Tickling = Turnon?

[LeeAllure]

Did you ever tickle someone who was really sensitive and squirmy
and whom it was just so much fun to make react, but it really
turned them, on, even though you didn't feel that way about them?

Were you able to stop tickling them, or did you keep on, knowing
that you were turning them on, and they were doomed to frustration?

Would you stop?
Would you keep going?
Do you think you'd ever find yourself attracted to their reaction?

If you're a ticklee, have you been tickled til you're turned on,
only to have the tickler stop, and not go further? Conversely,
has your ticker ever been turned on, and you weren't?

Lee

 

[toneus79]

Well this seems to fit with my own related fetish of chastity (devices) and orgasm denial (the longer that goes on for, days/weeks the more ticklish I become). However when I have brought this up before on the TMF it didn't really fit in with anyone elses experience or aspirations.

So now I just accept I am weird (hey but I have always done that)

 

[milagros317]

I'm often turned on when tickled by Mistress Zara. In the context of seeing a professional Domme, of course, I know that she isn't going to do more.

 

[Strider]

At times I've had a few spontaneous tickle fights with friends who don't have my fetish; like just playing. And obviously, for me, it's somewhat of a different thing than for them, but it's still a world of difference than when I'm actually in situation that's explicitly sexual. Look, tickling is probably primarily sexual for the vast majority of us here, but I can usually still flip that switch off when it's not appropriate to the situation.

 

[Helena]

Oh the heartbreak of an unmet need......and yet....somehow....life continues. ooooooooo nooooooooooooo!!!!!!
As a lee, I have been tickled to the point were I'm turned on, and I've also been tickled to the point where I think I will just die if it doesn't go further because I'm so incredibly turned on by that person!
Anyway, sometimes a Ler does not want to have a SEXY PARTY after tickling. That's life though.
In a sad, horrid, wasted-opportunity moment when sex will not occur, I take a cold shower and cool down. I can't always have my own way.

 

[AffectionateDan]

Just depends on who you're playing with, really.

For me, it's not arousing unless it's known beforehand that our play is going to get intimate. I've played with a few ladies, and our play time has run the spectrum from fully clothed horseplay to erotickle foreplay. It's always well understood before play even begins where things are going. Honest communication is essential... you've *GOT* to be on the same page, or at least one of you is going home frustrated. I've tickled married gals in the community who just can't get what they need at home, gotten them all wound up, and sent them home to ravish their husbands. I've tickled girls younger than me who it would've made me feel like a cradle robber to have gone any further with, who later commented that it shocked them that I didn't try to have sex with them. Then there are just those play partners out there who don't get a sexual charge out of it at all, they just love being tickled. There are those who, in my best judgement, needed a break or had had enough, and irritated them by stopping early, LoL. In ANY example, I respect their boundaries (if we've ensured there are any) and safewords. It's only enjoyable for me if it's mutually fun. There's no right or wrong answer to this one... everybody's got their own take on it, so you just need to talk about it and meet on safe ground.

 

[cloudgazer2k]

the women that have tied and tickled me in the past knew beforehand it was a turn-on, and they would tickle past the point of no return...when i was a mess. coincidentally, since my current 'ler knows of my greatest weakness, she uses it almost always. as such, she knows she can get me in the mood for play with a few scritches and scratches (i'm easy)

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

If you're a ticklee, have you been tickled til you're turned on, only to have the tickler stop, and not go further? Conversely,
has your ticker ever been turned on, and you weren't?

Yep on both accounts. lol

For me, tickling is primarily about fun and friendly affection. But, there are areas that get me going if hit the right way. I've had a few occassions when the ler stopped and I was like, "NO! DON'T STOP!" OK, so that's true even if I'm not turned on by it. But... 😉

On the flip side, I suppose since it isn't about getting turned on for me, I've had guys get turned on while I was just having fun. It doesn't bother me to have them get turned on if I'm not. As long as they respect the boundaries set in advance, more power to them.

Ann

 

[knight]

Just depends on who you're playing with, really.

For me, it's not arousing unless it's known beforehand that our play is going to get intimate. I've played with a few ladies, and our play time has run the spectrum from fully clothed horseplay to erotickle foreplay. It's always well understood before play even begins where things are going. Honest communication is essential... you've *GOT* to be on the same page, or at least one of you is going home frustrated. I've tickled married gals in the community who just can't get what they need at home, gotten them all wound up, and sent them home to ravish their husbands. I've tickled girls younger than me who it would've made me feel like a cradle robber to have gone any further with, who later commented that it shocked them that I didn't try to have sex with them. Then there are just those play partners out there who don't get a sexual charge out of it at all, they just love being tickled. There are those who, in my best judgement, needed a break or had had enough, and irritated them by stopping early, LoL. In ANY example, I respect their boundaries (if we've ensured there are any) and safewords. It's only enjoyable for me if it's mutually fun. There's no right or wrong answer to this one... everybody's got their own take on it, so you just need to talk about it and meet on safe ground.

Amen, brother. As the man said, 'Nuff said!

 

[AffectionateDan]

Amen, brother. As the man said, 'Nuff said!

Thankee kindly, sir!

(i'm easy)

Ain't we all, brother... ain't we alllllllll.

 

[Jamie1862]

It happens all the time...

Did you ever tickle someone who was really sensitive and squirmy
and whom it was just so much fun to make react, but it really
turned them, on, even though you didn't feel that way about them?

If you're a ticklee, have you been tickled til you're turned on,
only to have the tickler stop, and not go further? Conversely,
has your ticker ever been turned on, and you weren't?

Lee

I have been in both sides of the equation. I have tickled and been turned on knowing nothing would come from it, which happens quite frequently because I tickle ladies all the time (not in the all out sence but it is still a turn on). I have also been tickled and turned on with the knowledge that again I was going to live frustrated afterwards. Life is full of frustration. It doesnt mean I like it...LOL...but it is better then nothing...especially when the other party involved does not know.

 

[lk70]

Happens more when I ler than when I lee. It doesn't bother me at all- how they feel about it, I don't know!

 

[ticklishscribe]

I don't know whether this counts or not...

But I regularly cyber with a member begining with the letter R, and she tells me that I regularly turn her on. And that on some occasions, when we're done she even has to go and clean herself up beacuse of it. If that be true, heaven knows what I'd do to her in person, but when we do get together, I'll certainly find out.

 

[hiltopoius]

At times I've had a few spontaneous tickle fights with friends who don't have my fetish; like just playing. And obviously, for me, it's somewhat of a different thing than for them, but it's still a world of difference than when I'm actually in situation that's explicitly sexual. Look, tickling is probably primarily sexual for the vast majority of us here, but I can usually still flip that switch off when it's not appropriate to the situation.

I share this same belief with strider...switch on and off when its appropriate.
its mostly a turn on for me when im a ler and the lee is extremely attractive but i stay in control at all times of play and understand the difference very well....

 

[Bagelfather]

Did you ever tickle someone who was really sensitive and squirmy
and whom it was just so much fun to make react, but it really
turned them, on, even though you didn't feel that way about them?

Were you able to stop tickling them, or did you keep on, knowing
that you were turning them on, and they were doomed to frustration?

Lee

A very good question, I'm glad you posted it to the forum. I was in a situation along similar lines: http://www.ticklingforum.com/showthread.php?t=82717 where something similar occured.

In my case I was attracted to NS but was being reserved about it for several months. I had been with her before in a somewhat sexual way but because she is collared to someone (though Poly) and through a longer story (not presented here) I did not think I had a chance of doing something further with her. Therefore I supressed my sexual feelings until they were in the back of my mind.

I was unaware that NS had a strong sexual attraction to me (see upcoming thread on smells like food in general forum). I knew she at least felt I was attractive and fun to be with, I did not know HOW much.

Okay to the tickling heart of this point (sorry had to give some backstory). When I was tickling her I could tell she was turned on. In tickling her in the way I did I became EXTREMELY aroused and the buried sexual feelings I had for her came to the surface very strongly. The sad part was neither of us had negotiated anything with the other person. I knew if I went too far it would be an explosively bad situation and I would lose a very good friend and ANY chance of seeing or talking to NS again, let alone playing with her.

So the sexual tension was high and neither of us were in a position to truly unleash that sexual energy that had built up. This was AMAZINGLY frustrating to say the least. The fact that she crashed at my place in my bed and snuggled up and I still did NOTHING with her (nothing being only cuddling, no touching genetalia, no kissing, no mouth use at all, etc). This is a long time to have sexual energy pent up let me tell you.

I continued to tickle her because it is something she wanted to explore. I did not push the limits where it would cross a line (her pants and bra stayed on, no touching of her crotch or breasts, etc).

If you are wondering what happened... the story is still unfolding but I have good hopes that I will be able to do this again and this time not have to deal with the frustrations.


In another situation my friend Lindyhopper I know can get sexually excited from being tickled. She is aware that I will not try to bring her to orgasm or touch her in a sexual way, and she doesn't want that either. I try to be careful not to cross the line because although I find her very attractive and fun to play with I don't see her in a way where I want to tickle her in a sexual sense. If OTHER people are involved in that and I'm one of the many accomplices I am fine with that 🙂. The best way to describe it is that the feeling of us doing anything "intimate" in a tickling scene would be like sexual play between brother and sister.

We are both comfortable where this is, and are on the same page. I think if you start to get that way with a partner and it is turning sexual and one of you is NOT interested in that direction I would consider calling for a break to discuss it and decide if you want the scene to continue. If you feel you can go off and finish yourself off so to speak or go off with someone else to release the energy and the other person is okay with that then that's fine.

This may be something you are likely to encounter with people you have not played with before. This is why watching them with someone else or talking and getting to know them helps a LOT 🙂! Negotiate your scene 😉

 

[ViperGTS]

I'd answer, but you already know my answer, dear. 😉

 

[ShadowTklr]

One thing I know about myself is that if the lee is of age, and really ticklish, then I'm going to get turned on, even with a few pokes. If the tickling is prolonged, like with a friend, then I have a habit of tickling to turn a woman on.

I must say, however, that I have tickled girls whom I knew were getting turned on, but that I would not be having sex with. If I took more time, I'm sure I could explain what it is in me that sees tickling as synonymous with sex, but I'm writing this in a hurry, so suffice it to say that I see tickling as almost synonymous with sex itself.

As soon as I see excitement in a lee, my sadistic little alter ego takes over, and I become quite deliberate, pushing her buttons again and again until she's visibly flush with sexual energy - with respect of course.

I have noticed that most girls and women whom I have turned on by tickling confessed to me that their excitement was heightened by the playfully sadistic and taunting way that I tickled them - you know, chase games; "Oooo I'm gonna getcha, and when I do..."; that kind of stuff (although sometimes a little darker). So, in retrospect, they really didn't want it to stop either, even though they were reaching turn-on saturation.

(whew) okay time for my cold shower now...

 

[drew70]

If I'm being tickled by a Ler, with nobody else around, and she's wearing something sexy (Kitten Toes' outfit at this year's NEST comes to mind), yeah that would be a major turn-on for me. But I don't need to achieve sexual orgasm to get release. The duration of high-intensity tickle torture does that for me.

 

[terorizer]

Were you able to stop tickling them, or did you keep on, knowing
that you were turning them on, and they were doomed to frustration?

Would you stop?
Would you keep going?
Do you think you'd ever find yourself attracted to their reaction?

Lee

Very cool question.

I have been in situations where the lee got turned on when I was not. Interestingly, I become somewhat sinister. At that point it's kind of a lose/lose situation on one level, because if you stop, there's frustration on the lee's part, because they do NOT want it to stop. If you continue, then obviously, there's going to be a greater need for release of that sexual tension. Some lucky beautiful creatures are able to attain that simply FROM the tickling.

I would stop if it goes beyond the boundaries we've set. But if not become much more interested in trying if the tickling alone can get them to "that point".... I can get pretty evil if it gets close though.

Basically though, a reaction in and of itself will not turn me on. If I'm not sexually attracted to a women, tickle play with her will not arouse me.

 

[AffectionateDan]

Well said, sir!

Very cool question.

Basically though, a reaction in and of itself will not turn me on. If I'm not sexually attracted to a women, tickle play with her will not arouse me.

Very cool answer!

 

[cloudgazer2k]

one thing i can never quite get is that, as a kid it was never a turn-on....just fun....nowadays it's different. but only with actual tickle sessions, of course. and lately, i've always felt kinda down when the tickles (giving or recieving) just didn't go long enough (CS is scared she'll hurt me)

 

[ViperGTS]

Lee, how about you?

 

[LeeAllure]

I have Robert Palmer moments...

I think it's pretty obvious when someone is getting turned on
by the tickling (as opposed to a crying kind of release, or
passing out) and it happens often enough. It's kind of an
issue for me, because for me, it's all fun & games (and no
one loses eyes or other body parts), but I can kind of lose
my happy if someone is getting too into the whole being
turned on bit. It isn't the end of the world, tho. If I'm dating
them, then no, I have no issue with that.

Lee

 

[Amy357]

Mostly when people tickle me I don't really get turned on, it's just something I enjoy in itself. Though, I did once get very turned on by a guy who was tickling me, who I had a big crush on. I think he knew what he was doing though, and I think he was pretty turned on too. 😉 Sometimes my boyfriend turns me on when he tickles me, but we can just head to the bedroom after and he doesn't have to know what caused it.. 😀

 

[toneus79]

I think it's pretty obvious when someone is getting turned on
by the tickling (as opposed to a crying kind of release, or
passing out) and it happens often enough. It's kind of an
issue for me, because for me, it's all fun & games (and no
one loses eyes or other body parts), but I can kind of lose
my happy if someone is getting too into the whole being
turned on bit. It isn't the end of the world, tho. If I'm dating
them, then no, I have no issue with that.

Lee

Perhaps then you should make your Lees wear one of these Chastity Spiked Rings (2nd item down, and don't click on it if easily shocked). http://www.fetish.0catch.com/hischastity.htm

They will then have a vested interest in not getting turned on. You might however get a sadistic kick out of seeing that they do.