Ticklish Advice

[butterflytickles]

Hi, I have a question and I am not sure what to do about this or who to ask, so I am asking it here. If it's the wrong place, I am sorry. I'm new here...

I have been with my significant other for 6 months now, we are serious, and we are starting to take out relationship to the next level. He is such an amazing understanding guy and I love him to death. He is an amazing man and I am so lucky to have him in my life. He does tickle me here and there from time to time, but not as much as I would like. I just really want to share with him my tickling fetish. I am a lee mostly, but I would also love to tickle him more since I have noticed that he too is quite a bit ticklish. I would love to add it to our sex life or for just plain fun. He knows that I don't hate being tickled and that I do not mind it, but eh doesn't know that I actually really enjoy it and that its a major turn on. He has tickled me on occasion, but he doesn't know the extent of it. I feel as though its time for me to tell him about my fetish and why I like it so much and that I want to experience this with him. We are going on a mini vacation to the beach in 2 weeks together...I was thinking of maybe telling him then in some cute under the radar way.

What is the best way to go about this? Just tell him one night when the timing is right? Do I tell him after he tickles me next time? Do I drop hints? HELP please. Anyone who has been through this with advice for me would be greatly appreciated. Thank you 🙂

 

[tickler87]

just b straight with him and sit him down and tlk 2 him about it. he mite surprise u and b open to the idea and take it to the nxt level explain to him what u wana do or what it would involve it mite open doors to you both n explore ur fetish togetha

 

[TD01089]

Agreed, but when people don't share in the same tickle fetish it sometimes becomes hard for them to share in it as well especially if they aren't big into tickling like you are. Just express your fetish, what you would desire especially sexual wise and who knows he might make it happen. you said he's understanding so best way to know if it will work is talk to him, tell him what you would love to happen and who knows you might get that wish.

 

[BBGuy5240]

You just gotta be Honest with Him

 

[Edward_]

I think maybe start a brief conversation about what turns the other one on, and then mention being tickled works for you, but pretend it's small, so it won't be taken as a big thing.

 

[TickleYouPink]

Eh, I'm not sure I would sit him down and have a big serious conversation about it... unless an opportunity comes up where you're talking about sex and turn-ons, then you could just mention it in a casual way, not like it's a huge deal. But how about this: some time when you two are starting to get playful and frisky, just give him a sexy/naughty/conspiratorial look and say, "You know what I'd really like right now? If you tied me down and tickled me!" That should get him going!

 

[rhiannon]

You're a girl and he's a guy. You're not asking to pee in his mouth. You only like to get tickled! Next time just go like "Boy, it really turns me on when you tickle me". That should do the trick. NO HINTING! Guys don't get hinting!

 

[jc10113]

What worked for a female friend of mine with the same fetish was that she incorporated it into their sex life. She set up the bondage materials before hand so he wouldn't have to fumble with it, bought some lingerie which he'd like to see her in, and then called him to come over. I believe she even made a sexual game out of it. When he arrived she informed him that he was allowed to live out of his sexual fantasies with her and vise versa. Needless to say it worked without a hitch and he tickles her senseless to this day.

 

[mxaxtxtx]

Coming from a guys perspective, nothing a girl suggests sexually will ever be met with anything but excitement lol. Anyway, its always best to put it all out there I have found, that way you aren't killing yourself with anticipation.

 

[gentlefeather007]

You're a girl and he's a guy. You're not asking to pee in his mouth. You only like to get tickled! Next time just go like "Boy, it really turns me on when you tickle me". That should do the trick. NO HINTING! Guys don't get hinting!

Gotta say this sounds like the best advice to me!!! We don't take hints, maybe cuff yourself to the bed 2 legs and 1 Arm and say if you get the other arm restrained you can have your way with me but be careful I am really ticklish!!!

 

[Coda]

You get to tell him, one way or another. ^_^ Keep in mind that what you're doing is sharing something personal that requires courage and trust, especially if it's awkward or embarrassing to you at all. You could preface it by saying so, or by framing it like it's less of a big deal and more motivated by a desire to please him, like rhiannon suggested. Phrase it the way you think is most honest.

I suppose the fear is that he won't understand or appreciate what you're doing by telling him. And I think that's an even more important question to me than whether someone actually shares or relates to a particular fetish first-hand: the question of whether someone is the kind of person who is interested in learning more about other people's sexual weaknesses regardless of what they are. If he is that kind of person, then he'll want to learn more about your feelings in an attempt to understand them. (And would you do the same for him, if he was equally nervous about sharing some of his deepest secrets with you?)