tied and tickled

[Ticklegrrrl]

Hey folks,
So how do I get my guy to tie me up and tickle me. I ask sometimes but he always says "but I'm so much stronger than you why do I need that?" (which makes me nuts because I'm a yoga teacher I'm pretty darn strong, he's just.. well.. much bigger). I think the added restraint would be fun. Wouldn't any guy be like "yea!" if I girl asked for this?

 

[Scouse]

Most guys here would be 😛

Maybe deny him what he wants until he agrees to try what you want? Or try sitting him down and telling him how much you want it?

 

[maniactickler]

Tell him if he doesnt bind you, your leaving him for another tickler. (me)

 

[Coda]

When he responds by asking why he'd need to tie you up, I mean... do you proceed to explain why, or try to make it especially clear that you really want that? Even if I wasn't into the idea of restraining women for tickling, that's what would prompt me to at least listen more closely...

 

[Ticklegrrrl]

Hmmm, well maybe I need to bring the toys and be more clear. That extra release of loss of control can be fun!

 

[milagros317]

For most partners, just you saying it would be fun should be enough to try it.

If he's still reluctant, explain that you kick and thrash when tickled to your limits. 😀

 

[Redmage]

Hey folks,
So how do I get my guy to tie me up and tickle me. I ask sometimes but he always says "but I'm so much stronger than you why do I need that?" (which makes me nuts because I'm a yoga teacher I'm pretty darn strong, he's just.. well.. much bigger). I think the added restraint would be fun. Wouldn't any guy be like "yea!" if I girl asked for this?

No, most guys - in fact, most people - are shy about anything that seems "kinky." Bondage seems kinkier than just pinning someone down, to most people.

If he's not into bondage for his own sake, then you have to lower the entry requirements to make it attractive to him. That means making it as simple for him as you can. Buy some inexpensive wrist and ankle cuffs (www.sub-shop.com has a good selection) and maybe 40 feet or 1/4" nylon rope cut into 10-foot lengths (from your local hardware store). Bondage doesn't get much simpler than that.

 

[Noeyes]

ok time to lay your cards on the table

it may be time to sit your significant other down and have a open chat.the ace up your sleeve might be something he has always wanted to try.it may be time to expore both of fetish zones. as in the case of most guys he has one or more that he has never shared with you. an open and honest conversation with him will help. perhaps try an old fashioned game of truth or dare.

another option is make plans to be together. lay out the tickle tools where they can be easily reached. lay yourself out, secure your own ankles and wrists to the bed and let him find you that way. in case he is unreliable put a handcuff key in a block of ice so it will melt out in a few hours so you can extract yourself.
happy Tickling Noeyes

 

[ElephantEye]

Find a tickle clip you like where the girl is tied down, show it to him and say, "Doesn't that look like fun?"

 

[huskys]

To be honest it sounds like he's really not that into it.
I mean how many hints does he need that it's something that you like and want him to do for you.
Even if it has never occurred to him b4, unless he's thick as a brick, surely he can take the hint.
I'm sorry if that sounds a bit harsh, but I guess I've never really understood guys like that!!!

 

[Illusion]

put a handcuff key in a block of ice so it will melt out in a few hours so you can extract yourself.

But how can you reach the fridge in you're handcuffed ?

 

[JBgood]

Perhaps it does more for him to physically restrain you that to tie you up. I'm sure that if you explain to him that it would make it more intense and enjoyable for you, then he'd be happy to do it.

 

[Raptor]

Most guys here would be 😛

Maybe deny him what he wants until he agrees to try what you want? Or try sitting him down and telling him how much you want it?

Both good ideas. Maybe try tying yourself up and ask him to give you a hand, lol.

 

[ElephantEye]

Perhaps it does more for him to physically restrain you that to tie you up.

Good possibility he has an ego about being a big strong guy - "I don't need no stinkin' bondage to tickle my woman!"

OP could spend a few days fawning over his muscles and "rewarding" him for feats of strength. Then she could explain how being tied up has nothing to do with his physique; she wants to submit to his mental strength, and not only does it make it hotter for her, but because she can't move she'll be able to better watch him.

Then again, he may not be that into it...sigh. And she's a yoga teacher too. Say, I wonder if she has any hot pictures of herself doing handstands, backbends or the splits? 😀

 

[ElephantEye]

Hey folks,
So how do I get my guy to tie me up and tickle me. I ask sometimes but he always says "but I'm so much stronger than you why do I need that?" (which makes me nuts because I'm a yoga teacher I'm pretty darn strong, he's just.. well.. much bigger). I think the added restraint would be fun. Wouldn't any guy be like "yea!" if I girl asked for this?

You'd be surprised how many women here have trouble with this. I once read a Playboy Advisor letter from a college guy whose GF had begged him to the point of tears to fulfill her bondage-tickling fantasies. He finally consented and enjoyed it, but was worried that "something was wrong with her" as she now wanted it more often, longer & more intense.

You couldn't make this stuff up.

On the flip side, I've never heard of a woman having trouble getting a guy in bondage, tho tickling has often been specifically precluded from the festivities. In fact, I had two college buddies who said they wouldn't let their GFs tie them up as they feared the "no tickling" promises would be broken. Both girls were apparently quite upset, but based on certain gleams in their eyes I spotted, the guys were probably right to be cautious!

But many of the female lers here say that as long as reluctant guys know limits will be respected & great sex will follow the tickling, they can learn to tolerate or even love it.

 

[amkes]

well I have a evil but interesting way to get him to do it but you have to be willing to get him tied up. then once you tie him up get him all hot and horny and then stop and tell him if he wants fun then he needs to tie you up so you can have fun. HEHE well that or tickle him till he agrees if he is ticklish

 

[P[a]pi]

Just tell him that the bondage will make it better for you and him. Tell him it will turn you on too (if it does).

If he just refuses then he might not be the right guy for you. There is nothing wrong with you wanting to be satisfied.

 

[Ticklegrrrl]

ah

Perhaps it does more for him to physically restrain you that to tie you up. I'm sure that if you explain to him that it would make it more intense and enjoyable for you, then he'd be happy to do it.

That is a good point (restraining me might be more fun for him), that might be totally true. I didn't think of that. Thanks!

 

[jj82277]

To be honest it sounds like he's really not that into it.
I mean how many hints does he need that it's something that you like and want him to do for you.
Even if it has never occurred to him b4, unless he's thick as a brick, surely he can take the hint.
I'm sorry if that sounds a bit harsh, but I guess I've never really understood guys like that!!!

he asked a legit quesiton, why does he need to do it.

men function on logic. if he knows he can hold you down then its a legit question. well because it REALLY turns me on to be really really helpless with a big strong guy ready to TICKLE me would be a legit answer. he's not being difficult, he is jsut being a guy who thinks with the left side of his brain. red is right, just bring him in slow, don't wierd him out, and you will be screaming for mercy in no time.

PS guys rarely get HINTS, we do respond when wives tell us what makes them aroused out of their minds and want so screw our brains out.