To tell or not to tell, that is the question...

[veryberry15]

Yes, it's one of those typical "I'm-scared-to-tell-him-I-like-to-be-tickled" posts, sorry all. But here's a little background that, at least in my mind, validates my hesitance.

So this is a new-ish relationship, we are coming up on four months shortly. He's perfect in pretty much every way, shape, and form. 😀 However, he doesn't know that it turns me on when he tickles me. I've had tons of chances to confess this to him: once he mentioned something along the lines of how easy it would be if he could just turn me on my tickling me, and another time when I was bugging him to tell me what he has planned for us for a late Valentine's celebration this weekend, he responded (jokingly) that we were going to sit on the couch and he was going to tickle me for a whole hour! lol (thought it might catch him off guard if I answered "yes, please!" to his threat).

Here's the thing. I was in a relationship with my last bf for 2 1/2 years. We matched perfectly when it came to intimacy, he had a foot and tickling fetish, and I am VERY ticklish and love to be tickled, but this translated into EVERYTHING being about our fetishes or turning each other on. If I tell my new bf that being tickled turns me on, I don't want him to think that every poke or tickle will lead to sex. I want to keep the playful innocence in the teasing and tickling.

So here's my question: Tell him, or let it continue playfully? And if I just let it continue as is, how can I encourage him to tickle me more? 😀

Thanks!

 

[fitzh2o]

Well...

This isn't as much of a conundrum as you might think. If you're just honest with him and explain that tickling is a turn on but you also like it to just be a playful interaction at times, I think you'll be fine. Key is to communicate your feelings clearly. He obviously enjoys tickling you, so having a prolonged playful session without the sex might even be intriguing to him. Tell him, don't expect him to read your mind, a lot of people don't even know about this fetish of ours. What if he caught you on this forum one day? You'd have a lot of explaining to do, better to not keep secrets I always say, they have a way of biting you in the ass. Make sure your exploring his interests as well, and be a little vanilla some times when it comes to
sex so he doesn't view tickling as a prerequisite to a romp in the bedroom. Hope this helps.