Ticklish Potential Girlfriend Dilemma

[the tickleshow]

So, I've mentioned before how I was once married and her lack of understanding of our fetish led to our divorce. Since then, I've dated a few women and they all seemed to be fine with not only my fetish, but the fact that I produce tickling videos.
So, I'm single again and I've recently met three women:
#1 is SUPER SUPER ticklish and she is incredibly attractive. But, she HATES being tickled, to the point where she has told me that if I ever tickle her, she'd punch me.

#2 is extremely ticklish but I am not quite attracted to her

#3 is a beautiful and sweet and very young woman (14 years younger) who seems really into me, but she is NOT AT ALL ticklish.

Imagine my dilemma. Comments?

 

[Mitchell]

I loved reading this post, tickleshow. It sounds like you have a great dilemma.

Now.. to my comments/advice about your situation with these women.

As for number one: If it were me, I wouldn't care how ticklish she was.. If she hated being tickled that much that she said she'd "punch you" if you tried, that to me sounds like a no go from the beginning. The only way you could be with her, is if you could give up tickling completely, maybe for good.

Girl number two.

You mentioned her being extremely ticklish, but that you aren't attracted to her. To me, as important as tickling is, I don't think I could be with a woman who I wasn't attracted to, regardless of how ticklish she was. I would consider how I would feel when I wasn't tickling her, and when I was doing other physical things with her, and how that would feel if I wasn't attracted to her.

The beautiful, sweet, one who is not at all ticklish.

I've liked and dated women who weren't ticklish.

While tickling is very important to me, if the woman in question had all the other qualities, I have a feeling I would try it out with her.

Those are my thoughts.

I wish you Luck with your decision.

 

[Luvs2tckl]

Per Larry Wilmore, I'll keep it 100.

#1 - enjoy some time with her, and I would get in some tickles and take a few punches for the opportunity.

#2 - be straight with her without hurting her feelings with the goal of some tickle fun. You never know, your feelings may change over time.

#3 - tap that ass... 14 years your junior doesn't come along that often, but depending on your ages, she may have some daddy issues.

That's keeping it 100, and trying to be a bit humorous at the same time no matter how lame the attempt.

I am happy for you that you have these great opportunities with, I'm sure, some great women. Sadly though, I recommend that you keep on looking for the perfect lady for you. Enjoy your time with them, but I wouldn't consider any of the 3 to be keepers.

That's my best recommendation and advice.

Cause... Well you know... Yolo!

Don't settle brother. We all deserve the one that completes us, and it's my belief that there will be no dilemma when the right one comes along. You will feel it in your heart and just know.

All the best, and I look forward to reading how this plays out for you.

Luvs

 

[the tickleshow]

Thanks. I've been on 2 dates with woman #1. She has gorgeous feet and loves getting foot massages, but they have to be "real" (I was a LMT for 6 yrs).
I'm going out with woman #3 tomorrow, so I may have a better idea. #2 is seeing me on Friday. Maybe if I get to know her better, my lack of attraction may change. I'll keep you posted.

 

[yeayeayea]

I've actually had some luck teaching girls to enjoy being tickled, and it tends to work BETTER on girls who are MORE ticklish.

Have her open her body-posture into a receptive, open, "happy" posture. Shoulders back, chest out, leaned back and relaxed... meanwhile don't torture her. Make her laugh but help her learn to "just take it" by letting her build her tolerance. Don't overwhelm her with intensity, and let her practice handling it and just letting go. Generally help her allow her resistances to melt and help her open up physically. There is a lot of psychology correlating body posture and rigidity with mental state so I was not at all surprised that this had a huge effect.

Obviously there has been trust violated with tickling in the past so it is paramount that you help her feel safe. What begins as defensive, contracting, stress-response reactions turns into receptive, joyous openness and uninhibited laughter. A lot of the "torturousness" of being tickled comes from resistance to it, so once you learn to stop resisting it can become far more tolerable, even therapeutic.

Rule number 1, DON'T TORTURE HER. Just get her used to letting you make her laugh, a little bit at a time, and with great sensitivity to her requests to stop. Help her to maintain an open, "happy" (shoulders back) posture while being tickled gradually more and more intensely. Tell her, and show her, how committed you are to her comfort, how patient you're willing to be, and how much you appreciate her being willing to try it.

 

[robmic]

What he said for sure!^^^^^^

 

[mabus]

I've actually had some luck teaching girls to enjoy being tickled, and it tends to work BETTER on girls who are MORE ticklish.

Have her open her body-posture into a receptive, open, "happy" posture. Shoulders back, chest out, leaned back and relaxed... meanwhile don't torture her. Make her laugh but help her learn to "just take it" by letting her build her tolerance. Don't overwhelm her with intensity, and let her practice handling it and just letting go. Generally help her allow her resistances to melt and help her open up physically. There is a lot of psychology correlating body posture and rigidity with mental state so I was not at all surprised that this had a huge effect.

Obviously there has been trust violated with tickling in the past so it is paramount that you help her feel safe. What begins as defensive, contracting, stress-response reactions turns into receptive, joyous openness and uninhibited laughter. A lot of the "torturousness" of being tickled comes from resistance to it, so once you learn to stop resisting it can become far more tolerable, even therapeutic.

Rule number 1, DON'T TORTURE HER. Just get her used to letting you make her laugh, a little bit at a time, and with great sensitivity to her requests to stop. Help her to maintain an open, "happy" (shoulders back) posture while being tickled gradually more and more intensely. Tell her, and show her, how committed you are to her comfort, how patient you're willing to be, and how much you appreciate her being willing to try it.

Agreed 100% also.

I'd say, GO WITH YOUR HEART.

Who are you the MOST attracted to, as a person? Who could you spend the rest of your life with?

Who can you not live without?

I settled when I was married, because there was never anyone else, and boy was I miserable, and in turn she wasn't that happy. (I was FAR more miserable, trust me....)

Don't make the mistake I did. I wanted to be one of those guys celebrating 20 years of happy marriage, not thankful I finally got a divorce.

 

[the tickleshow]

I've actually had some luck teaching girls to enjoy being tickled, and it tends to work BETTER on girls who are MORE ticklish.

Have her open her body-posture into a receptive, open, "happy" posture. Shoulders back, chest out, leaned back and relaxed... meanwhile don't torture her. Make her laugh but help her learn to "just take it" by letting her build her tolerance. Don't overwhelm her with intensity, and let her practice handling it and just letting go. Generally help her allow her resistances to melt and help her open up physically. There is a lot of psychology correlating body posture and rigidity with mental state so I was not at all surprised that this had a huge effect.

Obviously there has been trust violated with tickling in the past so it is paramount that you help her feel safe. What begins as defensive, contracting, stress-response reactions turns into receptive, joyous openness and uninhibited laughter. A lot of the "torturousness" of being tickled comes from resistance to it, so once you learn to stop resisting it can become far more tolerable, even therapeutic.

Rule number 1, DON'T TORTURE HER. Just get her used to letting you make her laugh, a little bit at a time, and with great sensitivity to her requests to stop. Help her to maintain an open, "happy" (shoulders back) posture while being tickled gradually more and more intensely. Tell her, and show her, how committed you are to her comfort, how patient you're willing to be, and how much you appreciate her being willing to try it.

Thanks for the advice! I have given some thought to trying something like this with her. My toughest task will be getting her to even let me try it. She is REALLY against being tickled in any way.

 

[the tickleshow]

Agreed 100% also.

I'd say, GO WITH YOUR HEART.

Who are you the MOST attracted to, as a person? Who could you spend the rest of your life with?

Who can you not live without?

I settled when I was married, because there was never anyone else, and boy was I miserable, and in turn she wasn't that happy. (I was FAR more miserable, trust me....)

Don't make the mistake I did. I wanted to be one of those guys celebrating 20 years of happy marriage, not thankful I finally got a divorce.

I have only gone out with #2 and #3 once each. I've gone out with #1 a handful of times. I'm attracted to all three for different reasons, so we shall see. I, too suffered through a marriage that came from settling. NOT advisable.
Thanks

 

[the tickleshow]

BTW, here are #1's feet.

 

[GQguy]

You don't have a dilemma man. You're just back in the dating world! You barely know these women, it's far too soon to choose.

4 months ago I went on my first couple of dates. First girl has a smoking body and amazing face. 2nd girl is a pretty blonde. I was ALL about the first girl. After a couple of dates though I realize that the pretty blonde LOVES to be tied and tickled. It was awesome. Then she backed wayyyy off. Despite being a great match for her...she wasn't as much for me and I think she sensed it. In the end the girl that I wasn't as attracted to, that was very much attracted to me and shared my fetish basically dumped me. And the super attractive girl that I was obsessed with initially is my date for Valentine's Day.

Don't count your eggs before they hatch. Have fun man!

 

[Darth Sidious]

I'd say go for #1 but ultimately you should look to distance yourself from the production end of things if it develops into something significant. It's not worth losing a quality woman over.

 

[johnjo]

go with #1 and learn how to block a punch. simple. lol

 

[hockeygolf13]

Just keep going on a few more dates and hanging out with all three of them. If tickling is very important to you, things with #3 may never work out. #1 and #2 certainly could work out with time. Enjoy! The feet of #1 are beautiful!

 

[TigerChick22]

I feel like I have the most negative response of all, but this is how I feel: If you already have an issue with each of them already, it's probably not going to get better or become something you learn to ignore. The right girl will have you looking straight past any flaws in the beginning. My advice is that there are more than 3 girls out there, you don't have to decide on one yet.

 

[Darth Sidious]

Agree with Tiger - don't understand why some are in such a rush these days. Don't settle for any less than what you want. They say when you find the one, you know.

I feel like I have the most negative response of all, but this is how I feel: If you already have an issue with each of them already, it's probably not going to get better or become something you learn to ignore. The right girl will have you looking straight past any flaws in the beginning. My advice is that there are more than 3 girls out there, you don't have to decide on one yet.

 

[the tickleshow]

Thanks everyone. I'm not proposing to anyone, so it's not that big of a dilemma. It's more of a desire to NOT juggle women. I've always been very monogamous. I would be happy with any of these women. I just have to get to know them better.

 

[magic fingers]

Personally I think it's between girl #2, and #3. If #1 hates tickling that much, then all you're going to do is p**s her off. I'd rather date a girl who's not ticklish than a girl who's really sensitive but hates it. That would be like dating a busty girl who won't let you touch her boobs.
I would go w/#3, the young hot nonticklish girl. Based on your description she sounds like she's more into you than the other two, and you've already said you're more attracted to her than girl #2. People might say I'm just being shallow judging someone by their looks, but isn't it just as shallow judging someone by their skin sensitivity? Neither physical appearance or ticklishness has anything to do w/how nice a person is, and you've already said #3 is very sweet.
Are you 100% ler or would you be willing to be the lee(assuming you're ticklish)? I'm a ticklish straight male ler/lee, and I've had a lot of fun dating a couple girls who weren't ticklish, because they always tickled the crap out of me, knowing I couldn't get them back.
BTW w/#3 are you sure she's not ticklish anywhere? Feet, ribs, pits? Some people are "occasionally ticklish", so maybe that would be good enough, since she sounds like the best of the 3 overall.
I guess it all depends on how strong your tickling fetish is. I've seen guys on this forum complain that their GF's are perfect in every way except they're not ticklish or hate being tickled, and eventually it became a deal breaker

 

[Toesheldback]

They always sound great until you marry them.

 

[the tickleshow]

Thanks, Magic Fingers. I understand your sentiments. I'm not sure if #3 is 100% not ticklish. She says she isn't, but when we were talking about giving each other foot massages, I said it was rare that someone doesn't even let out a giggle and she said she "might". So, there is slim hope.
I am 100% 'Ler. Not at all ticklish.
I also dont know if #1 would actually react that strongly to the tickling if it became part of our sex life, slowly but surely. Again, I'll keep you posted. Seeing #3 on Sunday, #2 tomorrow and #1 on Monday.

 

[maniactickler]

Sounds like three strikes and your out. id set up a date with #1. tickle the living hell out of her and have some fun. you know it will only be a one time thing.

 

[TicklishBlackGuy]

Whatever happened to actually loving people for who they are, beyond there faults and such. Why does she got gootta be super attractive, super ticklish, if you want that, just find a girl from Craigslist and not marry her. Honestly if your gonna marry someone you should marry them cuz they love you, whether they share the fetish or not.

 

[the tickleshow]

I'm not that superficial. These are three women I have seen a combined 5 times. I've been married and I regretted the decision to marry someone who did not share my preferences. It ended badly.

On a side note, #3 just made things easier. She returned to her ex.

 

[LittleBabyBlue]

Nothing wrong with attraction, guys. The guy clearly is being generous to these ladies; He could've been an asshat and just told them to do what he wants regardless, like a lot of people I've seen do. But he wasn't. He's just trying to get input on what the best option is. However, if I were you? I'd stick this decision to myself, because when it comes to love, it's a bad idea to ask others for advice on it, since love? Is a very, very personal thing. Letting others butt in with their silly opinions isn't ever a good idea. Lord knows I'd never do it.

As for my opinion though, if it's truly what you desire; Experiment. Have trial and error, and then move on, like anyone does. Some will work, some won't.....but if you keep on trying, you'll find the right one by doing just that.

 

[barefeetarebest]

I'd stick this decision to myself, because when it comes to love, it's a bad idea to ask others for advice on it, since love? Is a very, very personal thing. Letting others butt in with their silly opinions isn't ever a good idea. Lord knows I'd never do it.

Could not agree more with this. The lad already puts himself in a precarious situation by being so forthcoming and open, last thing he needs is one of us to foul his chances up by giving bad/the wrong advice. We do not know these girls, and to base our assumptions or advice solely on his judgement and estimations (no offense to OP) would be kind of unfair.

It would also be unfair to someone who is less sure of himself than others to give that person the wrong advice just to be a C-blocker, but I'm sure that people do that anyway. And that is unfortunate. Everybody should have the chance to be happy. Or at least to have some fun once in a while.