What am I going to do?

[Krokus]

I got some news tonight that has shattered my world. Something happened tonight that I can't explain. Something happened tonight that I can't describe. Something happened tonight that I can't, I can't even think of what to say, so I'll just say it.


My best friend of 12 years was killed in a car accident.

I don't know what to do, I feel numb. Reality is starting to sink in.

 

[Timewarp]

dude.....what's there to say? All I can say is that I am sorry for you.
I can guarentee no one here can say they know how you feel, (in general). You need to talk with those close to you, get your sorrow out of you and grieve. It hurts at first but you need to get everything out. Only then can you cope and eventaully put your pain to rest. I pray that your friend is now at peace.

 

[Newcastle Uni]

I got some news tonight that has shattered my world. Something happened tonight that I can't explain. Something happened tonight that I can't describe. Something happened tonight that I can't, I can't even think of what to say, so I'll just say it.


My best friend of 12 years was killed in a car accident.

I don't know what to do, I feel numb. Reality is starting to sink in.

Whoa man. What can I say. Thats terrible. I'm thinking of you and I'm here if you need me.

 

[nosforatiop]

I'm sorry to hear that bro, I hope for the best for you and yours. God speed and best of luck to you.

 

[ticklkitten]

check your pm's babe... I"ll be sending you one. I've totally been through this.

 

[daddy]

Man, I am so sorry dude...my thoughts are with you. Remember your friend for all the good times and carry on life with his spirit held tight.

peace out,
daddy

 

[Mitchell]

Krokus, Iam so very sorry to hear about your best friend, my friend. My thoughts and prayers are with you, your best friend, and his family. If you ever need a sounding board to just vent your thoughts, please feel free to contact me anytime. Your friends at the TMF are here for you, and I know everyone here will do their best to support you in getting through this. You also need people to lean on in R/L, be it family, other friends, church, etc. Often surrounding oneself with loved ones can aid in helping to get through a tradegy.
No words that anyone could write on this board can really "help" what you're feeling and going through, but hopefully, having others to lean on, can help you cope. That's really about all I can say. All my heartfelt sympathies are with you.


Mitch

 

[Dr. Bill Kobb]

That is terrible.

My sincere condolences for your loss.

 

[sadira]

My sincere condolences to you and your friend's family. The circle of family sounds small. Just as each of us, here, reach out, we extend our "circle". I'm sure your friend's life and influence goes well beyond just that of just family. Yes, the pain is great. It feels like it'll never end. And, everyone in that "circle of influence" feels it. You can take a little solace and comfort from that....that you are not alone.

It was just 6 months ago that Ticklingfeet4fun lost a dear friend to a drunken driver. And, we've all lost people in our lives. But, I'm glad for the folks here who were there for him and that will be here for you, too, Krokus.

All that to say that our thoughts and prayers are with you and if you need to talk you can PM myself or Tf4f.
Sadira

 

[Knox The Hatter]

I've been here, too, Krokie.
I lost one of my very best friends in a car accident, down in New Orleans, of all places, back in 1982, when he was only 18. It's been 23 years, and I still think of him often. I visit him, I think I'm the only one who does.

You know I'm here, and my box has always been open for you, and it shall remain.

 

[TKpervert]

Condolences, Krokus. That's a hard knock, hope you're handling it ok.

 

[tkrexx]

Condolences, Krokus. Nothing I can say will ease your pain and loss, but understand you WILL find a way to live with this. Won't be easy, not by any stretch, nor will it be quick. We never cherish those we love enough while they're here, we prove it to ourselves time and time again. You will find your world again, pal. Take all the time you need. We all heal at different paces.

God Speed.

Rxx

 

[tickledorange]

It sucks when people die suddenly that you care about. It is even worse when you know there is nothing you could have done to prevent it.

I lost a friend a few years ago to cancer, and I still get teary-eyed when I see his mom or his brother.

Eventually, it does get better and you learn to live with it, but you know that it will never be the same without them.

 

[RobAce]

Hey krokus this is robace's wife where as my husband has never had to deal with loss of a great and true friend i have. 11 years ago my best friend of 13 years killed herself while she was on the phone with me and then i was the one who found her body. I know how the numbness feels i know how harsh reality is when it sets in my heart goes out to you. You are in my thoughts. 11 years is a long time my dear and i still miss her and it still hurts. but as time goes on the pain will dissapate I promise. always remember your friend always honor that memory ALWAYS love the time you had with this person dwell on the good forget the bad. Remember how they lived not how they left. I hope i have helped you some. I wish you all the best. You are in my heart.

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

I'm so sorry. Give a yell if you need to talk.

Ann

 

[unit5610]

My deepest sympathies...so hard when it happens this way and the person is no longer there just like that. I haven't gone through the loss of a close loved one yet but likely will soon with my mom terminally ill. Remember the good times and what you learned from your friend...I believe we learn a lot from every relationship of any kind we're involved in. My best to you.

 

[Krokus]

I'd like to thank everyone for the support. This is something I am going to have to face alone.

I keep telling myself that it isn't real, you know...like it just isn't happening, it can't happen.


All I need right now is my bed and my jack daniels.

I keep trying to think of what he would suggest I do now, I wish I could talk with him once more. He could always tell me exactly what I needed to hear...he was the only person on this earth who truly understood me, and accepted me completely...he was the first person I came out to, the only person who ever knew about my tickling fetish....he even took interest in that as well... Now I feel like I don't have anyone anymore, the one person in my life I could always confide in and take refuge with...is gone. My rock is gone. My security is gone. I just don't know if it's worth it now...all this bullshit in the world, society, and most of all, in people. I just don't know if I want to live in a world without him.

 

[TKpervert]

all this bullshit in the world, society, and most of all, in people. I just don't know if I want to live in a world without him.

Settle down there Krokus, you're your own person and you will get through this and thrive. It will take some time, work on it.

robace's wife, I cannot even imagine what it's like to endure something like what you described. Good to hear from you.

 

[isabeau]

krokus all the feelings you describe are normal. try to stay focused and remember all the great times you had together. and never ever do anything even remotely stupid such as taking your own life. let some time go by. i know this is a cliche but time is a great healer. cry, bang thiings around, hit the wall do whatever it takes to let your emotions out. dont hide them dont keep them welled inside of you. no one can explain why someone is here one day then gone tomorrow. its one of lifes weird events. but try to remember this, he would not want you ending your own life. live on for him. i know this is entirely different, but when my dad died eight years ago, i so wanted to join him. i missed him, and wanted to be with him again. but i never once thought about killing myself, i had mom still and my husband to live for. remember that yourself, you have others who need you. and we are here for you also krokus. feel free to pm me anytime you need a listening ear. i hope this helps somewhat and let me express my sympathies for your loss. of course its painful and even unbearable for now, but it will get easier with time, trust me on this. i have had to deal with many deaths over the last ten years i know .

isabeau

 

[GirlWhoLikes2Laugh]

Krokus I feel terrible for you and that's a shame. I don't know why you feel you have to go through this alone. What about your family and friends? Don't they also share the grief and pain you're going through? Just want you to know that you have my sympathy. Just know that your friend would probably want you to move on with life but still at the same time not forget and keep memories of him in your heart. Just try to go on with life as best you can.

 

[sole seeker]

Krokus,

I just wanted to add my voice to the others who expressed a wish to support you in this time of trouble. You are a treasured member of this community. We're all sorry for your loss and pain.

One thing, try to lay off the alcohol. It won't help much, and since it's a depressant it might make things worse.

Just remember you're not alone. The responses on this thread prove that.

 

[drew70]

Hey man, that sucks totally. I'm sorry to hear about it, and sorrier still you have to live with it. None of us know when our own time is, nor that of those closest to us. Sometimes the best way to deal with this kind of thing is to help his family and friends deal with it. No doubt easier said than done. Take care and draw strength from those around you, Krokus.

Drew

 

[isabeau]

Krokus hon, im sure you are being bombarded with pms, but if you get a chance, read mine. i've been thinking about you today while going about doing my chores. words are so hard in times like this, but the meaning behind the words are real and the emotions also. i know its hard but try to hang in there. and if you need an ear, pm me anytime.

isabeau

 

[Strelnikov]

I agree with soleseeker - go easy on the booze. It takes the edge off for a while, but you have to sober up eventually. One more thing - don't let well-meaning busybodies convince you to seek "closure". Closure is something you do on a house, not a person. Heal at your own pace, and take as long as you need.

Best of luck.

Strelnikov

 

[Mimi]

I am so sorry sweetie. I lost my best friend unexpectedly 7 years ago, and I know only too well that shock, numbness, and empty dread you're feeling right now. Nothing anyone can say will make it better. Only time and acceptance can heal these wounds.

One thing that did help me though, at least a little bit, was sitting down by myself and doing something I NEEDED to do to move on but was not given the chance to.....say goodbye. Even though I could not say it to his face, somehow writing it all down and putting into words all the things I wanted to say to him helped me, at the very minimum, quiet that need. I posted it a few days later on a webpage I made in tribute to him and his memory. You are welcome to read it if it helps:

http://www.angelfire.com/wi/Mimi73/jeff.html

I wish I could be there with you to give you a nice soft shoulder to cry on, and a long comforting hug. My PM box is always open to you if you want to just let some things out to someone.

Sending you lots of love, dear....