Variable ticklishness?

[SteveTheTrout]

Hi all - Long-time lurker, first-time poster. I'll jump right into it with a question for the audience: have you encountered someone whose ticklishness is highly variable? E.g, most of the time they aren't ticklish at all, or only mildly and in a few spots, but every now and then they're moderately or very ticklish, and in many more places? I'd like to hear about your experiences - I've dated a few women like that, and the few times they are fairly ticklish is pretty rewarding, but the rest of the time it's pretty frustrating.

 

[prestidigits]

My favorite ticklee goes tickle-numb after a little time--I have to keep changing where I tickle.

Does that qualify?

 

[maniactickler]

Yep, and i hate it! i want a woman thats ticklish 24/7. none of this sometimes im extremely ticklish, other times not at all crap. unacceptable!

 

[rhiannon]

It usually depends on the mood how ticklish someone is.

 

[Em Es]

Ticklishness seems as much in our heads as our nerve endings

SteveTheTrout, I was always a good 7 or 8 on the Ticklish 10 scale. But when I first got into switch bondage/tickling arrangements with dominatrices, at times my ticklishness diminished to a 4 or 5 when I took a turn in the restraints. All I can figure is my body's defense mechanisms kicked in as the women cuffed me down.

Not that several dommes did not get me going anyway, despite my diminished reactions. When one cannot fend off tickling hands, being just average-ticklish can still mean trouble!

 

[milagros317]

It depends on relaxation, comfort level, and even such things as the temperature of the room.

 

[ElFewja]

What mila said, pretty much. There are so many variables to ticklishness.

If I ever lightly tickled my ex's back, or blew on her ears or something, it heightened her sensitivity.. she hated it when I did that, because then she couldn't stand it.

I also believe that there's largely a mental bit to tickling. That is to say, you can will it away to some extent. Something along the lines of meditation. Can do this to some extent with pain as well.

-Etc.

 

[SteveTheTrout]

my experience

Interesting replies, all.

I'll elaborate on my experience: when my then future-wife and I started to become more than friends, I tried tickling her to no avail - and I tried everywhere. She said that she was only mildly ticklish in one spot (tops of feet), but could generally control it. It was pretty disappointing, but such is life. After we'd been together for a little while, occasionally she would react a little more strongly, and in a few different places - not great, but enough to keep me trying! Any time she was ticklish, she seemed surprised by it.

After we'd been together much longer, occasionally I would get a few strong reactions, depending on the circumstances (e.g., if I was stroking her very lightly, say during pre-foreplay (if there is such a thing!), and "accidentally" brushed a sensitive spot, more of these sensitive spots would appear, and then very rarely she would become ticklish over much of her body, and react very strongly, and I could tickle her productively, but as soon as she got a minute to catch her breath, she could shut it off again. Now that's frustrating!

Overall, I'd say she's not ticklish at all about 50% of the time, mildly ticklish 45% of the time, and extremely ticklish 5% of the time. But there doesn't seem to be any pattern - when those 5% of occasions arise, it seems completely random to me. Although frustrating, it's actually pretty interesting from a psychological standpoint, and I'd mention (as casually as possible) that it was pretty weird how she could go from 0 to ticklish and then back to 0 again, and ask her (again pretty casually) about her past ticklishness. She said she'd never been very ticklish as a child, but that as a teenager she'd be mildly ticklish in "all the normal places" when she'd first start dating a guy, but then it'd disappear after a while.

During those rare times when she is very ticklish, she says that she has no idea why she is so ticklish then (almost apologetically! I think she knows that I like tickling her, but she doesn't know that i LIKE tickling her, if you know what I mean!). But it seems, that buried deep underneath a non-ticklish exterior is some latent ticklishness that shows itself every once in a while. Again, frustrating but interesting at the same time. That's my long example of "variable ticklishness". Thanks for your patience!

 

[GEORGIATKLER]

Don't the girls get more ticklish at closing time?

YMMV? Suffering from (laugh)bait and switch? Try new and improved "Leeagra" and laugh all the way 1)to the bank 2) down the aisle 3) to the hottiest intersection in nookietown and 4) even to MTL at NEST..........*****neck snaps wildly**** Ok back here in the real world, each 'lee does have a unique tickle map, so to speak, of varying sensitivity by locations. Mood, temperature, temperment, energy level, ability and willingness to exercise control, 'ler level of desirability, etc all can change the level of ticklishness in a 'lee. It seems that the battery does run down if one spot is mined too long without a break.

 

[ElFewja]

Hum, I disagree about energy. I think that that might be more the ler's reception of how ticklish a person is.

As for Steve: I feel like the element of surprise played a major part of your particular case. You seem to use the words accidental or surprised a lot when describing her ticklishness, and I find that to be consistent through-out. Not knowing where it's coming from, when you're blindfolded for example, if you're surprise-tickled tends to cause a higher reaction, from my experiences. It makes me think that she probably practiced some sort of mind-over-body mechanic, again like meditation. Just a general awareness of body and therefore an immunity to it.

But then I dunno.

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[Leo tickles]

With my submissive, it depends on the mood and the setting.

If we're goofing around and laughing, she bursts into fits of laughter. But if we're just laying here and I tickle her, she makes the "I'm dying face" and squeals.