Tickling taken too far...

[ninefive]

Has anyone ever witnessed in public or otherwise mainstream occurrences where a guy tickled his girlfriend for too long a period of time sadistically or to the point where she clearly wasnt enjoying it? Today, I saw in a resturant some guy squeezing his gf's knees to the point that she was tearing up...

 

[CassandraMarie]

That would depend on both of their feelings towards what happened. She may have been tearing up out of reaction and really had no problem with it. Now if she got up yelled at him and stormed out then yes too far. Short of that who are we to judge what's too far on another's relationship. :-D

 

[ticklesndimes]

I agree with Cassandra 🙂 unless its blatantly obvious she isn't enjoying it then you can't assume. But we can't help what makes US feel uncomfortable(which yes I have experienced) so it's all about personal preference.

 

[FootballGuy]

Well said Cassandra

 

[TTT for joy]

I don't think that 'enjoyment' is that much of a big deal: consent is. If no one gets hurt in the process and the girl consents to being tickled (because for instance she might know how much her boyfriend enjoys it), I don't think it's that much of a problem. If the girl is getting abused, the tickling is going out of hand and against her will, now that's completely another story...
It all depends a lot on the context and I don't really feel like judging what is or isn't going too far. It's mainly for the couple to determine.

 

[TheTickleMonster]

Yeah, tickling is hard to determine really when it's "enough" Obviously if you hear someone scream an obvious safe word and the boyfriend doesn't stop... then that might be too much. Although most people that aren't in to tickling don't have a safe word so generally it can be hard to tell. But I think most boyfriends who like to tickle their girlfriends because it's fun or flirtatious or whatever, generally know where they need to stop so they're girlfriend doesn't hate him forever. She may hate tickling, but as long as she's not about to pass out, and she forgives him later, it's okay. Because there's hating it, and then there's hating it and will never talk to you again. And personally, I don't mind tickling people who hate being tickled, but I have to know they care about me enough to forgive me later... if they hate it so much they're not going to like me after, then not... plus he can do things later that'll get her to forgive him. 😛

Plus we got tickling videos where the girls cry because it tickles so much. It doesn't mean that she's going to die from tickling or suffer any lasting effects. Unlike other types of abuse like actually hitting your significant other... So it's just hard sometimes to see when tickling turns from playful flirtatious fun between lovers and actual abuse.

 

[L_o_s_e_r]

Question reminds me of Travolta going too far with Debra Winger in that movie from the 1980s.

Not too sure about f/m setups but concerning relationships where the tickling is m/f, it's all part of the guy being wise enough to go with the girl who is dying to please him as opposed to trying to get a girl he's dying to please. A male tickler does not have to have a woman who's a born ticklee. Rather, all he needs is a one who was born to please him. Even if she would never want him to tickle her, if making him happy is imperative to her, she will put up with getting tickled by him.

 

[duderino84]

Question reminds me of Travolta going too far with Debra Winger in that movie from the 1980s.

Not too sure about f/m setups but concerning relationships where the tickling is m/f, it's all part of the guy being wise enough to go with the girl who is dying to please him as opposed to trying to get a girl he's dying to please. A male tickler does not have to have a woman who's a born ticklee. Rather, all he needs is a one who was born to please him. Even if she would never want him to tickle her, if making him happy is imperative to her, she will put up with getting tickled by him.

Kind of. That road I've traveled. Long story short, lee eventually gets sick of ler and leaves. I'm no relationship expert (literally, I consider myself relationship retarded; no truly devoted, involved relationships ever), but I know give and take is important. And it has to be what the person TRULY wants. My last ex I wanted to tickle (obviously, I'm here after all), she wanted to groom me for marriage/kids. Months go down the road, after a while I reveal that the two topics make me sheepish, BAM, we're done, she's onto another guy.

As far as too much? When the tickling coming is probably anticipated and negative reaction is the basis of display of that anticipation. I'll clarify for anyone that doesn't understand me, forgive me, I'm currently posting half asleep.

 

[Emishticklish]

I've seen it, yes and it makes me uncomfortable. I remove myself from those situations. As far as in my own Relationship, I like it when she pins me down and tickles me agains my will....sometimes. 🙂 A safeword is a safeword for a reason; If it isn't respected when spoken, that's too far.

 

[C.A.B.]

If the ASPCA is called about the balding chickens, rest assured its probably gone too far.

 

[L_o_s_e_r]

"Long story short, lee eventually gets sick of ler and leaves."

Read the book "Sex at Dawn." Relationships are made to end. Enjoy them while they last but like toys and cars, they wear out and must be scrapped. That's why a guy may as well stick to the girls who are chasing him as opposed to wasting time pursuing women who have not looked at him twice. The women approaching you, while not necessarily the girl you dream about, will do things for you that a guy does dream about.

 

[duderino84]

"Long story short, lee eventually gets sick of ler and leaves."

Read the book "Sex at Dawn." Relationships are made to end. Enjoy them while they last but like toys and cars, they wear out and must be scrapped. That's why a guy may as well stick to the girls who are chasing him as opposed to wasting time pursuing women who have not looked at him twice. The women approaching you, while not necessarily the girl you dream about, will do things for you that a guy does dream about.

Are they really supposed to end? What about marriages? I have some trouble believing that part of your theory.

 

[shiftdown]

Tickling in public between significant others (m/m, m/f and f/f) if done a lil could be looked at as a public display of affection...which I whole heartedly approve of and appreciate seeing, like " hey those 2 are good for each other, happy and everything" but when it comes down to someone about to cry....I see that being humiliating and I can't f*ing stand that at all...seen it before and it made me sick

 

[EnchantedTKLR]

If the ASPCA is called about the balding chickens, rest assured its probably gone too far.

ROFL!!!! Indeed.

 

[L_o_s_e_r]

"Are they really supposed to end? What about marriages? I have some trouble believing that part of your theory."

It sounds as though you are single. But if you are married, has it been long? Anyway, pick up the book.

 

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

Question reminds me of Travolta going too far with Debra Winger in that movie from the 1980s.

Not too sure about f/m setups but concerning relationships where the tickling is m/f, it's all part of the guy being wise enough to go with the girl who is dying to please him as opposed to trying to get a girl he's dying to please. A male tickler does not have to have a woman who's a born ticklee. Rather, all he needs is a one who was born to please him. Even if she would never want him to tickle her, if making him happy is imperative to her, she will put up with getting tickled by him.

That's very well said. However, the tickling you're referring to in the movie Urban Cowboy is when he did tickle her because he thought she was jealous of him liking another woman. I think Travolta's tickling was only brief but I could be wrong.