True story of my NOT ticklish ex

[dahoochman]

Going back about 19 years for this one. I was 33 and met a petite 36 year old brunette. Italian, olive-skinned, very cute. One reason I found her attractive was how she dressed for our dates - very girly with dresses or skirts, heels and nylons. After a few weeks we were sitting on her couch and she caught me staring at her legs and feet, and asked me if that turned her on. Not wanting to scare her off I mentioned that I did have a thing for her legs and feet, especially in nylons. She was like “why didn’t you tell me?” She was really cool about it. In bed she was a lot of fun, and let me tie her up after about a month. So, feeling confident, a few weeks later after a date we went back to her place and I told her I wanted to tie her to her bed. Her bed was a Queen Size with cast-iron slotted head and foot boards. Tons of places to tie someone. So I grabbed a few pairs of old nylons from her top drawer and tied her wrists tightly to the headboard. Then I used a long sock she had to blindfold her. Then, I went to the foot of the bed, reached over the footboard (it came up to my waist) and grabbed her ankles, pulling her towards the bottom of the bed and stretching her arms taut over her head. This surprised her, she actually said “ooohhh what are you doing. I then slipped her right ankle through 2 of the slats, lifted it of the bed and tied it tightly to the top crossbar, and then to the slat next to it. That foot was going nowhere. Repeated it with the left ankle, leaving her tied in a x position.
By now my dick was throbbing, so I stripped down to my boxers. I then went back to her tied feet and started to run a single finger up each foot.

Nothing.

As I tried to tickle the bottoms of her feet I teased her with “are you sure you’re ready?” But got absolutely no response to my fingers. So I walked over to her dresser and grabbed the hairbrush and started to lightly scratch the bottom of her feet again.

Nothing.

Then I tried the brush harder, up and down her trapped feet.

Nothing. Zilch.

Then she goes “are you trying to tickle my feet?” I wasn’t sure what to say at first, eventually saying “well yeah, wanted to test my knots.” That sounded like a good answer to me at that moment.

She replied “Oh I’m sorry, my feet aren’t ticklish!”

“Are you sure?” I asked, now really going to town on her feet with the brush.

“Yeah, but that feels good!” She said

Dejected, I dropped the brush and walked around to the side of the bed. Looking at her still tied and helpless, I started poking her with a finger. First her ribs, then her sides, eventually up to her armpits.

Nothing.

It wasn’t a total waste, I ended up fucking the shit out her while she was tied, but her being so completely not ticklish was such a bummer.

Anyone else ever date someone who was as ticklish as cardboard?

 

[Wesker28]

Typical eh....

 

[BlueLine7045]

I thought this story mind end with you finding a ticklish spot on her, but guess not.

Thats the story of practically every girl in my life. For every one girl I ran into that was hysterically ticklish, I ran into 5 to 6 girls that weren't ticklish at all.

I was super shy and awkward in high school so I didnt really get a lot of girls, but my main best friend was a female. I still remember the first time I saw her barefoot and the time after that I built up the courage to finally tickle her. Nothing. Over the years I would try tickling her damn near everywhere. Underarms, sides, neck, ribs, etc. and even used a variety of tools. Brushes, pens, fingers, etc. Nothing.

The girl I lost my virginity to, not ticklish at all. First girl I asked to be my girlfriend, not ticklish at all. First girl I was crazy about and almost fell in love with except she rejected me hard, not ticklish at all.

Luckily, my wife is extremely ticklish. I think it would be hard dating/marrying someone not ticklish. When I'm in the mood to tickle, who would I tickle?

 

[LerLee]

In college and in my 20s, I dated two girls that were not ticklish. The girl I dated in college was one of the best ticklers I’ve met.

 

[TicklishOldMan]

I feel your pain dahoochman,
Married thirty years - my wife is the non ticklish variety
sadly no 'lerring for me 😢

 

[Doriansenigma]

I wouldnt have been able to continue, the ticklish as a brick variety is an automatic turn-off

 

[Akilltir]

A girl who is a close friend of mine is pretty ticklish in her armpits but not at all on her feet (i mean like 0 reaction whatsoever).

 

[MAC92]

same no ticklish feet,turn off

 

[dahoochman]

I wouldnt have been able to continue, the ticklish as a brick variety is an automatic turn-off

I get that, but she was fucking hot, and great in bed so, compromises. We lasted 1 year.

 

[ihatethisyo]

Just wanted to chime in—tickling is just as much mental as it is physical, maybe even more. If you are running into a lot of girls who say they’re 'not ticklish,' it might be worth rethinking your approach as a ler. And keep in mind, tickling strangers isn’t the same as tickling close friends.

I’ve had plenty of cases where someone said they weren’t ticklish, but once the trust and comfort were there, that changed.

It really comes down to confidence—lees can usually tell if you’re unsure, and that can affect how they respond. It’s not just about technique; it’s about mindset and connection.

 

[hefophre]

Not good to get invested into relationships without learning early on if partner is compatible or not with your non negotiable wants and needs.

 

[dahoochman]

Not good to get invested into relationships without learning early on if partner is compatible or not with your non negotiable wants and needs.

It wasn’t non-negotiable. We dated for over a year. If we had worked out otherwise I would have been fine with it. Disappointing yes but not a deal breaker.

 

[dahoochman]

Just wanted to chime in—tickling is just as much mental as it is physical, maybe even more. If you are running into a lot of girls who say they’re 'not ticklish,' it might be worth rethinking your approach as a ler. And keep in mind, tickling strangers isn’t the same as tickling close friends.

I’ve had plenty of cases where someone said they weren’t ticklish, but once the trust and comfort were there, that changed.

It really comes down to confidence—lees can usually tell if you’re unsure, and that can affect how they respond. It’s not just about technique; it’s about mindset and connection.

Not sure I agree. If you’re ticklish then you’re ticklish and if you’re not you’re not. Cant suddenly become ticklish because someone wants you to be. A great example was the ex that I referred to in the original post. Not ticklish at all. But later in the relationship for example I was rubbing her feet (which I still enjoyed) she would make a little squeal and go “ hehe that tickles” but it was obvious it didn’t, she was just trying to indulge me.

 

[fightinggirl666]

As a similar not ticklish person of Italian ethnicity I approve of chickies toughness haha.

I personally can't relate to not keeping a partner (who is otherwise a nifty fit for you) because they can't / won't indulge a particular kink in a particular way.

There are so many ways you can indulge different kinks, and that's definitely true of tickling (they can tickle you, you can make them feel amazing if they just like how it feels). But everyone is different in what they need in a relationship, so you gotta do you or you won't be fully present in the relationship and that is not fair on anyone.

You would also hope that the (many) stories here like this, would make some people finally realize that not ticklish / it just feels nice people exist and not everyone has a tickle spot.

 

[sanfini]

Dahoochman, every gal i dated was ticklish to super ticklish. On that note, every Italian woman was extremely ticklish!

 

[dahoochman]

Dahoochman, every gal i dated was ticklish to super ticklish. On that note, every Italian woman was extremely ticklish!

Wow, that’s very fortunate for you! I too have dated super ticklish women (some liked being tickled, some hated it) and my wife is ticklish (not “feather” ticklish but still ticklish) so I have experienced the whole range!

 

[Doriansenigma]

I get that, but she was fucking hot, and great in bed so, compromises. We lasted 1 year.

Yeah, it’s one of the drawbacks of paraphilia vs fetishism. I unfortunately need my partner to be ticklish in order to achieve arousal, when a woman isn’t remotley ticklish it’s like a lightswitch and suddenly I’m out of the mood. Adding all the other complications that come with having a tickle kink and it made relationships challenging when I was a young man. I’m fortunate I’m married to who I’m married too.

 

[Hiphophooray]

Going back about 19 years for this one. I was 33 and met a petite 36 year old brunette. Italian, olive-skinned, very cute. One reason I found her attractive was how she dressed for our dates - very girly with dresses or skirts, heels and nylons. After a few weeks we were sitting on her couch and she caught me staring at her legs and feet, and asked me if that turned her on. Not wanting to scare her off I mentioned that I did have a thing for her legs and feet, especially in nylons. She was like “why didn’t you tell me?” She was really cool about it. In bed she was a lot of fun, and let me tie her up after about a month. So, feeling confident, a few weeks later after a date we went back to her place and I told her I wanted to tie her to her bed. Her bed was a Queen Size with cast-iron slotted head and foot boards. Tons of places to tie someone. So I grabbed a few pairs of old nylons from her top drawer and tied her wrists tightly to the headboard. Then I used a long sock she had to blindfold her. Then, I went to the foot of the bed, reached over the footboard (it came up to my waist) and grabbed her ankles, pulling her towards the bottom of the bed and stretching her arms taut over her head. This surprised her, she actually said “ooohhh what are you doing. I then slipped her right ankle through 2 of the slats, lifted it of the bed and tied it tightly to the top crossbar, and then to the slat next to it. That foot was going nowhere. Repeated it with the left ankle, leaving her tied in a x position.
By now my dick was throbbing, so I stripped down to my boxers. I then went back to her tied feet and started to run a single finger up each foot.

Nothing.

As I tried to tickle the bottoms of her feet I teased her with “are you sure you’re ready?” But got absolutely no response to my fingers. So I walked over to her dresser and grabbed the hairbrush and started to lightly scratch the bottom of her feet again.

Nothing.

Then I tried the brush harder, up and down her trapped feet.

Nothing. Zilch.

Then she goes “are you trying to tickle my feet?” I wasn’t sure what to say at first, eventually saying “well yeah, wanted to test my knots.” That sounded like a good answer to me at that moment.

She replied “Oh I’m sorry, my feet aren’t ticklish!”

“Are you sure?” I asked, now really going to town on her feet with the brush.

“Yeah, but that feels good!” She said

Dejected, I dropped the brush and walked around to the side of the bed. Looking at her still tied and helpless, I started poking her with a finger. First her ribs, then her sides, eventually up to her armpits.

Nothing.

It wasn’t a total waste, I ended up fucking the shit out her while she was tied, but her being so completely not ticklish was such a bummer.

Anyone else ever date someone who was as ticklish as cardboard?

Did you ever try letting her tickle you instead?

 

[dahoochman]

Did you ever try letting her tickle you instead?

Not in to that.

 

[ihatethisyo]

Not sure I agree. If you’re ticklish then you’re ticklish and if you’re not you’re not. Cant suddenly become ticklish because someone wants you to be.

It’s really not that simple. Even people who say they’re super ticklish will tell you it doesn’t always feel the same — it depends on their mood or who’s doing the tickling. There’s definitely more of a mental side to it than most people think. But it’s ok, we can agree to disagree.

 

[dahoochman]

It’s really not that simple. Even people who say they’re super ticklish will tell you it doesn’t always feel the same — it depends on their mood or who’s doing the tickling. There’s definitely more of a mental side to it than most people think. But it’s ok, we can agree to disagree.

I do agree about the mental part. My wife has to be in a playful mood. Otherwise she finds it annoying

 

[BlueLine7045]

I do agree about the mental part. My wife has to be in a playful mood. Otherwise she finds it annoying

Agree as well. If my wife is upset or angry, tickling doesnt really affect her. Not that I'd want to anyway. That wouldn't end well for me.

 

[magic fingers]

Going back about 19 years for this one. I was 33 and met a petite 36 year old brunette. Italian, olive-skinned, very cute. One reason I found her attractive was how she dressed for our dates - very girly with dresses or skirts, heels and nylons. After a few weeks we were sitting on her couch and she caught me staring at her legs and feet, and asked me if that turned her on. Not wanting to scare her off I mentioned that I did have a thing for her legs and feet, especially in nylons. She was like “why didn’t you tell me?” She was really cool about it. In bed she was a lot of fun, and let me tie her up after about a month. So, feeling confident, a few weeks later after a date we went back to her place and I told her I wanted to tie her to her bed. Her bed was a Queen Size with cast-iron slotted head and foot boards. Tons of places to tie someone. So I grabbed a few pairs of old nylons from her top drawer and tied her wrists tightly to the headboard. Then I used a long sock she had to blindfold her. Then, I went to the foot of the bed, reached over the footboard (it came up to my waist) and grabbed her ankles, pulling her towards the bottom of the bed and stretching her arms taut over her head. This surprised her, she actually said “ooohhh what are you doing. I then slipped her right ankle through 2 of the slats, lifted it of the bed and tied it tightly to the top crossbar, and then to the slat next to it. That foot was going nowhere. Repeated it with the left ankle, leaving her tied in a x position.
By now my dick was throbbing, so I stripped down to my boxers. I then went back to her tied feet and started to run a single finger up each foot.

Nothing.

As I tried to tickle the bottoms of her feet I teased her with “are you sure you’re ready?” But got absolutely no response to my fingers. So I walked over to her dresser and grabbed the hairbrush and started to lightly scratch the bottom of her feet again.

Nothing.

Then I tried the brush harder, up and down her trapped feet.

Nothing. Zilch.

Then she goes “are you trying to tickle my feet?” I wasn’t sure what to say at first, eventually saying “well yeah, wanted to test my knots.” That sounded like a good answer to me at that moment.

She replied “Oh I’m sorry, my feet aren’t ticklish!”

“Are you sure?” I asked, now really going to town on her feet with the brush.

“Yeah, but that feels good!” She said

Dejected, I dropped the brush and walked around to the side of the bed. Looking at her still tied and helpless, I started poking her with a finger. First her ribs, then her sides, eventually up to her armpits.

Nothing.

It wasn’t a total waste, I ended up fucking the shit out her while she was tied, but her being so completely not ticklish was such a bummer.

Anyone else ever date someone who was as ticklish as cardboard?

Did she ever tickle you?

 

[dahoochman]

Did she ever tickle you?

Already answered that. No.

 

[Goatboy]

Going back about 19 years for this one. I was 33 and met a petite 36 year old brunette. Italian, olive-skinned, very cute. One reason I found her attractive was how she dressed for our dates - very girly with dresses or skirts, heels and nylons. After a few weeks we were sitting on her couch and she caught me staring at her legs and feet, and asked me if that turned her on. Not wanting to scare her off I mentioned that I did have a thing for her legs and feet, especially in nylons. She was like “why didn’t you tell me?” She was really cool about it. In bed she was a lot of fun, and let me tie her up after about a month. So, feeling confident, a few weeks later after a date we went back to her place and I told her I wanted to tie her to her bed. Her bed was a Queen Size with cast-iron slotted head and foot boards. Tons of places to tie someone. So I grabbed a few pairs of old nylons from her top drawer and tied her wrists tightly to the headboard. Then I used a long sock she had to blindfold her. Then, I went to the foot of the bed, reached over the footboard (it came up to my waist) and grabbed her ankles, pulling her towards the bottom of the bed and stretching her arms taut over her head. This surprised her, she actually said “ooohhh what are you doing. I then slipped her right ankle through 2 of the slats, lifted it of the bed and tied it tightly to the top crossbar, and then to the slat next to it. That foot was going nowhere. Repeated it with the left ankle, leaving her tied in a x position.
By now my dick was throbbing, so I stripped down to my boxers. I then went back to her tied feet and started to run a single finger up each foot.

Nothing.

As I tried to tickle the bottoms of her feet I teased her with “are you sure you’re ready?” But got absolutely no response to my fingers. So I walked over to her dresser and grabbed the hairbrush and started to lightly scratch the bottom of her feet again.

Nothing.

Then I tried the brush harder, up and down her trapped feet.

Nothing. Zilch.

Then she goes “are you trying to tickle my feet?” I wasn’t sure what to say at first, eventually saying “well yeah, wanted to test my knots.” That sounded like a good answer to me at that moment.

She replied “Oh I’m sorry, my feet aren’t ticklish!”

“Are you sure?” I asked, now really going to town on her feet with the brush.

“Yeah, but that feels good!” She said

Dejected, I dropped the brush and walked around to the side of the bed. Looking at her still tied and helpless, I started poking her with a finger. First her ribs, then her sides, eventually up to her armpits.

Nothing.

It wasn’t a total waste, I ended up fucking the shit out her while she was tied, but her being so completely not ticklish was such a bummer.

Anyone else ever date someone who was as ticklish as cardboard?

I once dated a girl who normally wasn't ticklish, except a decent amount on her feet. But when she drank, she got super ticklish all over and her feet went off the charts.