I told her she shouldn't have said that and launched into full tickle assault. She was indeed extremely ticklish. We spent the whole weekend together, and slept together Saturday night.

We had a couple of more weekends of fun together, untill about three weeks later when I came home one Friday night and she wasn't there. I later saw her later that week and she told me she had gotten back together with her boyfriend. I could also tell that she was uncomfortable being around me which in turn made me uncomfortable. You know I never had any allusion of Stacey and I staying together. She was really never my type, but this is not what I wanted to happen. For next weeks she did her best to avoid me, before telling me that she felt she would be more comfortable living with a female roommate. Two weeks later I found another place to live and moved out.

I saw Stacey one time at party a few months later. We talked, and it appeared that much of discomfort with me had diminished. In our conversation she never mentioned our little affair, but then agan neithier did I. She did tell me she was engaged to her boyfriend. After that all I have is rumors mostly from James' girlfriend whoose relationship with Stacey had soured. She told me that the engagement had been broken off. She also told me that Stacey later became stripper, and then put on weight. I don't know if all part of this true, and I'll probably never know.

 

[Sunriseticklee]

Starfires- I don't believe my description of a platonic relationship is "intense".

I've had some really great relationships with guys. I fondly remember playing basketball with them for hours everyday, talking to them about anything and everything under the sun, being tickled and teased by them often, and they (annoying sometimes) saw me as the little sister they grew to love and fought to protect. I would have to say that almost all of my best friends have always been male (even now). The problem is now that all of these great friends are too far away.

I will admit that after college and transformation from young lady to woman in body and mental maturity did cause some changes in how a couple of the guys saw me, but that didn't ruin the friendships. I have to honestly say that I do believe that finding a roommate with these qualities period would probably be near impossible. Oh but it would be so much fun! All the benefits and none of the complications!

Haltickling- I'm going to assume that the comments you made about men apply and describe only you, otherwise guys are more pitiful than I thought! LOL

Whereas there may be numerous women in the world who would love to cheapen themselves and put out on occasion just to keep a "happy" roommate, I'm certainly not one of them.

With all the male/female contact in the world, I suppose there are a millions of men who are just having to deal with the cruelity of having to take the responsibility for alleving their own little bitty hard-ons all by their lonesome selves. Cruelity? Who cares! If they can't deal with being turned on (which for some guys happens when the wind blows) that doesn't mean they should get a sympathy fuck from me, should it? 😛

That being said: For those of you who feel that it is impossible for a man and woman to successfully live together in a platonic situation, that just isn't the case. Speaking of jealousy and pain, those things come as a result of a lack of maturity, lack of communication, and a lack of respect for the other person involved. And all of these things can happen in any relationship/friendship- male or female, roommates or not--> It's a part of human nature. I've actually seen the roommate thing work and I think it's pretty cool. Cool enough to want it in a way.

The reason why I personally think it is impossible is not because of gender/relationships as much as it is almost completely impossible to find another ticklephile in Georgia --> let alone someone unmarried, honest, fun loving, and respectful (plus other ingredients that create a good friendship). LOL And then they would have to live in my area and need a roommate. Talk about looking for a needle in a haystack. It simply isn't going to happen. That doesn't make the fantasy any less fun to dream about. That's what some fantasies are for anyway.

Sunrise


Warning--> Didn't proofread. Suffer!

 

[Iggy pop]

Sunrise, I have difficulty with your definition of "platonic" Tickling for most people here is sexual, and would not be considered a plantonic activity. I know it isn't sex, but neithier is french kissing, hand jobs, and even blow jobs(it's not intercourse). I'm sure most people would not consider these activities platonic.

I could get into a relationship with an attractive women where there it is just tickling and nothing else, but of course there would probably be a lot of masturbation invovled. I wouldn't consider this is a platonic relationship eithier. There is still some sexual stuff going on. It's just that sex is now self love instead of mutual love. Why would I want to be involved with something like that?

What I consider a platonic relationship is a hand shake, a pat on the back, and even a hug, but nothing much beyond that. These are all activities that I would do with a guy and a girl. Honestly if I was relationship with a girl and she was cuddling and having tickling fight with her male roommate I wouldn't be too happy.

Lastly Sunrise, why do you prefer a male roommate over a female one. You say you get along better with men than women, but why do you think that is? What is it about men that makes you get along better with them than other women?

 

[stan327]

of course its possible

Hey Sunrise,

I firmly believe it is possible for a Three's Company type situation. I'll be your Jack, You can be my Chrissy 🙂 We'll have fun together but still have relationships outside the home.

 

[Sunriseticklee]

Sunrise, I have difficulty with your definition of "platonic" Tickling for most people here is sexual, and would not be considered a plantonic activity. I know it isn't sex, but neithier is french kissing, hand jobs, and even blow jobs(it's not intercourse). I'm sure most people would not consider these activities platonic.

Lastly Sunrise, why do you prefer a male roommate over a female one. You say you get along better with men than women, but why do you think that is? What is it about men that makes you get along better with them than other women?

Iggy, the most wonderful thing about life is that everyone here is different in various ways. Not everyone views tickling the way that you do. Tickling, my dear, is not considered a sexual activity to every single person on the face of the earth; and not even considered that way to every tickle lover on earth either. YOU may personally have a problem with it, but I for one am not one of those people who get sopping wet, and wants to have sex whenever someone brushes against my skin. (How uncomfortable would that be!)

If every single solitary tickling encounter for you equals sex, don't assume it is that way for everyone else. Sure there are many here who feel the way you do. That's not my problem. I feel kind of sorry for the people who can't seperate or engage in any type of fun/innocent tickling without it being automatically branded and categorized into some sex act.

That must really suck! I mean... think of all the gatherings and the visits you can't go to because you can't control your need to "want to" have sex whenever anything is remotely related to tickling. Think of all the family members and close friends you have to stay extra far from less someone tickles you *GASP*!!!! Oh well... everyone can't be like me I suppose. And personally, I ALWAYS stay far away from the people who say that they cannot distinguish between sexual tickling and nonsexual tickling. That's not someone I would ever trust to play with in the first place. I don't think I have EVER played with one of those people yet. And I won't.

Why do I love hanging out with guys more than hanging out with women? There could be tons of reasons...

1) Living with 3 sisters in one room can force a person to want to stay away from girls as much as possible. 😛

2) I was the biggest tomboy growing up so naturally, I hung out with guys the most. Why would that change now?

3) Less drama

4) More sports (competition)

5) Lastly LOL when you are the only female around, you are always treated like a queen. 😛 (I'm a spoiled brat heehee)

Besides, guys spend less time in the bathroom. That's gotta rock too.

I don't think there is anything strange about the fact that I enjoy a man's company more than a woman's. I mean... it's my fantasy. 🙄

Anyway, thanks for letting me know you were having difficulties. I'm sure there is someone somewhere who can help. 😉

Sunrise

 

[starfires]

Sunrise, I was going to say a few things about a few things mentioned here (in particular, this overwhelming need to have sex) but you already said them better than I ever could. May I point out instead that you rock?

Originally posted by Sunriseticklee
And personally, I ALWAYS stay far away from the people who say that they cannot distinguish between sexual tickling and nonsexual tickling. That's not someone I would ever trust to play with in the first place. I don't think I have EVER played with one of those people yet. And I won't.

Just curious, would you play with somebody who gets turned on from any intense tickling, but feels no need whatsoever to do anything about being turned on?

 

[BigBrownEyes]

Hey, Sunrise, I'm with you on this one! I personally wouldn't have any problem with a plutonic friendship/relationship with a tickle partner. I wouldn't even mind if the person was married (that is, if the person's spouse didn't mind). I agree tickling and sex are not the same thing. I mean they don't necessarily go hand-in- hand. It would be great to tickle with your lover, but it doesn't have to be that way. The two things can be separated.

As far as jealously, it's true that it's a product of immaturity. However, immaturity is not a product of childhood/youth only. There's full grown adults who get consumed with jealousy. I seem to bring that out in people, although not on purpose of course. That's the price I pay for being cute.

 

[Sunriseticklee]

Just curious, would you play with somebody who gets turned on from any intense tickling, but feels no need whatsoever to do anything about being turned on?

If I stayed away from all the turned on people in life, I'd probably have no friends. LOL I'm sure even nuns get aroused at some point.

However, I don't have an issue with a person simply getting excited. My problem is when people feel as if they can no longer control their actions, and that they must act on their emotions regardless of the given situation. And then try to put their SHORTCOMING off on someone else by saying we should put out simply because their body is wanting it. 🙄

To say that I should screw around every once in awhile just to keep a roommate happy is disgusting.

To say that all (NO MATTER WHAT) tickling = sex.... ewwww! That just worries me!

It doesn't bother me to see someone getting turned on by tickling. It happens. That doesn't mean they earn the green light to do whatever sexual act they please.

To be aroused, yet still respect the boundaries and the feelings of others, isn't that expected? Isn't that a part of life? I mean, last year I thought my assistant principal was hot. I STILL DO! I'd like him to just take me... right in his office, tangled sweaty bodies humping on his hickory desk.... Mmmmm.... MMMM Slapping my round ass with his strong hands! *shiver* Good gracious! I still fantasize about it.

Whenever he called my name..... I think he visibly saw me shiver each time. 😛 And I was never so embarassed than when he danced with me (or rather... on me) at the school dance. (Shame on him!)

Now.... since he touched me, it is his fault I was aroused so he is expected to screw me right? WHATEVER!!! Bullshit. It's a part of life. I have to deal with it.

DAMN HE IS FINE!!!! Mmmmm

Sunrise


I hope he never reads this. Oooo and he was a Marine too. And the day he wore his uniform to school..... OHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH! Shame on me! But as prim and proper as I am I have fantasies too. sigh!

BigBrownEyes- I agree completely with your last statement. Jealousy and immaturity unforunately doesn't end with childhood. I know I've had my immature moments. Lusting after my ex assistant principal doesn't count! 😉

 

[AphxA]

I dont know what is so hard. Tickling is tickling. sex is sex. If a girl says no then its no. No means no. Whats not to understand! the n or the o.

I understand tickling is fun and exciting. However, its nothing like sex. Two totally different things.

I think even i could grasp the simple concept- if a girl says tickle me, then i tickle her i dont try to force myself upon her. Geez!🙄

 

[BigBrownEyes]

Funny you should mention lusting after teachers. I remember having a math teacher in 7th grade who was damn hot! She even tickled me one day!

I saw her in a grocery store not long ago with her son, but just couldn't think of anything sensible too say.

Sometimes it's better to keep your mouth closed and be thought of as a fool, than opening it and removing all doubt...hehhahha...

 

[the_Baron]

this school scenario reminds me of a 10th grade teacher of geometry that i had in high school. she was somewhat "dark" in appearance and mood, but we always managed to joke around.

one afternoon after class we were chatting and she said she didn't laugh enough. so i poked her stomach. i felt i could do that and not get in trouble. well, it was obvious she was extremelt ticklish. i enjoyed it, but never pursued anything.

anyway, some years later i run into a fellow classmate, and he informs me that she killed herself. like i said, she had a dark side.

but i wonder if she might have gotten thru life easier with some tickling in addition to whatever therapy she was in.

i know. morbid story. but it came to mind nonetheless.

 

[crydun]

Sunrise!

Funny you should post this because I've been having a similar fantasy lately. I too, get along better with guys(girls are just toooo cattty!!!) When I move out on my own soon, I am going to keep my options open.... you never know.

 

[MrPartickler]

"When Harrey Met Sally" all over again...

Is anyone else reading this thread reminded of that movie and Billy Crystal's famed quote: <i>"Men and women can't be friends...because the sex part always messes it up."</i> ?

LOL. Hilarious. I thought I'd weigh in since this is a pretty good debate...perhaps one for the GD section as well.

I have to say I generally agree with the aforementioned quote for this scenario. I think that it's a near impossiblilty--for any extended length of time, that is. In other words, I think the "platonic" days are numbered from the beginning for two single, hetero folks with any reasonable degree of physical attraction for each other. (Note, that doesn't mean I think it will or should always end in sex, just that I think the "friendship" dynamic will change.) IMHO, tickling would merely be a likely catalyst for change in such a situation.

I'm not certain, but I think the crux of this philosohpy is not that there can't be any appearance of a friendship or a caring, relationship--sans sex. Instead, it's just that one person will eventually--albeit, often secretly--want more than the other (unlike with genuinely hetero same-sex friendships). Alternatively, one person will likely "hold back" a part of themselves to keep that from ever happening. Depending on how that's accomplished, it may stifle communication and (even platonic) closeness. I think that these imbalances make the platonic m/f friendship almost always a finite-duration experience. LOL

...but hey, what lasts forever anyway? Just enjoy it while it lasts! 🙂

My only question is: How'd the part about "forcing" or "obligating" someone into anything become part of this dicussion? 😕

 

[The Sean Man]

Tickling roommate.

I don't have a tickling roommate, but one of my best friends was perfectly accepting of my love of tickling. She doesn't mind, from time to time, a tickling session. Ahhhh, it's good to have friends like that😉

The Sean Man

_____________________-

"Good lord, man, get that finger out of your ear....you don't know where that's been!"

 

[Iggy pop]

I do want to make one thing clear I do not advocate rape or forcing yourself on someone. When it comes to sex there are two things that I firmly believe: that is consensual and between adults. Besides that anything goes.

Tickling is tickling. Sex is sex. French kissing is French Kissing. Touching a women's breast is touching a woman's breast. Yada...Yada...Yada... Not all these activities are sex, I consider them sexual. Does that mean if tickle someone are they obligated to give you sex. Of course not And just because you touch a woman's breast she is not obligated to give you sex eithier. For me tickling is still a sexual activity. I am hetrosexual male, and I have no desire to tickle or be tickled by other males. The objects of my tickling are usually women that I have some physical attraction to.

Platonic, as I see it, means a non-sexual relationship. No sexual activity at all. Even if you are not having sex, you can still be breaking platonic boundaries. If tickling is just a playfull innocent activity to you. then yes it can be a platonic activity. I would ask do you care about the person's "attractiveness". Do you care about the person's gender?(if you not bisexual) I'd say if the tickling is getting you arroused, but you are not having sex then it is still a sexual relationship. You are just not acting on the sex.

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

Sunrise I think you have a great idea and I've often thought about the same exact thing (back many moons ago when I was flying solo) I think that as long as there were boundaries established from the start you wouldn't have any problems.

As far as Iggy's experience goes, there wouldn't have been any problems had the line not been crossed. If they had done their tickling and left it at that like you plan to Sunrise, there wouldn't have been any uncomfortable feelings. (Not to say that YOU made any bad choices by sleeping with her Iggy, you just needed to be prepared to accept the results, which you were.)

While I do think that it would be a pretty much fool-proof situation if one or both of the roommates were homosexual, the bottom line is that whether or not the situation turns sour is based entirely on both roommates respect of boundaries and self control. And if it turns out that you guys mess up and sleep together or whatever, well then you need to be prepared to accept whatever results from it 🙂

Well there's my dos pesos. (does that even mean cents in Spanish? lol)