well just told a girl i thought liked me i like to be tickled

[badreligion]

and she called me weird and said it was weird


so it raises the question....why

why do people find this weird

 

[Tickleslave07]

Hi,
To answer your question its like this We as Ticklefiles get it and understand.
While those who see it as weird just don't understand its alluring attraction that we plainly see all the time.
Hope that made sense without
being to confussing for you.
TickleSlave07

 

[SlaverTickler]

Hi,
To answer your question its like this We as Ticklefiles get it and understand.
While those who see it as weird just don't understand its alluring attraction that we plainly see all the time.
Hope that made sense without
being to confussing for you.
TickleSlave07

I would like to state for the record that I have never nor will ever refer to myself as a ticklephile or ticklefile. I hate that term it sounds like something you might call a sicko like Mr. Jackson. Anyway you shouldn't tell a chick unless it's someone you are deeply involved with. I hope things work out for you.

 

[punker]

and she called me weird and said it was weird


so it raises the question....why

why do people find this weird

they arent punk rock enough

 

[Senbab]

they arent punk rock enough

Oi Oi Oi!!

 

[chicago]

How exactly did you tell her that you were into tickling?

And SlaverTickler, I disagree, you should probably tell a girl up front you are into tickling. That way you can get it out earlier and find out if they'll be into it or not, instead of investing all kinds of time into a relationship only to find out later you won't be happy.

 

[Tick L]

I don't think you should come right out and say it as soon as you meet them, but if it starts getting seriously than maybe you should let them know. You have to be careful how you say it, if you have the right wording you can make it sound like it's not a big deal, but if you don't you can make it sound quite weird to other people, so I think it's all in the way you say it really.

 

[daddy]

How exactly did you tell her that you were into tickling?

And SlaverTickler, I disagree, you should probably tell a girl up front you are into tickling. That way you can get it out earlier and find out if they'll be into it or not, instead of investing all kinds of time into a relationship only to find out later you won't be happy.

Exactly!

peace out,
daddy

 

[vegasfootboy]

all in how you say it.

i have had some very good reactions from most women that i tell about my love of tickling. Actually, i think it has alot to do with how you express it. If you act like it is a huge secret and express it in that way, most people will look at you and scratch thier head, with an expression of disbelief. Now if you say it with pride and confidence, and without hesitation, maybe even with a smile on your face as you tell them, the reaction will be way more positive i promise you.

 

[jaba]

wear that "title" as a badge of "honor"......

and she called me weird and said it was weird

ladies call me weird all the time......especially the ones I tickle....


would you prefer to be called....."normal"?.....

 

[Headsnap]

and she called me weird and said it was weird


so it raises the question....why

why do people find this weird

Some people find ticklephilia weird because some people are closed minded. They call you weird because they are not nice. It's a fact of life that neither you nor anyone else is ever really going to be able to change, and unfortunately sometimes having a fetish will make people not like you. It doesn't feel particularly nice, but it is what it is. You'll get over it eventually.

Here is a cookie. Perhaps it will help.

 

[sabaki]

You'll get over it eventually. Here is a cookie. Perhaps it will help.

Being rejected for being yourself hurts. You could maybe try to be a little more sensitive.

 

[PainTrain]

and she called me weird and said it was weird


so it raises the question....why

why do people find this weird

Explain it to her the best you can, and if she still lacks the mental capacity to understand such a thing, then stay away from her. She isn't worth the effort.

 

[aun_existe_amor]

Other people like things that we think is weird. I know I'm weird for the things I like but I like doing those things so I won't stop. I'm lucky enough to have found someone who also likes the same weird things.

I don't think you should tell people as soon as you meet them but I do think you should tell them if it starts to get serious. I once went on a first date with someone I didn't know very well. All he talked about the whole time was tickling his ex. I thought he was weird and never saw him again. I didn't think he was weird because he was into tickling. I thought he was weird because he never shut up about tickling and I was just too embarrassed to say that I liked it too. If I had already got to know him and liked his personality it wouldn't have mattered so much what he was into. Even if I wasn't into the same things I could have maybe compromised if I liked him enough.

Most people know just from posts and PMs here that even girls into tickling get scared off by the same questions about feet and where they are most ticklish. Just think how that is in person if it's like that on the internet. I won't answer any feet or tickling questions unless I've chatted with the person about more everyday stuff first. The people who I regularly chat with here know almost everything about my "tickle stuff".

Just take things slowly. Remember that if you like the girl and she likes you too a compromise is better than nothing. Don't rush her into anything. The more intimate you become the more you will like each other and the more you will trust each other. Trust is very important in what we do. Trust is even more important when you're with someone who is not into tickling. Some people will never be able to compromise in things like this. That's just life. Move on and find someone who will but don't take it out on the girl who won't, maybe she's into something that you're not. Good luck 🙂

 

[Deleted member 2452]

the big thing i noticed

is in your title, you thought she liked you. it turns out you were mistaken.
if she truely did like you she wouldn't have said that.
chalk it up to experience, and continue your quest for a cool girl friend. no biggie, really.
but i agree with a couple others here, always tell a prospective date you are into tickling! i always did, and never had the girl cancle the date, or anything negitive.
good luck.

 

[badreligion]

i didnt tell her its a fetish or anything like that

but we were talking about when i was down in florida and i got a massage and i told her i couldnt stop laughing through the entire thing

and she said i dont like to be tickled

and i bassically said i like to be tickled its fun

and she said "well your a weirdo" and it wasnt a playful kind of insult

idk im just gonna move on , if she is gonna judge me over something so superfical then forget her

 

[aun_existe_amor]

I don't know how old she is but she sounds very young and immature.

 

[jaba]

Other people like things that we think is weird. I know I'm weird for the things I like but I like doing those things so I won't stop. I'm lucky enough to have found someone who also likes the same weird things.

you weirdo! ...... 😛

 

[badreligion]

well it may come as a shock but she is 21

but like i said if thats her attidude fine , if she doenst agree with it fine but she didnt have to be rude about it so im movin on

 

[chicago]

Are you sure she wasn't joking?

I call people "weirdo" a lot, and it's a kind of term of endearment sometimes. I rarely ever mean it when I call someone a weirdo.

And from the looks of the conversation, it sounds like she didn't take what you said so seriously.

Have you spoken to her since you told her that?

 

[aun_existe_amor]

you weirdo! ...... 😛

Weirdo and proud of it 😀

 

[badreligion]

Are you sure she wasn't joking?

I call people "weirdo" a lot, and it's a kind of term of endearment sometimes. I rarely ever mean it when I call someone a weirdo.

And from the looks of the conversation, it sounds like she didn't take what you said so seriously.

Have you spoken to her since you told her that?

im sure she wasnt joking i could tell by the tone of her voice and the way she got real serious when i said it , she ment it

 

[chicago]

im sure she wasnt joking i could tell by the tone of her voice and the way she got real serious when i said it , she ment it

Oh, my bad. I assumed you were talking online about it.


Well, even if she did call you a weirdo, you guys might still be able to be friends. It's a minor thing if you can get past it.

At any rate, hope things work out.

 

[slap'n'ticklee]

im sure she wasnt joking i could tell by the tone of her voice and the way she got real serious when i said it , she ment it

Thats a real real shame, I'm sorry you had to find out like this after you were being playful and honest with her.

Some people think anything is weird if its outside their knowledge or comfort zone, I love rock and heavy music and some people think I'm weird because of that lol.

I didn't even know this 'fetish' even existed until I was informed about it, and I didn't laugh or turn my back on this person. I actually embraced it and wanted to know more about it, like what tools/gadgets were involved etc.

I think if she is a true friend or maybe gf and she acts this way over tickling being mentioned, then to me she has a bit of growing up to do.

I have no problem with telling people about tickling or my love of getting tickled, because I personally think there is absolutely nothing seedy or weird about it.

Good luck to you though, I hope you can keep this friendship going.

 

[Redmage]

Well, for the record you ARE weird. We all are, in the sense that we like things that that are well outside the range of what most people like. As for why some people think this particular sort of weirdness is bad, as opposed to just unusual, it's mostly because our weirdness has to do with sex.

People will look at someone with unusual tastes in clothes, food, or movies, and just say "well, it takes all kinds." But unusual sexual interests make people uncomfortable. They get this reaction on a deep level, below the ability of most people to analyze, so they don't even really know why it freaks them out. It's just "weird."

My own theory is that it's because sex is very personal, and necessarily interactive. You can think of someone wearing loud clothes, or listening to music you don't like, and you don't necessarily think of them doing that WITH anyone. In particular, you don't think of them doing that with you. But if you run across someone whose sexuality seems strange then you do sort of have to think of them doing it with someone else, and that someone could be you or someone you care about. That makes their "weirdness" more personal, and harder to shrug off.

Also because sex is so deeply personal, it seems to speak to some sense of what kind of person you are. It's a more intimate and evocative part of you. If you liked peanut butter and dill pickle sandwiches then most people would pass that off as a sort of "surface weirdness." It's a strange habit, like collecting doorknobs. But it doesn't label you - it doesn't say anything deep about the sort of person you are. People are inclined to think that any otherwise ordinary person might possibly like pickles with their peanut butter.

Sex isn't like that. Sex is part of your core. If you're "weird" sexually then you're alien. You might be weird in all sorts of other ways. It makes it hard for some people to trust you, because they just can't understand how your mind works.

I think this is why unusual sexual interests of all kinds tend to be received poorly by people who can't separate out what they like to do from what other people like to do.