I'm sure there's a thread somewhere addressing this sort of thing, but with the first actual West Coast Gathering in quite a while being held 11/13, I thought it'd be good to tap into the wealth of knowledge and resourcefulness we have here.
Many of us are at ease or decidedly apathetic about people in our lives knowing or discovering what we're into and what we do. I actually ran into two good friends at our last munch a few weeks ago! LOL Still, there are a lot of us who aren't quite completely reconciled with people finding out about something so private. Of course, no one can experience anything before they're ready, but I hate to think of someone missing out or denying themselves because of a fear of being "found out".
My question is, for those of you who aren't totally "out", what things do you tell family, friends, significant others, spouses, etc, when you go to munches or gatherings or sessions?
Personally, I've had people from the community stay with me while vacationing, help me move, and so on. Usually introducing them as "my friend" is all it takes. On some instances I'm asked where we met, and I usually say through "insert name", some other person in the community! LOL The friend of a friend works like a charm.
For munches, when I've been asked what "TMF" stands for, I reply they are my initials. No hostess has asked what they stand for yet.
For gatherings, again, I give the name of the person. If I'm asked who this person is or how I know them, I just give the name of another person.
So what other ways do people have of getting around intrusive friends/family?
Many of us are at ease or decidedly apathetic about people in our lives knowing or discovering what we're into and what we do. I actually ran into two good friends at our last munch a few weeks ago! LOL Still, there are a lot of us who aren't quite completely reconciled with people finding out about something so private. Of course, no one can experience anything before they're ready, but I hate to think of someone missing out or denying themselves because of a fear of being "found out".
My question is, for those of you who aren't totally "out", what things do you tell family, friends, significant others, spouses, etc, when you go to munches or gatherings or sessions?
Personally, I've had people from the community stay with me while vacationing, help me move, and so on. Usually introducing them as "my friend" is all it takes. On some instances I'm asked where we met, and I usually say through "insert name", some other person in the community! LOL The friend of a friend works like a charm.
For munches, when I've been asked what "TMF" stands for, I reply they are my initials. No hostess has asked what they stand for yet.
For gatherings, again, I give the name of the person. If I'm asked who this person is or how I know them, I just give the name of another person.
So what other ways do people have of getting around intrusive friends/family?
