What triggers your safeword?

[tklcouple]

Many ticklees (I dare say most) have a safeword when being tickled. My question for the ticklees in the community is: Is there a discrete point during a tickling at which you use your safeword. That is, do you shout out your safeword when you: know you will still feel tickling fingers even when the tickler stops? When you are about to lose bladder control? When you think you are about to pass out? This question is apart from experiencing pain or coughing, etc. which are "unplanned" but rather what in the course of a "routine" tickling would trigger you to use your word (unless pain or coughing is the routine for you I suppose, although I hope not!)

I would be very interested in the responses you all have.

With thanks in advance for your response,

Professor Tkl​

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

Those who know me know that I have very rarely used a safeword...not that I don't have one, just not needed it. That is, until the last few months. For whatever reason, I'm very hyper and unable to tune it out like I used to be able to do. So, I've had to use it a couple of times. I love the feeling of being totally out of control and losing my mind. So, that doesn't get me to use it.

The only time I do is if I'm having trouble catching my breath, feel as if I'm about to pass out or if I can't hold it any longer and really have to go pee before I make a mess of things. In any of those cases, I'd probably just take a quick time out to tend to bodily needs and then continue. Passing out, I'd actually probably just let happen if it weren't for the fact that it would scare the shit out of people (Drew included).

I can still take a lot if it's paced so that I don't run into those issues, though. (I'd be really upset if I couldn't!)

 

[AffectionateDan]

Minor hijack...

For whatever reason, I'm very hyper and unable to tune it out like I used to be able to do. So, I've had to use it a couple of times. I love the feeling of being totally out of control and losing my mind. So, that doesn't get me to use it.

I can still take a lot if it's paced so that I don't run into those issues, though. (I'd be really upset if I couldn't!)

And may I just say, YAYYYYYYYYY!!!!! to all you girls who feel this way!

We now return you to your regularly scheduled thread, already in progress.

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

And may I just say, YAYYYYYYYYY!!!!! to all you girls who feel this way!

We now return you to your regularly scheduled thread, already in progress.

Down boy. Down! There's a good bear! Does that mean you want to test things out?

 

[kilitiinko1]

I have been fortunate enough to have had very skilled ticklers who were able to recognize when I was about to pass out from not being able to breathe,and thus gave me a moment to recover.I have yet to be taken to the edge of bladder release,but that is definitely a time I`ll use a safeword! It`s difficult enough to find a tickler,without making a huge mess and scaring her away! Unless,of course that is her objective from the start.I`d still be screaming my safeword,though!

 

[Mimi]

It's rare that I get to a point where I am having real difficultly breathing, but on the one or two occassions it has happened, I've used it. I've also used one a few times to use the bathroom or request a drink.

But more often than not the reason I use one is because I've simply been pushed to my limits of tolerance. I have a few select areas that when tickled the right way for any length of time, I totally lose my mind and begin to panic. I'm just simply too ticklish there and it's completely unbearable for me to take. That does not happen TOO often when playing with others at gatherings and such as they are not as familiar with my body or the techniques required to drive me down that path, but with Laz it happens several times during each of our serious sessions.

 

[bttf4444]

I guess I like relentless tickling. 🙂 In my stories, a safeword is never used.

 

[gabrielle]

I have never played with a safeword so far, but I don't think I would ever use it unless I really really have to go to the bathroom. I don't like the idea of a safeword - I wouldn't want to be able to stop my tickler from anything he is doing to me. 😉

 

[tickleshotel]

When the Tickler or lers are tickling all my worst most ticklish spots having no mercy adjusting pressure of tickles,experimenting with a few tickle tools exploiting each spot to increase the intensity to point I feel I am going to explode but at same time I want to hold on to the sensations flowing through every nerve . It is also sometimes the teasing of the ler verbally from first tickle as the ler sees my reactions and uses my reactions to make me laugh harder ,going from bottom of feet and whispering something in my ear,rasberries on my neck ,and finding one special tickle spot that I am not telling gets me everytime

 

[steph]

No safeword.
If you're hurting me, I'll scream "OUCH" and you probably won't see me again, unless I know it was an accident.
XOXO

 

[TklDuo-Ann]

I have a few select areas that when tickled the right way for any length of time, I totally lose my mind and begin to panic. I'm just simply too ticklish there and it's completely unbearable for me to take.

That's actually the part I like to be pushed to. But, it IS very tempting to use it then! Yikes! DId I really just admit to that?

 

[Eroticklee]

We don't use safewords. There have been a few times when Shadow took me past my "desperation" point as we like to call it. that will make me shake and cry. I also scream in panic once that light headedness of passing out starts to get closer. Then he stops. I don't know if that's good or bad.

 

[TickledToDeath]

Many ticklees (I dare say most) have a safeword when being tickled. My question for the ticklees in the community is: Is there a discrete point during a tickling at which you use your safeword. That is, do you shout out your safeword when you: know you will still feel tickling fingers even when the tickler stops? When you are about to lose bladder control? When you think you are about to pass out? This question is apart from experiencing pain or coughing, etc. which are "unplanned" but rather what in the course of a "routine" tickling would trigger you to use your word (unless pain or coughing is the routine for you I suppose, although I hope not!)

I would be very interested in the responses you all have.

With thanks in advance for your response,

Professor Tkl​

The LEE in me has never reached this point, nor has bladder control become a part since I have never been tickled to that point and as the lee would not use bladder control to stop the ler from tickling. It is totally up to the ler if she/they wish to tickle me to THAT point so I have yet to reach any point where I wished to use a given or ungiven safeword and other than some sort of "injury", I cannot see anything a "routine" tickling would cause me to use one.

 

[LindyHopper]

If I have to go to the bathroom, I'll just say, "I have to pee!" That, to me, is not the same as using a safeword. Neither is saying the equivalent of, "Ow, again goddammit! Get the hell away from me!" to someone who is digging in and hurting me.

I've even had a 'ler pull a bit of game on me during a session, where he teased me until I was desperate for an orgasm, then told me, "As soon as you say your safeword, I'll let you come." The game worked because the fact that I've never used a safeword is a point of pride with me, so he gave me a trigger that I was genuinely reluctant to use. I did crack (pretty quickly too ), but even afterwards, I insisted that that didn't "count," because all he really did was make me so horny that I absolutely couldn't stand it anymore. And he agreed that that wasn't the same as tickling me to my limit.

I don't know what would trigger my safeword. I've been tickled to the point where I've thought about it, but in every case, I've been able to conclude that I didn't "need" the tickling to stop. I am genuinely curious what it would take to get me there, and how it would feel. With a 'ler or 'lers that I trust, I imagine it would be an amazing experience.

 

[Avenger314]

I'm very ticklish, but not deathly ticklish.
I either got slightly less ticklish over the years, or better able to endure/enjoy it. So I haven't recently had a problem of being tickled 'too' much.

I'm mostly a ler--the thing that would most make me use my safeword is the knowledge that while tickling is happening, I'm not the one doing it and that I want my revenge before too much precious time slips away.

 

[tickles]

I like this question because it is intriguing for me to think about....I have never had to use a safeword....but I believe that is because I have never been tickled by real ler....or someone who was really into this.....I can imagine having to use one though.....I have one spot that is almost unbearable for me......and well I don't know how I would react if a real tickler should discover it....and tickle me ther when I was in a full blown tickle frenzy!.....In fact I hear about ticklees herenever having to use one...and being tickled for long periods of time...and well, I can't nreally imagine tthat I could last long......so either I'm extraorindarily sensitive.....or real lers know when to back off and can read lees well enough not to push too hard....

 

[amalelee4u]

safewords are for girls lol

i love the thought of being at the total mercy of the ler and letting them decide when they wanna stop thats fun part

 

[RChello]

what is this term "safeword" that everyone speaks of?

I'm not familiar with that term...🙂 Actually it's fun to have one before a serious tickling session,,,that way you can even have more to taunt about later when you've utterly driven bonkers a willing lee and made her say the safeword🙂

 

[TicklishLurker]

I've never used or even been given a safeword. Of course, I'm so dang loud I'm normally gagged so I can't use a safeword anyway.

Can't say there's ever been a time with tickling I felt the need to call a halt unless I have to use the bathroom. And I try to go before hand anyway so that won't come up.

 

[lk70]

If I have to go to the bathroom, I'll just say, "I have to pee!" That, to me, is not the same as using a safeword. Neither is saying the equivalent of, "Ow, again goddammit! Get the hell away from me!" to someone who is digging in and hurting me.

I've even had a 'ler pull a bit of game on me during a session, where he teased me until I was desperate for an orgasm, then told me, "As soon as you say your safeword, I'll let you come." The game worked because the fact that I've never used a safeword is a point of pride with me, so he gave me a trigger that I was genuinely reluctant to use. I did crack (pretty quickly too ), but even afterwards, I insisted that that didn't "count," because all he really did was make me so horny that I absolutely couldn't stand it anymore. And he agreed that that wasn't the same as tickling me to my limit.

DAMMIT LINDY! Almost word for word what I was gonna say. Would you QUIT IT?

 

[Mike3355]

usually when i'm driven to the point i can no longer breath...which is quite awhile, depending on the ler, and the amount of lers... if i do get so horny i actully come i don't make them stop, i'm actully more ticklish after words, and i love being driving to that point, now don't you all be takin notes on this one lol

 

[Tickleless]

Hello Professor Tlk,
I find that a safe word is useful. When I am the lee and being tickled for a long time, I tend to say no or stop as a normal reaction of being so ticklish. And my ler would stop of course. But being a ticklephile, I sometimes don't really want him to stop just yet. I may want my limits tested. So now we use a safe word that has nothing to do with tickling. This way I can be free with what I say while being tickled but my ler knows when I really want him to stop and give me a break. Thanks for asking the question!
Tickleless

 

[Red_Feather]

Well, I've not been tickled much... which means I've never said a safeword.

 

[LindyHopper]

DAMMIT LINDY! Almost word for word what I was gonna say. Would you QUIT IT?

As soon as you say your safeword, I'll quit it. 😉

Nah, I'm just kidding! I can't help it that I read minds. 😎

 

[drew70]

It's tough to define for me. At first, it was a matter of blurting the safeword when I couldn't take any more. After a few experiences I found I was able to keep taking more even after I felt I'd reached my limit.

I guess my answer would be when the tickling is so overwhelming that I reach a point of panicked desperation.