I used to not tell my girlfriends about my tickle and foot fetishes because I was always afraid that I would be judged as some sort of creepy guy...and then they would tell their friends and then everyone they knew who also knows me would end up knowing waaaay waaay too much about my personal details. That's a nightmare I can do without! I'm quite certain some of the women I had previously dated would have had exactly that type of reaction. I just had to accept the fact that there are some people who are going to be judgemental (and indiscrete!!!) about these things and be prepared to immediately move on if I discover that I'm dating such a person. I just needed to find a way to broach the subject without getting humiliated in the process. This also meant that I needed to find a way to detect which women would respect my privacy and which ones would broadcast my intimate details to every knitting circle they can find. Thankfully, after years of frustration from not sharing my fetishes, I finally decided to make some changes.
The first woman I told about my fetishes was completely cool with it. I was absolutely astonished! She thought tickling was excellent foreplay. She even let my tie her up and tickle her. I had a really difficult time bringing up the topic at first because I had no idea how not to be awkward. Hell, I'm already awkward enough with new girlfriends as it is and I definitely need to avoid making things more difficult for myself in that department. 😱 It's very unnatural and uncomfortable for me to raise this topic out of the blue, so I felt like I needed to be prepared to discuss this topic at any opportune moment...which could happen at any time and these moments were rarely obvious to me. After a few missed opportunities, I started to get the hang of it.
I told another girlfriend about my fetishes on our first date. Interestingly, she had her own fetish. She loved to wrestle with her man before sex. Her fetish integrated quite well with my own fetishes because I could keep wrestling with her and pinning her over and over again, tickling her each time. She also loved the bondage. She already owned her own set of hand cuffs, so she was certainly game. What really impressed me about her above all other girlfriends is that she actually studied my fetishes to learn as much as she could so she would understand exactly how to turn me on, etc. She actually went to a newsstand and bought some adult magazines that discussed foot fetishes and tickling, etc. She read the articles and stories and later asked me about which aspects of these fetishes I liked the most. She even learned how to give foot jobs. 😎 She really made a very good impression on me in that regard. I have yet to meet another woman as dedicated to turning-on her man as she was. I really admire that quality. I just hope I can find another woman with similar qualities. My quest continues...
