not a troll post...just in a tough situation and very in the closet and have an opportunity to have a non sexual relationship that just involves tickling, but it requires secrecy. So sorry to bother everyone. No need to chime in anymore. I'm good.
Some good advice here:
Life is as complicated as you make it and yes, people make mistakes and there are often difficult choices we have to make. That said, if my spouse chose to cheat on me, and it will feel like cheating even no typical sexual activity occurs, instead of just being honest about what they're into and how they're feeling, I would most certainly choose divorce and be hesitant to allow that person around my kids. Even if that person was into something that was a hard limit for me, or told me they were gay, I would be more apt to listen, look for a compromise, or at the very least an amicable separation with joint custody.
How cheating vs honesty is a difficult choice, I still don't understand.
Since this is serious, the reason people come to the Tickling Media Forum or any internet forum, is to seek advice for tough life decisions, since a lot of people don't have folks that
they can talk to about those specific things about in real life.
Some people here have friends or significant others who share their fetish. Lucky bastards!
Many, and I'm certainly one of them, have lived in no man's land of silence - if I got anything to say tickle related, or even pantyhose loving related for us nylon lovers, I got to come here!
But sometimes the real answer is something totally different than what you thought you'd hear, or wanted to hear.
Hiding in a relationship is a road to misery, by definition. You're always on edge that the other party will find out. Your stress levels stay high all the time.
You're...miserable. You may be USED to that reality, but it's a miserable one. You're just used to the misery.
I never cheated in a relationship, but I had two crappy relationships, one a few months, one a 5 year marriage, where I was perpetually on edge ...even though I wasn't
even DOING anything wrong!!!!!
The first was a super duper Catholic conservative religious nut, who dammit, I liked, who just judged me and constantly insinuated that I was sinning the entire thankfully
short relationship we had. I WANTED it to work out, but I was in love with the person I WISHED that she would have been, not the reality of who she was.
Sadly, a lot of people are in love with the THOUGHT of their mate or friends.
My later wife was not like the first girl, (most women I hope aren't!) so I settled, because, well, no one else would have me, I told myself.
She was hyper judgmental also, just in a more controlling, spoiled, secular way. I felt an inch tall the entire marriage, but always hoping I could make it work.
But there was no bond there. It was me....just trying not to piss her off, or saying "Fuck it!" and pissing her off.
I hid my presence here, because of course it wouldn't be something she'd "approve" of.
The in-laws, and her, were always trying to "get me," to catch me doing something wrong.
In other words, they were fucked up in the head. No, they were just spoiled hateful assholes.
They were "those" people, the ones who went in a restaurant and bitched out the server the whole time for imagined
wrong doings. Yeah, those repulsive type people.
Now that I'm happily divorced, and single, I have new rules in life - those things will NEVER happen to me again.
Never again will I be on edge in my relationship. Never again will I hide who I am, or be constantly worried about the other person
trying to "catch me" doing something, when I'm not.... (trust me, if a better female option had presented herself, I'd have been throwing divorce papers
in her face in 5 seconds, instead of wasting my time trying to work out a failed relationship...) and when the other person has no morals in the first place.
Never again will I be on edge all day long, or having the "joy" of going home to whatever new nonsensical argument she has cooked up.
Maybe you just have a bad, or at least flawed, relationship. Running around will only lead to serious trouble down the line, and unless you love the thrill of
that naughtiness....but even then, you will hurt him and you when you're found out. And most people can't hide things like that forever, you're going
to get caught. Sometimes the other partner already knows. People talk, friends talk. Phone records are innocently checked, sometimes purposefully
checked.
Unless he doesn't care.....but if he does, you wouldn't be hiding anything. Life becomes a full time job of covering up your tickling adventures.
Do what you got to do, but I hope you instead look in, into the relationship you have, and see if it's fixable.
