To the married folk..

[thenewguy12]

Does it ever get repetitive only tickling one person?
Obviously, I understand the concept of marriage and settling down with one person but sex is different than tickling.
Do you ever miss being able to tickle other girls/guys?

 

[ticklemepls]

For some people, yes sex is different than tickling... For others, it's a personal thing they're only comfortable sharing with that one person they're with. I can honestly say being a switch with my husband never gets old. There's no one else that I'd trust enough to tickle me... Just my preference, others probably feel different.

 

[Alliekat]

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Do you ever miss being able to tickle other girls/guys?

Oh my God yes! Yes I miss tickling and being tickled by other guys so bad. I've been married for a long time now and haven't been tickled or tickled by anyone since then, but I can't help but crave it. Seeing shirtless, barefoot guys at pools is torture for me...I just wonder how ticklish they are. But what trumps all of that is the stability of my marriage. My husband and I have a great relationship and two amazing children. Tickling would never replace the life we've built together.

Still, a woman can still fantasize lol

 

[okdremur]

Oh my God yes! Yes I miss tickling and being tickled by other guys so bad. I've been married for a long time now and haven't been tickled or tickled by anyone since then, but I can't help but crave it. Seeing shirtless, barefoot
guys at pools is torture for me...I just wonder how ticklish they are. But, what trumps all of that is the stability of my marriage. My husband and I have a great relationship and two amazing children. Tickling would never replace the life we've built together.

Still, a woman can still fantasize lol[/

QUOTE]

Yes, and guys can dream as well. Same here, married a long time, 2 kids, wouldn't trade that for anything. But yes, the tickling cravings are always there.

 

[PiedPiper]

Does it ever get repetitive only tickling one person?
Obviously, I understand the concept of marriage and settling down with one person but sex is different than tickling.
Do you ever miss being able to tickle other girls/guys?

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....... "only tickling" made me smile. I definitely found it more fun and exciting to explore the fetish with my wife, only,.... compared to my frenetic existence prior. Of course, the right mate means everything.

 

[porcelaindoll2]

We're in a non-marriage long term relationship. We don't believe in the institution of marriage. I wouldn't know how repetitive it gets tickling one person. We're in an open relationship. We're allowed to play and fuck with others both together and solo(I'm not interested in solo anymore at this time).

 

[Docsoul]

No. My wife is pretty ticklish and we don't engage in tickle play that often. It's a special treat that does not get old with her. I have a great marriage and would not want to step out on her. If she knew that I tickled someone else, it would be considered cheating. It could be a deal breaker.

 

[pghtickleguy]

I do. I too have been married for a while and definitely miss it but would not trade tickling for what I have.

 

[laughtermech]

I appreciate the question, thenewguy12, as I think it’s one all of us as humans have to grapple with at some time or another while on this planet. I, like some of you who have responded, do think about and fantasize tickling other people besides my partner and spouse of many years. To me though, these cravings are rooted in a deeper question about how well you can communicate your needs and wants and desires with your partner. I’ll be honest and say that I’m not that good at it, yet. I’m trying to get better. I’m also trying to be compassionate and kind with myself in this betterment process. But it’s difficult to say the least. I think our desires for newness and novelty are just built into our operating system if you will and trying to recode this desire is fraught wih risk and harm to ourselves. I’m learning to accept that this desire in me to tickle other members of my species is just part of who i am, and I’m going to have to gracefully and humbly and respectfully accept this part of myself. I also need to be able to communicate this desire to her and see how we might be able to work through my cravings. Chances are (100% I would wager) your partner has her or his own list of cravings that he or she is dealing with herself or himself. Esther Perel is an excellent resource for trying to understand your sexuality within the framework of marriage. I’d highly recommend watching her TED talks and other interviews on Youtube. I learned a great deal from this exercise. Sorry for the long response, but thought I would just share what’s helped le with my own cracings in this department. I’m still struggling like you, but at least I don’t treat myself as badly as I used to when the cravings come. Thanks again for posting the question for discussion. Hopefully we can all be of help to one another here in this forum. Have a great Sunday! TLM

 

[Libertine]

Hogamous, Higamous,
Man is polygamous,
Higamous, Hogamous,
Woman, monogamous.

There are many theories concerning who wrote this, (and it's been around since the 1930s) but none are provable. The non-traditional sex columnist Dan Savage often cites the term 'monogamish' when discussing inherent safety valves in a long relationship, but insists that if implemented, this state must apply to both parties in the couple.

Then there's the 'Coolidge Effect', named after President Calvin 'Silent Cal' Coolidge. Apparently the President and Mrs. Coolidge were being shown (separately) around an experimental government farm. When Mrs. Coolidge came to the chicken yard she noticed that a rooster was mating very frequently. She asked the attendant how often that happened and was told, "Dozens of times each day." Mrs. Coolidge said, "Tell that to the President when he comes by." Upon being informed, the laconic President asked, "Same hen every time?" The reply was, "Oh, no, Mr. President, a different hen every time." And Silent Cal deadpanned, "Tell that to Mrs. Coolidge."

After 14 years with the lovely KT, I am now and again beset by vile thoughts involving a squad of cheerleaders, some wallpaper, leopardskin swim fins and a digital postal scale, but somehow manage to contain myself.

Interesting cameraphone effect of KT asleep on our sofa, presumably dreaming of seven or eight well-muscled, hygienic, splendidly endowed and circumcised pirates whose ship features a sunken tub on the afterdeck (complete with lots of fluffy towels) in which she can relax happily post-ravishment while they present her with tea, chocolates, and an assortment of fat Persian kittens.

 

[Wolf]

Nope, never gets old.
We play in the bedroom, we roleplay elaborate fantasy scenarios with each other online, it's an integral part of our sexual relationship.

 

[siamese dream]

I'll answer even though I am separated and have my divorce pending currently. I didn't get a lot of tickling while I was married. When we first got more sexual and serious while dating, I did tell him about my fetish, and he did tie and tickled me a few times in the first couple years of the relationship. But he wasn't very ticklish at all and wasn't really into it even just tickling me. He also had a kink that I wasn't into and that grossed me out to be honest (blood play).

Still out sex life wasn't bad, until the last couple years of the relationship where EVERYTHING was bad and I no longer wanted sex because most of the time he treated me like shit except when he wanted laid and lied to my face, so it wasn't so much the sex life that declined but our whole relationship. I am glad it's over and met my boyfriend now after we separated and I was in a very depressed state, but had gone full-tilt back into the tickling community because it was a good distraction from the pain and I felt free to finally explore those desires more fully. I have felt so much better about everything since meeting him and feeling so desired and enjoyed by someone into the same kinks in a very compatible way. 😊

While I was married and the relationship/sex life was still good though, I did often fantasize about tickling in order to have orgasms easier/faster. Sometimes these were fictional scenarios and such like stories from the tmf. Occasionally they were fantasies about my first boyfriend who I had the most/best tickling experiences with up until meeting my current boyfriend. I didn't exactly want to be with him again or anything though, but remembering our sessions turned me on.

 

[FFT32]

For me it has been both.

I was married for over 20-years and I was very happy and content just tickling my wife as she supported it and made it fun.

Since being divorced, I have very much enjoyed tickling other ladies probably more than I imagined I would.

I'm on the fence I suppose... as both have been great.

 

[TicklishOldMan]

Been married twenty-five years, wife isn't ticklish and not really into tickling.......talk about torture

 

[Tenebrae]

I have zero problem with tickling (and being tickled by) my wife only. We both playfully tickle friends, but the "hardcore" stuff is, like sex, only kept between ourselves and that is good

However, we've long had a fantasy of tickling a girl together. Or going to NEST and parttake in some games that are held there. It's hot But apart from that, monogamy has always seemed to me the most moral and the most logical way. Mind you, we've been together for only eight years. I shall come back to this post in fifteen years or so

 

[Tenebrae]

Hogamous, Higamous,
Man is polygamous,
Higamous, Hogamous,
Woman, monogamous.

There are many theories concerning who wrote this, (and it's been around since the 1930s) but none are provable. The non-traditional sex columnist Dan Savage often cites the term 'monogamish' when discussing inherent safety valves in a long relationship, but insists that if implemented, this state must apply to both parties in the couple.

Then there's the 'Coolidge Effect', named after President Calvin 'Silent Cal' Coolidge. Apparently the President and Mrs. Coolidge were being shown (separately) around an experimental government farm. When Mrs. Coolidge came to the chicken yard she noticed that a rooster was mating very frequently. She asked the attendant how often that happened and was told, "Dozens of times each day." Mrs. Coolidge said, "Tell that to the President when he comes by." Upon being informed, the laconic President asked, "Same hen every time?" The reply was, "Oh, no, Mr. President, a different hen every time." And Silent Cal deadpanned, "Tell that to Mrs. Coolidge."

After 14 years with the lovely KT, I am now and again beset by vile thoughts involving a squad of cheerleaders, some wallpaper, leopardskin swim fins and a digital postal scale, but somehow manage to contain myself.

Interesting cameraphone effect of KT asleep on our sofa, presumably dreaming of seven or eight well-muscled, hygienic, splendidly endowed and circumcised pirates whose ship features a sunken tub on the afterdeck (complete with lots of fluffy towels) in which she can relax happily post-ravishment while they present her with tea, chocolates, and an assortment of fat Persian kittens.

Your wife looks like a Bouguereau painting, on this picture. Gorgeous!

 

[Talamantes]

Being married doesn't mean never being tickled by another woman to me at least. Tickling can be part of a sexual encounter but can also be platonic. I've been tickled dozens of times since I was married by other women. 😉

 

[mcmunagle]

Not married but may as well be. Unfortunately I never tickled anyone else, I was a late starter. I'm happy to on rare occasion tickle one person, probably because I've never had anything different. I still fantasise about tickling other girls, always have, likely always will. I would like to involve a third person to our tickling thing, maybe it will happen.

 

[mikeytheman921]

I'll answer even though I am separated and have my divorce pending currently. I didn't get a lot of tickling while I was married. When we first got more sexual and serious while dating, I did tell him about my fetish, and he did tie and tickled me a few times in the first couple years of the relationship. But he wasn't very ticklish at all and wasn't really into it even just tickling me. He also had a kink that I wasn't into and that grossed me out to be honest (blood play).

Still out sex life wasn't bad, until the last couple years of the relationship where EVERYTHING was bad and I no longer wanted sex because most of the time he treated me like shit except when he wanted laid and lied to my face, so it wasn't so much the sex life that declined but our whole relationship. I am glad it's over and met my boyfriend now after we separated and I was in a very depressed state, but had gone full-tilt back into the tickling community because it was a good distraction from the pain and I felt free to finally explore those desires more fully. I have felt so much better about everything since meeting him and feeling so desired and enjoyed by someone into the same kinks in a very compatible way. 😊

While I was married and the relationship/sex life was still good though, I did often fantasize about tickling in order to have orgasms easier/faster. Sometimes these were fictional scenarios and such like stories from the tmf. Occasionally they were fantasies about my first boyfriend who I had the most/best tickling experiences with up until meeting my current boyfriend. I didn't exactly want to be with him again or anything though, but remembering our sessions turned me on.

Sorry you had such a rough last few years of marriage. That sounds stressful.

 

[mikeytheman921]

I’m not married. But I’d be thrilled to tickle and be tickled by one person. Considering that I’m currently tickling no persons.

 

[PeterVincentTGVK]

I have been with my wife for nearly 5 years now and married to her for about a year and a half. Not only do I not mind only playing with her, but it often inspires a lot of my stories, so I have absolutely no complaints.

 

[mikeytheman921]

Been married twenty-five years, wife isn't ticklish and not really into tickling.......talk about torture

Uggh that’s brutal. You’re a better man than me, I would have been out long ago.

 

[robmic]

I have zero problem with tickling (and being tickled by) my wife only. We both playfully tickle friends, but the "hardcore" stuff is, like sex, only kept between ourselves and that is good

However, we've long had a fantasy of tickling a girl together. Or going to NEST and parttake in some games that are held there. It's hot But apart from that, monogamy has always seemed to me the most moral and the most logical way. Mind you, we've been together for only eight years. I shall come back to this post in fifteen years or so

Now this is the closest to what I would answer were I still married. I always wanted to be in a relationship with someone who had the same, or at least similar interest in tickling as I do. I would love them to want to tickle others with me! Or vice versa. I wouldn't want to ever have to hide that from them, or have them feel like they had to hide it from me! Marriage is a partnership in my eyes.