Was i right in doing this?

[Butterfly wings]

Tonight i was talking to my girl on msn messenger tonight. And lately as we have been getting closer and closer and are really connecting to one another. We both have been talking alot about sexual things and making out etc.... But when we first started talking for the very first time i told her pretty much right away with in a few days about my fetishes. And she accepted my fetishes and is ok with them and never thought twice about it like most girls in my past have 🙁.

But lately i have been feeling like she has been ignoring the ''fetish'' side to me in a way and only worrying about talking about sex with me and romantic stuff together her and me when we meet this summer. So i came right out on msn messenger and told her about it how i have been feeling like she has totally ignored the fetish side to me in my real life and my fetishes (for Tickling and Girls feet and what not). And so once i came out with it and told her she was apologzing to me and basically told me that she hasn't forgot about my fetishes and still wants to try them with me and that she was very sorry that i had been feeling that way for awhile about this.



But was i right to talk to her about this and tell her about it and how i have been feeling?

 

[Krokus]

Honesty is the best policy.

Lack of it is why there is a 75 percent divorce rate.

 

[Hiryu]

Don't sweat it. You did well.

 

[RobAce]

You did swimmingly well. Its seems to me that you mentioned it in a non-selfish and honest way. Its good for everyones needs in a relationship to be met. My wife at first was mildly recepetive about my fetish..I mean she let me but not with the frequency that I would enjoy...but as the months passed and we started becoming closer (this was before we were married) she indulged me a bit more as long as I indulged her on things she likes. Now its a 50/50 ratio, which is perfect, everyday I do something for her she likes and then she does something I like...but of course we always do what we both enjoy everyday.

Rob

 

[TickledToDeath]

Regardless of what comes out when you roll the dice in life.......there is NEVER anything wrong with Honesty and expressing your feelings.

 

[amk714]

Honesty is the best policy.

Lack of it is why there is a 75 percent divorce rate.

Agreed, but I thought the divorce rate was "only" 50%? 😕

 

[goddessofpixies]

But was i right to talk to her about this and tell her about it and how i have been feeling?

In my opinion, a relationship with open and honest communication is NOT a relationship! By her response to you, it would seem she feels the same way and was happy to be talked to in this manner. It didn't seem that she took offense so that sounds great, but then again...I wasn't there. I can only go by the words you said she responded with.

 

[Redmage]

Any relationship discussion you can walk away from is a good one.

 

[Butterfly wings]

In my opinion, a relationship with open and honest communication is NOT a relationship! By her response to you, it would seem she feels the same way and was happy to be talked to in this manner. It didn't seem that she took offense so that sounds great, but then again...I wasn't there. I can only go by the words you said she responded with.

Yeah she is ok with it. At first she was a little hurt that i would have and did say that about her. But now we have worked it out and she's fine now. She loves me just the same with no matter what i like in life and with no matter gets me turned on and going she has said. She wants to try out my fetishes with me and please me in any way that she can and is able to and vica versa.

 

[TickledToDeath]

Actually the divorce rate is 50%.
50% of all couples end up getting divorced...........perhaps however the past few years, the rate has gone up a bit.
I know in some areas of the US.......the Divorce rate is alot higher than that in other states.
Could indeed be 70% in a region of the USA.

 

[daddy]

She wants to try out my fetishes with me and please me in any way that she can and is able to and vica versa.

Just remember the "vica versa" part and you will be alright bro. Honesty is always a good thing...but give her a little time to adapt. She will appreciate you for it.

peace out,
daddy

 

[WorkInProgress]

Actually, Butterfly Wings, I'd like to offer you a suggestion for the future. Yes, honesty is the best policy, but when you have something like this on your mind, you might consider whether the best way to approach it is to sound as if you're accusing her of doing something wrong, or rather to introduce it as a positive initiative. Suggestion: "If you don't mind, I'd like us to talk a little about my tickling fetish, because I'm wondering how you feel about our doing some tickling when we get together." It sounds to me as if you somewhat needlessly chose the wording that sounded critical. But, it also sounds as if no harm was done, so this is only a suggestion for when you have things on your mind in the future.

 

[some1somewhere]

Agreed, but I thought the divorce rate was "only" 50%? 😕

The information that I have states this:

50% of first marriages fail
76% of second marriages fail
87% of third marriages fail
93% of fourth marriages fail
(source: DivorceCare, 2004 edition)

 

[BellaRisa]

Honesty is the best policy.

Lack of it is why there is a 75 percent divorce rate.

Actually, in my experience it's dishonesty, about who we really are and what we need, that keeps people married (and miserable) for decades. Honesty is definitely the best policy but it doesn't always mean a long happy marriage.

 

[Michael514]

In my opinion you did right. Take it from a guy who has a major, MAJOR foot fetish, especially for tickling. Where as my wife doesn't even like to talk about feet let alone look at them. Before we got engaged I confessed to her about it. She said that it made all the sense in the world because I was always tickling her feet. She said she didn't particularly like it but she noticed a big difference in me after I attacked her feet. Well we got married and I took my foot fetish all the way. She accepts my tickling, kissing, licking, and suckling. Because our sexl after it is great. I am in no way saying that it works for everyone, but it could of been a disaster if I didn't tell her. We started dating when we were 16 and we have been together for 26 years. The only thing I have done behind her back was tickle the foot of a female friend of hers or mine. I have some of those experiences posted in the true story thread. So compared to my friends and some family members ,who cheat on their spouses, I guess tickling the feet of other women isn't to bad.I am not trying to justify myself doing it, but if I see a pair of beautiful feet begging to be tickled I act on it. I love my wife and I am glad she knows of my FOOT/TICKLE FETISH. She accepts my foot fantasies and I accept her fantasies. Thanx, hope I was able to help.