What happend last night on MSN

[Butterfly wings]

I was talking to Jennifer last night on MSN like we always do (unless otherwise) since she finally got her laptop working again last weekend because a tech-guy repaired it for her. Which i was happy about.

Well anyways through the time we we're chating i asked her a question (dealing with a sexual question about her friends in real life since she say's that there pretty much all sexual her friends are in some way or form) and as she answered it for me. I then begin to tell her while in High School that me and my friend from high school (well ex-friend now i believe since i never hear anything from him 🙁 ) How he and me ''ALMOST'' got some jail time for sexual comments that we made behind a few teachers backs that we had in high school when we we're both in school in 11th grade. But the only reason we didn't is because we we're basically good kids through out so our principal only gave us a stern warning from there on out. And so as i opened up to her about this and shared this with her she was very shocked. I could tell.

She even went as far as to say that she felt betrayed by me in a way that i didn't tell her that sooner and that she a little bit way saw me in a different way now.

And once she said that i just started shaking and it really hurt me. But we talked it out and i told her AFTER that moment in high school i have really shaped up and turned my life in a complete full circle around with friends that i used to hang out with and with God ingeneral and just everything. I'm not the same person i was in the past when that sexual charge and jail time thing ALMOST happend between me and my ex-friend now.

So need to say she forgave me and she knew that it was all in the past and had forgiven me and told me that everything was going to be alright.

But in a small way it still hurts me to her say that about me that she for a brief second thier saw me in a different way. 🙁


I thought two loving people are supposed to be as honest and open which each other?


No matter if it's good or bad.

 

[naveltkltr1350]

Dude, you gotta watch those Online relationships, especially really long distance, cause they very rarely work out. Trust me. I wish you two the best of luck, she looks beautiful Dave, but dont let online relationships hurt ya. Only let them make you happy. haha Later brah!

 

[Butterfly wings]

Dude, you gotta watch those Online relationships, especially really long distance, cause they very rarely work out. Trust me. I wish you two the best of luck, she looks beautiful Dave, but dont let online relationships hurt ya. Only let them make you happy. haha Later brah!

I know Jeff. I'm just taking it one day at a time with things. Thanks for the advice and support man. PM me we need to catch up on things.

 

[dskodj]

Dont know ya Butterfly but I wanna thorw my 2 cents in here. I did the internet thing one time and it was a holly disaster when we were in person face to face! I will def say its something i'll never ever do again. My story is kinda long but to make it short and to the point, she was not at all the person I thought she was online and basicly if had opened my eyes sooner I woulda seen this clear as day before even gettin face to face. This shit can suck ya in and make ya blind. It hurt me for quite sometime and had alot of emotional issues to deal with over it, but I did and im wellllllllllllllllll over her now thank god 🙂

My advise is to just look at every aspect of shit and try not to put too much of your hopes, dreams and heart into it till you meet face to face...no matter how honest, sincere, loving or understanding the person on the other end presents themselves.

But on a positive note of the internet thing, I did have a good friend where I used to live who actually succeded in doin the net thing, and it was actualy done countries apart! The last I heard he had ended up moving over there and things were totaly awsome (yes had to use the classic 80s catch phrase lol). So who knows? This may be your destiny, but all im sayin is have some kinda guard up till yous meet. I do wish you the best of luck with this and that you can be another success story out there 🙂

 

[Butterfly wings]

Dont know ya Butterfly but I wanna thorw my 2 cents in here. I did the internet thing one time and it was a holly disaster when we were in person face to face! I will def say its something i'll never ever do again. My story is kinda long but to make it short and to the point, she was not at all the person I thought she was online and basicly if had opened my eyes sooner I woulda seen this clear as day before even gettin face to face. This shit can suck ya in and make ya blind. It hurt me for quite sometime and had alot of emotional issues to deal with over it, but I did and im wellllllllllllllllll over her now thank god 🙂

My advise is to just look at every aspect of shit and try not to put too much of your hopes, dreams and heart into it till you meet face to face...no matter how honest, sincere, loving or understanding the person on the other end presents themselves.

But on a positive note of the internet thing, I did have a good friend where I used to live who actually succeded in doin the net thing, and it was actualy done countries apart! The last I heard he had ended up moving over there and things were totaly awsome (yes had to use the classic 80s catch phrase lol). So who knows? This may be your destiny, but all im sayin is have some kinda guard up till yous meet. I do wish you the best of luck with this and that you can be another success story out there 🙂

Thank you dskodj. And believe me i am fully aware of what can happen with the internet. So my ears and eyes are on guard everyday one day at a time.

We plan on meeting this summer infact if everything still works out on both ends. So we have both decide to still remain best friends if nothing works out between us after we meet face to face. Me and her have discussed and talked about so many things over and over again. Both the pros and the cons.

So we're both taking a risk in a way.

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

First off.... Internet relationships CAN work. Drew and I are among the many couples here who met online. And we're very happy. But, the cautions are wise and necessary.

As to the issue of last night... You said that you wanted to be honest with one another. She was honest about her gut reaction. You talked it out. Things are hopefully settled with that issue. Relationships aren't all roses. There are thorns in there. It's best to find them at the beginning and come to accept them.

None of us is perfect. So, no relationship can be perfect. But, if you find the right person, you learn that perfection is largely overrated and that half of the most important growing times in your relationship come from those little (or big) imperfections. If given the chance, she'll likely learn to appreciate you more because of the incident and the change that's occured in you since. And, you will likely appreciate her more for being honest about her initial reaction and being willing to talk things through.

Just my two cents...
Ann

 

[Butterfly wings]

First off.... Internet relationships CAN work. Drew and I are among the many couples here who met online. And we're very happy. But, the cautions are wise and necessary.

As to the issue of last night... You said that you wanted to be honest with one another. She was honest about her gut reaction. You talked it out. Things are hopefully settled with that issue. Relationships aren't all roses. There are thorns in there. It's best to find them at the beginning and come to accept them.

None of us is perfect. So, no relationship can be perfect. But, if you find the right person, you learn that perfection is largely overrated and that half of the most important growing times in your relationship come from those little (or big) imperfections. If given the chance, she'll likely learn to appreciate you more because of the incident and the change that's occured in you since. And, you will likely appreciate her more for being honest about her initial reaction and being willing to talk things through.

Just my two cents...
Ann

Thank you for adding in your good two cents worth Ann.

I just hope that from what happend on MSN last night (or well wed night rather) that she really was truthful in forgiving me like she said and is able to look past it and move on. And that we're both able to grow from this (both mentally and physically and emotionally) and still love each other even more through our imperfections in life.

 

[isabeau]

to answer your one question, yes you both need to be honest and open about everything. that works best. keeping secrets, if found out, can only hurt.

isabeau