Ticklish or Turned On?

[dreamer117]

My new girlfriend is a cutie who's extremely ticklish, and loves to tease me until she gets tickled. Best of all, tickling turns her on too. This has opened up the world of tickle sex, which I used to think was just fantasy!

But the more turned on she gets, the less ticklish she often becomes. Even her most sensitive spots. And unlike some women, she's not hyperticklish after orgasm. It mainly seems inversely proportional to arousal.

Has anybody else run into this? How do you like to deal with it? Do you just let her reactions turn things vanilla, or do you actively try to keep her squealing?

 

[rhiannon]

It's not unusual, I've heard it before. Guess the nerves are too busy with arousal to be ticklish. 🙂

 

[BMoreTklr]

I've run into it, however, once you share with them your fetish for tickling and they realize that it also turns you on to tickle them, they're able to adjust and it adds to the pleasure of both parties. There's obviously a physiology element to it, but it's also psychological.......if she knows you like her ticklish reactions, despite being turned on, something in the back of her mind will keep her ticklishness even in her arousal state. Trust me on this, as someone who's experienced it, and yes, it is AMAZING! Best of luck to ya down I-95.

 

[C.A.B.]

Just count your blessings, Dude. Go with the moment.

 

[AmericaRocks]

I guess it depends on the person. Some people have told me that it's not possible to laugh when turned on (which definitely isn't true from my experience).
I don't know though. For someone to say that, there might be some truth to that. Maybe some people just don't laugh when they're aroused for some reason.
Maybe she'll adjust like someone said before. Even if not, still count yourself lucky to have someone who likes tickling too!

 

[Skipadeedoodah]

If you know in your mind that things are turning a corner from playful tickling to a more sexual encounter, I think some people's bodies naturally tone down the tickling sensations so that you can enjoy all the different sensations besides tickling. I mean, think about it, if your breast are so ticklish that you can never feel any other sensation there, you'd be missing out on quite a bit.

Maybe try and make the tickling a little lighter so that she can enjoy that sensation along with the others - and mix it up. Don't expect to tickle her constantly before during and after sex. Tickle a little and then do other things to help keep her turned on, then back to light, feel-good tickling. You might not get as intense of a reaction as you're looking for, but maybe you can work up to it.

Good luck!

 

[Knox The Hatter]

Sometimes, the right touch in the right place, in this regard, can make the experience EXPLODE for her. Yeah, I know, I know, you want reactions, you've heard myths, blah blah blah. Well, the slow, soft application of fingertips while in the throws of passion can make it a life experience for your partner...

 

[TickVix]

I guess I can see how arousal and ticklishness can sometimes cancel each other out since it's can be a lot for the brain to take on However, if she's really into tickling and if she's being tickling before and during sex I think it can definitely keep the laughter flowing. It's a great experience I'm sure 🙂 Just maintain the LERness and I'm sure hertickling reactions will continue into the wee hours of the night or day lol. Much luck

 

[luv2tikl]

That's sort of how I am. Once I'm really, really turned on, the tickling just feels like poking and scratching. Kinda sucks, but oh well. :-/

 

[GEORGIATKLER]

Hey she could be eating those pesky crackers in bed, dude

Houston, we don't have a problem!! If it ain't broke, don't fix it! Hot babe, turned on by tickling, goes into passionate lovemaking and becomes less ticklish, but still has orgasms? Am I missing something? Yeah, "hot babe, turned on by tickling....." Da nerve of her nerves, allowing only one mind blowing, mutually satisfying event at a time. 😉 You can try different levels of stimulation(feathers, fingers and toys, oh my!) in the tickling phase, but when you hit a home run, don't whine about not getting to steal a base. 😉

 

[dreamer117]

Hey all, thanks for the replies! But I should clarify that this is NOT a problem, just a new situation for me. I am sooooo grateful for this girl. Real life with her now is better than even my fantasies were for years. So I wasn't complaining in the least! 🙂

Rather wondering if others have encountered this (apparently so) and what any involved preferred. Being new to this transition, I was unsure whether to tickle less and just focus on vanilla passion, or tickle more since she likes it (at least in the beginning when very ticklish).

So far I've mainly gone with the flow. But feedback such as TickVix's makes me think further experimentation might be fun too. I'll also discuss it with her and see what she says. She wasn't into tickling until me, so she may not know. She also doesn't like telling me what to do, lol. So if any other women want to chime in on what they like or don't in such situations, great!