What would you like to improve about youself?

[giantfan121262]

I know generally most people are happy with themselves and regard themselves as good people but deep down there is something that you would like to work on to be the best that you can be. What would that be?

I can tell you that mine would be trying to find some happy medium in my personality. To elaborate, I consider myself to be a type B personality in certain situations and a type A+++++++++ in others. One of my goals is to find a middle ground where my A personality can be modified so my reaction could be more appropriate.

On a more obvious note, when I drop a few more pounds, I would like to give up smoking.

 

[Celtic_Emperor]

Patience. I used to have it, but days grow more and more difficult and sometimes I feel like my life is going nowhere. Theres this pressure to my life it seems, an expectation, even though no one inparticular expects anything from me but does wish me to succeed. I want to succeed, but waiting, and all that entails becomes more and more difficult sometimes with certain things. Overall I can't complain too much, since I have had plenty of time to think about it.

I also wish I was better at discerning my course of career options. I know what I'm good at, but I'm having a hard time focusing on what I really want from life, in regards to a career.

I'm a good artist, but I also think I'm a good actor. In reality, neither of these careers are stable. They pay good when you sell your art (something I don't want to do, since my art is special to me and I want to keep it) or get a lead role, but if that success is not consistant you'll most probably live from paycheck to paycheck, and thats not the way I want to live, especially if I want to have a family. Drawing anime for a company, whether its my own or someone else's or voice acting is not going to cut it, even though I'd be satisfied with that right now.

These two businesses fluctuate depending on what level you are at and what exactly you're doing.

Its actually ironic, since what I want is so simple in nature, but theres so much competition and the consistancy of the financial stability is not very reassuring. I know I might have to fail before I can succeed, but I'm afraid of having nothing in the end.

Finally, I tend to overevaluate things. Its not that I'm a "worry-wort" its just that I put far too much forethought into my future. One cannot plan or forsee everything, especially what they'll want then versus the present.

Jesus said something like "do not worry about tomorrow, today has enough problems of it's own."

While I understand and appriciate that, its not always that easy and he knows it. And while I know he did not mean that literally, as it would be irresponsible otherwise to not look at least into your immediate future, its still something to contend with.

I'm only 22 years old, I've got alot ahead of me, and I know things will work out as He intends, and I have that kind of faith, but then again its that patience thing, isn't it?

I know I'm not the only one, so I don't feel too bad about it. Just frustrated. But I assume everyone goes through this trial at some stage in their life. So I really ought not to fret.

 

[Fox2000]

If I could change anything, I'd try to make myself a bit more confident and outgoing (this is actually my first post after a long period of lurking 😱 ) I think it'd be fun sometimes to just go with my gut and see what happens, although I know introverts have their perks as well.

Honestly... I think our shortcomings are great because they allow us to learn something by challenging them and making attempts to change them. They help us to grow as individuals, you know? 😀

 

[Krokus]

hmm, I'd say my arrogance. I have alot of enemies because I tend to shut people out who aren't up to my standards, so I look like a guy who thinks he is better than everyone else. That isn't me though...I just wish I could stop coming off like that. Habits, Habits...tsk tsk

 

[Wicker Man]

Have more willpower. Im a confessed spendaholic who when has 20 bucks in his pockets has gotta buy something. 😀

 

[steph]

I have a really low tolerance for ignorance and stupidity. I'd work on being more patient with people.

XOXO

 

[USATKLR]

i definately agree with giant fan. We have kept in touch on a lot of things,and i am like him. I have cut down on my somoking, to eventually cut it out completely. And the losing weight, i have also been doing. I have lost a total of 25 lbs. (From 240 - 215 😱 ), and started working out more to build up the weight that i have lost into good muscle. Those are my main changes that i know wil help improve me a llittle better

 

[Majestic]

Majestic Improvements

I, like others on here, would like the willpower to give up smoking. I've done it before, with the aid of the patch, but found that I really enjoyed the act of smoking. Even though I noticed changes in my senses and energy level. I did feel good when I didnt smoke except for the nagging little cravings, but I had the energy to divert my attention to something else and work past it. I would also like to give up my weekend drinking for health reasons. Daddy is a musician and Im a music lover and we frequent night clubs on the weekends to listen to local bands. This has been my lifestyle since I turned 21 and could get into clubs to hear the live music I craved and it's hard to change that. Yes, I could go and not drink I suppose but I've always looked forward to having a drink or two to relax after a week of nothing but work and I dont deal well with drunk people when Im sober.LOL. In a sense, it's another habit that I need to break if I want to live long and prosper. Teehee.

Majestic

 

[Wicker Man]

I would LOVE to spend less time on this machine and more time getting a real life.

 

[ticklkitten]

I have a really low tolerance for ignorance and stupidity. I'd work on being more patient with people.

XOXO

I'm with steph on this one.

 

[Mimi]

I'm sort of on the same track with Kitten and Steph here. I get so easily annoyed and angered by people who are closed minded and shallow and egotistical and superficial and unaccepting of others for any reason. I literally have no patience for people who judge others for any unacceptable reason (whether it be looks, status, race, class, gender, sexual preference, creed, etc). Add to that fact my quick irish temper, and I'm usually ready to slap any number of people at any given time. I wish I could learn to not care so much what other people think, and just be grateful for those who are open-minded enough to know we're all cut from the same fabric.

Mimi

 

[featherfingers]

I would LOVE to spend less time on this machine and more time getting a real life.

I've spent so much time on this 'machine' that I've gotten worse playing music. A few days ago I went to a friend's house to play bass... the first time I've played since I bought this 'machine' seven months ago... I was totally embarrassed. I could not remember even the simplest basslines. Managing my time... that's what I need to learn how to do.

 

[Brookie]

I need to think of others more. I live alone and.... well there isn't another to consider most of the time. I think its just a bad habit built up over the years.....but I need to consider others, as well as myself, in my thinking.
I need to try harder at that.

Get a washboard (6 pack) stomach. My ego thinks I can do it and it's an achievable objective worth trying.

 

[ticklkitten]

Have more faith in what other's think is good in me

 

[R. Davis]

Make more time for myself and get my life organize.

 

[kis123]

I have a list.....

To lose more weight. I'm getting frustrated with the setbacks. You know the ones like sweets, excuses not to work out, poor lifestlye. I work in a sales environment with all the carbohydrates and stress available. I've held off the 45 lbs, but it's been slipping and I REFUSE to re-gain the weight.

To Steph and Kitten:

How on earth do you work with doctors everyday and not lose your mind??? I work in physician recruitment and they are the absolute worst to work with in my entire career!! Talk about not having patience for the stupid!!! Most of these guys (and girls/women) are the most narcissistic and nuttiest people I've ever come across. I had one tell me he was "suffering". Yeah, to the tune of over $120,000/yr with all travel and expenses paid. And did I mention the dog who travels with him too? I'm way too cynical for my own good. But I hate whining, especially when there's no supporting reasons for it! What a bunch of whack jobs!

I want to either go to grad school or find a second career I can sink my teeth into. I'm sick of making someone else rich! In 1.5 years, my daughter will be out of high school and I'll be the one trying to get her through college while her father just talks about it. I need an idea to pursue that makes sense. I really don't want to spend 30,000 on grad school if I can avoid it. But if I do go, it has to produce some real economic results. I don't want to be stuck with an advanced degree still working in the same place and making the same money. That really would piss me off!

I would like to eventually allow a man in my life. That's the hardest of all the self-improvements. I've never been good at making relationship decisions that didn't have disasterous outcomes. I wish someone could just do it for me and it actually worked. I've been around five types of men in my life-beaters, cheaters, users, abusers and plain 'ol losers!! I don't know how to pick 'em at all! I think the only person who picks worse than me is Halle Berry and we know her track record with men. At least they make their own money! So I've been in no hurry to hook up with anyone but it's getting a little cold around here if you know what I mean!

Think my goals are a tad lofty?? 🙄 🙄

 

[ticklkitten]

I have a list.....

To Steph and Kitten:

How on earth do you work with doctors everyday and not lose your mind??? :

I have a good sense of humor and it takes a lot to piss me off. It's the secret to my success.

 

[steph]

Omigosh Kis! You are f'ing AMAZING and if anyone tries to tell you anything different, just say the word and I will march on over there in my tiny stilettos and scrape their idiotic eyes out!

Moving on~Well, what an interesting question you pose...I find this ironic because I've a dear friend on this forum~I won't name names (unless she gives the ok) who is actually wanting to leave the nursing field for that reason and pursue massage therapy instead, despite the probable cut in pay.

Now me, I'm very lucky. I only have to deal with the docs if I want their opinion or need their signature to speed up a patient's application. By huge majority, 90% of my contact is patient-only!
IMHO? Take what knowledge you can from this job and quietly look for something you find more rewarding...If anyone deserves it, it's you sweet love! I mean, you do have that lifelong experience with your son, perhaps it can be parlayed into a job elsewhere???

XOXO

 

[ticklkitten]

Now me, I'm very lucky. I only have to deal with the docs if I want their opinion or need their signature to speed up a patient's application. By huge majority, 90% of my contact is patient-only!
XOXO

See.... in my job right now the only people I deal with are docs. I miss my patients! Soon enough I'll graduate...

 

[kis123]

The strange thing about all of this is, the docs actually like me! If they only knew what I thought about them 🙄 !

I'm good at my job, I'm just not finding a lot of satisfaction. You know, the more you produce, the more they want you to produce. And the bonus structure kinda' sucks. They don't mind me getting a MBA (which I find that idea repulsive) but they won't contribute 5 cents toward it. I busted my tail to get this job (remember the resume?) so I don't want to just dump it. Besides, I could build some experience and learn some skills I could take to another job someday.

I won't bellyache about this anymore. I went unemployed for over a year before I got this so it's definitely better than nothing. I just haven't been in the corporate world for many years and every day reminds me why I didn't miss it.

Now, about the "man" thing.......

 

[Drago69]

EDIT: I'm gonna go into more detail --

- My weight, as I am fat.
- Deep down inside I hate all of humanity, and myself, and wish we didn't exist or would just die off so the planet can function as it should. Gotta work on that, maybe... 'cause I supposed hatred is bad...
- I need to improve my social life, which consists of nothing.
- I'm an idiot, so I need to work on the smartness.
- Need to learn to talk about myself, and what I'm feeling, and saying what's on my mind, etc. -- I don't talk much at all about stuff, really.
- Improving on the number of girls tickled since puberty from zero, to maybe one or more.
- Somehow finally getting a job -- been turned down, or not even called at all for every job I've applied for so far.
- My diet... which kinda goes with weight, but I need to eat better stuff. Though I am already working on this, going to dietitian and stuff.
- Eyes are fugged. Also being worked on; need glasses and stuff, so going to eye specialist person soon.
- Um... I can't think of anything else right now.

 

[tickleshotel]

Well for me,there are a few things:

One: Though I have a sense of accomplishment at the end of my day working for a network of Chiropractors, I would like to improve on my own satisfaction even more knowing I am helping people through my efforts at work having been at same place for over 2 years now though I would like to improve my occupation to be with a company that does give recognition for accomplishment,hard work..

Two: Seeing my needs and wants seperately focusing on my needs primarily,then going with the flow letting my wants fit into place and from there,seeing where I would like to see myself in the next 5 years. For me,there is no clear answer as there are a few options ,doing some soul searching,meditation to find some guidance from the Lord above and listening quietly,humbly for answers ..

 

[Cosmo_ac]

change one thing? Can i look like this? 😉 Seriously though, i'd like to improve my social life. Get out, see more people, etc.

 

[giantfan121262]

Hi folks:

I am just getting to see this thread since I started it. Work had almost monopolized my time this week.

I have been reading through this and like the responses. Steph, Kis and Kitten what you say about working with doctors just confirms what I have heard. Maybe they are pissed off b/c the insurance companies are cutting into their revenues. Kis, it's great to see you here and just want to tell you again how proud I am of you for everything you have done. With me losing 55 pounnds, I am finding the hardest thing is keeping it off. It's also hard when you don't have the time to go to the gym. John, congratulations on losing 25 lbs. We'll talk soon

One thing I'd like to do about improving myself is find another job within my company that doesn't demand the hours I have been putting in lately. I am not afraid of hard work, but there is a point where it borders on ridiculous, and I have passes that point. I like my company. there are alot of good people and the money is good so I don't want to leave the company.

My work experience is dealing with real estate developers. They are pains in the ass. One was so obnoxious, that I wanted to buy an airplane ticket to Charelston SC, just so I could have the pleasure of punching this guy in the face. Also accountants, I am an accountant by trade but some just have absolutely no sense of humor.