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What do you mean by love?

BlackFeather51

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It may be a dumb post but, what do you think that love is? How would you define it? Do you think it's a real feeling, or just an excuse that people use to satiate their sexual needs?
 
Shrek is love. Shrek is life. But also I believe love is a real thing. I don't believe in 'the one' though. I believe love comes in various levels and should be realized as such. First, there is familial love. That kind of love that you sometimes feel obligated to have. "Because they're family." Then there's the similar love for your more dear friends. Again. Not the kind of intimate love you're probably talking about, but it's still love. A kind of emotion that makes you care a lot more what happens or doesn't happen to those particular friends during the courses of their lives. Then, of course, there's intimate love with a partner. Again, I don't believe in 'the one'. I believe we are capable of falling in love with any number of people. Will we 'click' with our chosen partner(s)? Not necessarily guaranteed. But I still consider the love there, whether it lasts or not.
 
Someone who I think about all the time
Someone who I want to be with (not all the time, as people need space!)
Someone who I can connect with on an emotional level & sexual level.
Someone with empathy & understanding 🙂
 
That's a real toughie you brought there, pal xD For me it's a) the feeling of being completely compatible with someone to the point where they complete you, b) the desire to be with them above all others, c) the desire to make them happy. It's also a verb--it's something you show by doing things.

I'm sure I'm missing elements, because love is different for all and it's such a variable, nebulous concept that it's impossible for one person to define all on their own, I think. I think Jibster's got it right too, the different levels of love.

Also, thank you Jibbles, for going the Shrek route, because it saved me the trouble :lol

~K
 
I have Autistic Spectrum Disorder Level 1, and so I've encountered this problem as something of a "test" to highlight my perceptive differences (although I don't feel like mine are, in this case, any kind of unusual).

As for what I do think of love, I don't know - I don't think it's something you can solidly define, because I think it's an emotion and it differs from person to person. I think that's why people have difficulty defining it - because they want a definition that applies to everyone, and that isn't possible with emotions. For example, to me, anger might be not smiling and refusing to talk to someone - but to somebody else, anger might be shouting, and they might not smile or talk to people ANYway, whether they're angry or not.

From my perception, I don't know, really. I'm thinking about people I love and thinking of things I feel about them that I don't feel with others, but I'm not getting much solid. I trust them by telling them things - even sensitive things I wouldn't want other people to know - without worrying they'll tell someone else.

I think love is perhaps the ability to remain fond of someone and want to be around them, even if they didn't actually do anything for you. If someone didn't make your life any easier, or even made it more difficult, and perhaps not even return your affection, but you still wanted to be around them, that could be called love, because it sure doesn't follow any other reasonable emotion I can think of. 😛

Maybe this is a trickier question than I thought.
 
Shrek is love. Shrek is life. But also I believe love is a real thing. I don't believe in 'the one' though. I believe love comes in various levels and should be realized as such. First, there is familial love. That kind of love that you sometimes feel obligated to have. "Because they're family." Then there's the similar love for your more dear friends. Again. Not the kind of intimate love you're probably talking about, but it's still love. A kind of emotion that makes you care a lot more what happens or doesn't happen to those particular friends during the courses of their lives. Then, of course, there's intimate love with a partner. Again, I don't believe in 'the one'. I believe we are capable of falling in love with any number of people. Will we 'click' with our chosen partner(s)? Not necessarily guaranteed. But I still consider the love there, whether it lasts or not.

^this. Though, I do believe in 'the one', I had to quote PsychoJibster because he pretty much said everything else that I would have.

Love is definitely a journey, though. I went through, what I would consider, a life-long relationship that ended. I though she was 'the one' for me, but it turned out she wasn't. But that relationship wasn't for naught, because it gave me everything I needed to prepare me for my current relationship. I pray this one lasts. But nothing in this life is guaranteed, so... Here's to working, striving and hoping!
 
It was either shrek is love, shrek is life, or baby don't hurt me. I'm content with my choice~ And I'm certain plenty of people believe in 'the one'. I just feel that is rather depressing. A world full of billions of people across the globe, and there's only one individual right for me? That sounds like horrible odds not in my favor.
 
It was either shrek is love, shrek is life, or baby don't hurt me. I'm content with my choice~ And I'm certain plenty of people believe in 'the one'. I just feel that is rather depressing. A world full of billions of people across the globe, and there's only one individual right for me? That sounds like horrible odds not in my favor.

LOL I was bracing myself for a "baby don't hurt me" reply xD

Context: I'm very spiritual, and also a man of science (and engineering, which is my major in college). I am also a monogamist, so my views also come from this particular perspective.

Anyway, to elaborate:

I view fate as web of every single possibility. While I believe there is only a single "the one" (my monogamist pov), there exists an infinite number of opportunities to meet this single soulmate. Depending on the choices you make, this soulmate could end up being completely different people.

I believe fate is set in stone, if you consider fate in terms of the finite lifetime you have (in this plane of existence anyway). However, I believe that fate is always in flux until you make your choices. Consequentially, you might meet several people, at various stages of your life, who were your soulmates: You connect with them on a deep level, and you make sincere plans to be together forever, but then it doesn't work out. They were your soulmates up until the point where you lost that connection; either you both grew apart, had a falling out, or whatever.

So, I think finding that single soulmate has less to do with odds, and more with choices. I don't believe forever (in a relationship) is guaranteed. However, I do believe that what you do with the time you have (with your soulmate) can make it just as meaningful.

Kinda sounds contradictory. However, the motivation to be with a single person, forever, is where I see there being only a single soulmate. That doesn't mean you won't meet many soulmates along the way, though.
 
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Tangential comment: My gf calls me her "solemate", as a loving nod to my foot-fetish. I think that's a sign xD We'll see, though. After my first break up, I am very aware of how relationships can just end, despite both parties doing everything "right". Here's to hoping!
 
It's a real feeling, based in biology I would imagine. When you care about someone's happiness as much as or more than your own. If you feel your life would not be as pleasant without that person, etc.

Soul mate idea seems pretty ridiculous considering the mathematical chances of one single person meeting that other single person out of 7 billion people and millions of miles. I don't think reality is that limiting. Evolutionary wise, that's a shitty setup for procreation. It's probably more so an aligning of beliefs and values as well as compatibility in terms of likes, dislikes, working together, and biological chemistry and attraction that has the chance of occurring with multiple people over the course of a lifetime.
 
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What is love eh? Hmmm...I'd have to say a mix of sexual desire, compassion, and empathy. I agree with chicag0 that the concept of a "soul mate" is kinda ridiculous (statistically speaking of course). Instead of "soul mates" I believe there are quite a few number of people on our little blue, green, and brown planet who just "get you" to the point that you can get along quite well. Factors for finding a person like that probably include beliefs, territory, income, living conditions, appearances, likes, pet peeves, etc etc. Also, there's the point of people "growing to like other people" as not every friend or companion starts out liking each other.
 
What's love...got to do...got to do with it?

What's love...but a second hand emooootion.

😉 😀
 
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