What has stopped you?

[Journia]

I am Chivalrous. There is no question about that. However, I will say that I take the chances when they come. Whether they are on a bus and a cute woman is beside me and I'm talking with her, and I think..."Oh I want to tickle her," I guage the moment and just do it. There isn't much to it, and since I'm young, I'm going to do everything I want to do.

It's not about chivalry, its about knowing the difference between what is right, wrong, and a complete waste of your time. And usually, we wate our time thinking about the consequences. I know I always did. And now, I don't. And I actually feel a whole lot better.

As Joseph Campbell said, "Live your bliss."

 

[Batman]

What has stopped me? Well, most of the time recognizing when tickling a friend can cross the line that separates being playfull of being just goddamn annoying and invasive. I guess you can count that as a form of chivalry.
That being said, I only tickle close friends that won't get pissed off if I do, random pokes don't count.

 

[kopfhorer1]

It's not about chivalry, its about knowing the difference between what is right, wrong, and a complete waste of your time. And usually, we wate our time thinking about the consequences. I know I always did. And now, I don't. And I actually feel a whole lot better.

As Joseph Campbell said, "Live your bliss."

Truer words were never spoken. I've spent far too much time with my brain in near-meltdown state worrying about "what if"? Why are so many of us raised to think (if that's the right word) this way?

As long as one respects the rights of others (and as long as the possibility of legal action is remote), going for it might be the way to go! (What was that movie about the guy who said "yes" to everything as a personal-growth exercise?)

Don't dream it. Be it! - Dr. Frank N. Furter, Rocky Horror Picture Show.

Oh yes, tickling. I have a female friend with long nails who gives a decent back-tickle!

 

[juggernaut]

Restraining order.

 

[Slaver123]

My fantasies? Well, I was hoping through forums like this to find a small community of "regulars"- it'd be great to be able to call up agreeable buddies (M or F) from a list and set up a "date" to tickle or be tickled... it'd be an awesome escape from the "outside world" and all its mindless dreariness. I hoped to find that here....

 

[Cbarton]

With a totally non-TK wife, I've learned to live them out via my writing and such. Besides, after 21+ years of being wonderfully married to MDJ, I've no real regrets about it.

Anyway, the emphasis is that they are all fantasies anyway. How many of our fantasies could be realistically, actually done? My guess is not as many as we would like. The other drawback I've learned is that imagining doing something is one thing, actually doing it is another. My fear is that the reality would be a let down from the 'theater of the mind' I've had going all these 30+ years.

 

[Journia]

Truer words were never spoken. I've spent far too much time with my brain in near-meltdown state worrying about "what if"? Why are so many of us raised to think (if that's the right word) this way?

As long as one respects the rights of others (and as long as the possibility of legal action is remote), going for it might be the way to go! (What was that movie about the guy who said "yes" to everything as a personal-growth exercise?)

Don't dream it. Be it! - Dr. Frank N. Furter, Rocky Horror Picture Show.

Oh yes, tickling. I have a female friend with long nails who gives a decent back-tickle!

And that's the fuck how you realize it man! Go where you want, do what you feel! The only thing that is beyond your reach is what is beyond your imagination!

 

[Slaver123]

Anyway, the emphasis is that they are all fantasies anyway. How many of our fantasies could be realistically, actually done? My guess is not as many as we would like. The other drawback I've learned is that imagining doing something is one thing, actually doing it is another. My fear is that the reality would be a let down from the 'theater of the mind' I've had going all these 30+ years.

My "fantasy" is pretty down-to-earth; a loving "soulmate" who shares the fetish and wants to explore. Nothing could be more awesome than that.

Don't need anything fancy- just being tied up on the bed and tickled till I'm desparate has always been enough for me. Then worship her afterwards...

Or vice-versa cause I'm a switch...

You know, I've NEVER tickled a woman who was truly into it???

 

[DarkPoet]

I've actually been very lucky when it comes to living out my tickling fantasies. Mainly because I'm open about it and I don't let tickling dominate me. Who I am shines far brighter than how much liking tickling could shade me. So when I'm open about my tickling (generally when I'm asked), I get honest responses. Most of them have so far been positive.

 

[simplegoat]

Total lack of any kind of partner.

 

[Dave2112]

I've either been really lucky, or really open and confident in my pursuit of my lifestyle. I can honestly count the women/girls I haven't gotten into some form of bondage and tickling on one hand.

I honestly believe most people are open to at least trying things if you have a good line of communication going. People would be surprised how open to interesting, new kinds of sexual or play expression most women really are.

I think back to a time when I was 16. The girlfriend and I were fooling around in the dark in my room and I just said to myself "screw it, I'm going for it." I had my girl sit up, kissed her neck a little and told her to put her hands behind her back. She did, and I tied her wrists together with a bandana I had. She says "Are you tying me up?!?" I just go "Mm-hmm" and she's fine with it. It was fun.

Laid her back, kissed her some more, started playing a little and then started tickling her lightly along her side. Rather than freaking out, she just starts giggling and jokingly saying things like "Oh, you're cruel!" Over time, we expanded our play by just doing it. Next time we were together I had her tied to the posts of the bed.

Point is, I think a lot of people are kept from exploring their fantasies out of nothing more than fear of what someone might think. I've always suggested to people to just be honest. If you have a relationship going with someone, the worst that's usually going to happen is that person's gonna say they're not ino it.

Just don't make a big deal out of it. Tip: Go for the bondage first. Most people are more familiar with and willing to try some form of bondage with a lover or partner. Rather than sitting down and going into the whole spiel..."Ok, I...ummm...have this thing...I like to...ummm....tie girls up and...uhh...well, I liketoticklethemifyou'dliketotrybutifnotit'sok"...just wait for things to get a little hot and say something like "Wanna try being tied up?". If she's good with that, just slip the tickling in once things are set and gauge the reaction then. If she freaks and is obviously NOT going to be into it, it's easy to just say "Oops, sorry, didn't know you were that ticklish". If she laughs a bit and you're on the fence...just kinda hold her gaze like a challenge or something, make a "moment" out of it. Like "Oh, we've discovered something, have we?" See where it goes from there.

Been working for me for 26 years. 🙂

 

[GroovyBaby]

I've either been really lucky, or really open and confident in my pursuit of my lifestyle. I can honestly count the women/girls I haven't gotten into some form of bondage and tickling on one hand.

I honestly believe most people are open to at least trying things if you have a good line of communication going. People would be surprised how open to interesting, new kinds of sexual or play expression most women really are.

I think back to a time when I was 16. The girlfriend and I were fooling around in the dark in my room and I just said to myself "screw it, I'm going for it." I had my girl sit up, kissed her neck a little and told her to put her hands behind her back. She did, and I tied her wrists together with a bandana I had. She says "Are you tying me up?!?" I just go "Mm-hmm" and she's fine with it. It was fun.

Laid her back, kissed her some more, started playing a little and then started tickling her lightly along her side. Rather than freaking out, she just starts giggling and jokingly saying things like "Oh, you're cruel!" Over time, we expanded our play by just doing it. Next time we were together I had her tied to the posts of the bed.

Point is, I think a lot of people are kept from exploring their fantasies out of nothing more than fear of what someone might think. I've always suggested to people to just be honest. If you have a relationship going with someone, the worst that's usually going to happen is that person's gonna say they're not ino it.

Just don't make a big deal out of it. Tip: Go for the bondage first. Most people are more familiar with and willing to try some form of bondage with a lover or partner. Rather than sitting down and going into the whole spiel..."Ok, I...ummm...have this thing...I like to...ummm....tie girls up and...uhh...well, I liketoticklethemifyou'dliketotrybutifnotit'sok"...just wait for things to get a little hot and say something like "Wanna try being tied up?". If she's good with that, just slip the tickling in once things are set and gauge the reaction then. If she freaks and is obviously NOT going to be into it, it's easy to just say "Oops, sorry, didn't know you were that ticklish". If she laughs a bit and you're on the fence...just kinda hold her gaze like a challenge or something, make a "moment" out of it. Like "Oh, we've discovered something, have we?" See where it goes from there.

Been working for me for 26 years. 🙂

Good stuff dave

 

[reg143]

trust mostly

 

[Vyse]

as some have already said, its a simple case of not meeting that special someone yet to engage in such activities. If my interests were simple to tickle someone with fingers or to be tickled perhaps, then i may have just gone out and done it with female friends since people in general do that sorta thing for a laugh and a joke, but since my tickle preference is quite specific and rare and not something you can just jump into, it would have to be with someone i was seeing so i could explain it to her.

 

[elphie1]

Distance. Im a cyber ler and most of my lees are in America 🙁

 

[Quill]

Well for many years it was shyness... I was one of those people who could never even approach women normally, let alone about my fetish. Luckily, a spell at uni and a general period of maturing saw me overcome my shyness. Now I've had a number of play sessions with a fellow fetishist and I'm much more comfortable around woman in general. 🙂

As for what would stop me living out my fantasy now... well I'll indulge in a certain level of tickling with my female friends. The playful, non-sexual type. What would stop me going further with it would be if I didn't really find them attractive in 'that' way. Beyond a certain point, there has to be that chemistry otherwise I just won't pursue it beyond the playful.